Sir Ulrich von Lichtenstei

There is no reason for him to think i'd cheat on him because I have never cheated on him, and I don't even look at other guys and he know's it.

On top of it all - Neither of our families would be for it. I'd be looked down on like a tramp. I'd probably end up getting pregnant and not finishing college. (It all happened to an aunt of mine) He doesn't care AT ALL what his family thinks of his actions - on the other hand - I VERY MUCH DO! That bugs me too! He should at least respect other people's opinions.

That is another VERY good point!

I do not intend to move in with him, but I need him to be ok with it. He's not and I dobut he will be until he can understand what I am talking about.

I am 19, he is 18. We're just kids, but he likes to pretend he's not. For the first year of college we're both staying at home. Then i'm going to a bigger college, and so is he. They're in the same state, and probably relatively close to each other. Since day one my goal has been to live on campus, but apparently he's had other plans. His plans were that I would move in with him. We would get a two bedroom apartment and share this apartment with another couple. Each couple would share a room. He's worried that if I don't live with him that i'm going to cheat on him, and I'm pretty sure he'd probably make it as difficult as possible for me to see him if I didn't move in (which really is just a load of bs). I do not feel comfortable with trapping myself by living in a house with him before marriage - but he doesn't care that I don't want to. He gets all emotional like "omfg i can't believe you!" when I say that I think it's a bad idea. He's all "But that's what I was looking forward to!"... and since he's a spoiled brat (who gets it completely free throughout college. Rent too.) He thinks he gets it all his way and dare I speak against him! If I have a different opinion I am wrong. Don't you just hate that? What do I do?

Nothing seems to interest me anymore...

He values your past relatonship together and believes that once he's moved on from his current carrer spot (which seems like a tough one) then he'd love to be with you again. He doens't want to hurt you or himself by cutting it off all together - he probably really just needed some time apart to set his own mind straight - not a whole break off. It looks more like he can't take the stresses of having a girlfriend right now unless there's some girl out there that can bend to his exact schedule and sympathize with his problems easier, some wonder girl who he won't have any problems with. I say keep communication open for a little while until his motives become clear. I don't know about everyone else here. good luck.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 14 months now, and ever since day one we've been glued to each other at the hips. Sure, we don't mind spending a couple days apart throughout the week, but because we are each other's bestfriend we're constantly doing things together. To other people it seems like if we were to spend time apart that we'd die but neither of us mind it really. To us time apart is just used for finishing things we need to take care of (say we both have housework to do.) There are also times when other friends come into the picture. We mostly have the same friends, bu whenever something more "guyish" comes around I try to leave that time for them to go out and have fun. I've encouraged that he take a couple weekend trips with some guy friends without me, and he does the same for me. Anyway. I remember how fresh and exciting things seemed in the beginning. We had a lot in common already, many of the same hobbies. Eventually my time-consuming solitary hobbies (playing video games, building websites or drawing or just hanging out with my family) became little to none. We spent our time out doing things, watching movies, going wherever. It was loads of fun, and all new to me because I had just moved there the year before and didn't really know of anything aside from going to work, school and the gym. Time for us is going to become even more limited as the summer draws on, but that only means i'll spend more time with myself. I'll spend it working, but I will still be with myself. Thoughts like that make me sad. I don't want to be by myself because I find myself boring. If I think i'm boring, then I must be to him too!... Or maybe i'm not to him because I go along with just about all of his plans. The point of this post is that I don't feel like i'm my own person anymore. I want my own hobbies, yet i'm not interested in anything. I'd make websites and play games but 1. i make websites as a job and 2. games i play cost money a monlty subscription every month and can't really pay for something that i have to be at home on my computer to do. (my computer is faulty anyway.. another big reason i dont do art much anymore..) I want hobbies. I want to be my own self, but I don't want to draw away from him. I hope this was understandable. My thoughts are so mixed up in my head.

We had talked about the trip before and I said I can put out maybe $200 - that is if I get it for my birthday (which was just yesterday)... and no. I didnt. I got $25 which i was going to use to get lunch next week. the news this afternoon has but me in a mood. Im not happy, im not mad, im just sad. Very sad.

I told myself i'd want a guy who's experianced... but then i find one who's only been with one other girl and I got so jealous about it because /I/ wanted to be the first. Before he knew that i felt that way he told me that I really was the first because anything that happened with her was completely meaningless to him. Makes me feel slightly better but still.. I dont want to follow up behind some girl who goes around trying to get every guy to have sex with her (but they wont because shes just disgusting). He believed he hated sex until me.

Yes, AND he already knows I'm ----ed when it comes to getting the money for college. On top of that, the tickets are non-refundable (ugh!!!) He did say he'd spend all the money we needed while on the trip.

My boyfriend bought tickets for a trip in August for $465 x 2. I don't have $465 to spend on anything. I am actually -$3,800. If I work all of June (two jobs), all of July and all of August I MIGHT be able to pull it off... BUT there are problems with that. (class starts end of august) I have to give the school money in july. I need to make money for two quarters before school starts so im not trying to juggle school and insane amounts of work at the same time. June - can't work week nights for two weeks because of driving school. (that's huge) July - I CAN work August - im out of work the 4th - 6th andthen 8th - 19th on our trip. ARGH. I only make $500 a month. (im only paied once a month). - i've been stressing ovver this for months and then he does that and THEN tells me afterwards when he needs the money. edit: Oh yes. I've been job hunting for a month now at every restuarant place i can get to.

Yeah. My friend ended up getting pregnant a little while ago off of the pull-out method. Three weeks into it she knew she could NOT take care of the child financially, she did not want to be forced to be stuck with her current boyfriend (if they broke up, what then?), and then she just went to a planned parenthood place and got a medical abortion. I thought it was weird because she was so against abortions but she said if it had actually developed into a fetus (which it hadn't yet) she would have kept it and put it up for adoption. THAT is taking responsibility for your mistakes. (Oh yes she didn't have insurance so she asked her boyfriend to loan $300 (it was $600 all together and he paied it all upfront) to her, RIGHT afterwards got a job and returned him $300 in the week.)

My Dad told me once how hurtful guys can be. He told me how they can turn around and sleep with another woman and have it not mean a single thing... but that doesn't justify anything. The idea that he could so easily turn around and do that bothers me even if it really meant nothing at all, even if he still loves you. I don't really have any advice because the one guy who did that to me got left in the dust. To this day he wishes he had never screwed things up.

I see my boyfriend every day. My dad has been telling me since i first started dating (ive done this with all 3 of my past bfs.. relatonships last no less than a year - no longer than two years so far) that my obessive compuslive behavior is very unhealthy and that i need to spend time away from him. I dont mind spending time away from my boyfriend but whenever i do i just feel lonely (even if im out with girl friends). Things don't get old because we're also best friends. (though ive had some issues lately but i think i'm just being weird) Every now and then we'll have a week were we're both too busy to really do anything together so we make sure we spend time together on the weekends to make up for it.