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Thanks guys!!! Especially Lonelyinasmalltown. I love linkin park and i never knew the significance behind "In The End". Now that i listen to it.... everything applys to me... everything. As i stated at the start, everyone should take a look at AudioVent - The Energy. That song has helped me out alot too. Im not going to listen to "Since you been gone" by Kelly, not that i dont like the song, but my ex does and i know she would be listening to it. Thanks very much though! Cheers guys and gals!

Thanks guys, im definatly going to get them. Im sure they will help me on my way to healing. DropToZero TrustCompany is an awesome band! I have that CD =] Cheers for the bands too, will definatly look into them!

Thanks metalheart. I hadnt seen your reply when i posted. I will definatly listen to that song!! It will not be too aggressive for me, i love heavy metal. Thank you very much and if you have more then keep em coming

Cheers. Anything that you can just listen to, to heal. The song i was talking about was about a guy who broke up with his ex and is being all positive about it, saying things like "every now and then i think about you, its bringing me closer to closure". Those kind of songs.

Hey all, Does anyone know of some songs to just listen to that help you heal so to speak? Ive been listening to AudioVent - The Energy, its a great song that i love to listen to when i think about my ex. Does anyone else have any? Any genre will do but i prefer a bit of rock or even metal. Cheers

Well those who have been following me would be happy to hear that... after close to 5 months of constantly obsessing over my ex i am finally making progress. I do remember her, but most of the time it is no longer with a heavy heart. I think of senarios that could have happened now, but i know what she would say. I then remind myself how her response would be spot on and how i would go back to being her little puppy dog (if that makes sense). My only problem now is that i still think about her, even though its not with a heavy heart. Ive tried only thinking about her 5 mins a day but that doesnt work, little things remind me of her. Like in the shower i remember what it was like to be in the shower with her at the 4 seasons (etc etc). Has anyone been in this situation before? What should i do? Thank you

I hear laser can scar, is this true?? Also, can you tell us how much you paid for your treatment? Cheers

Yeah but.. you see the thing is my dad is HAIRY in every sense of the word. I dont mean to gross people out but not only is his legs, chest, arms and back hairy, but so are his shoulders and down his sides and stuff. Even my * * * is hairy. Do they do laser for the whole body... that would cost a fortune!

Well this is like my 10th post about my ex and we are hitting on 4 months now since we broke up. She is going to be going over to the UK later on in this year and i cant get the thought out of my head that shes going to meet up with so many guys she met on the internet. She was very pretty and for some reason she liked me. She accepted me for who i am... im a pretty hairy guy (even though im only 18 and still gettin harier) and it didnt phase her one bit. Theres alot of other things about me but she didnt care. She did accept me for who i am but we have a very emotionally abusive relationship. I keep on thinkin bout her with these uk guys and never finding anyone who will accept me for me. help me out one more time, please?

Well heres the thing... I was sleepin over me mates house on friday night, everything was fine, we are good mates. In the morning we are watchin tv, and he poked me. It was just a random act of boredom (theres many of them). So bout 20 mins later i poked him twice, again just cause i was bored. He punched me in my arm. We punch each other alot so i thought nothing of it, and then we began to wrestle like we have done often. I had him in a lock and he couldnt get out of it, he then started to slam the back of his head into mine. It hurt a bit but i just ducked my head so he didnt hit my face and it was fine. Then he told me to let go "right this * * * *in instance" so i immediately did so and asked "why, are you hurt?". He then got up and proceeded to put his knee into my head and in a very serious voice told him me not to fight him in his own house. The knee in my head really hurt, and sensing his seriousness i told him to get his knee out of my head, he didnt. I told him again to get his ****ing knee out of my head right now. He told me he wouldnt until i "settled down". I told him one last time and he didnt so i pushed his knee of my head, grabbed a smoke and walked out. I then rang my parents to come pick me up and we sat in awkward silence as my dad arived. What makes this worse is that we were scheduled to go to a party of one of my friends gf whom ive spoken to few times (we went to school together). Before my mate and i my mate (the one whos gf is having a party) said me and my mate (the one i was sleeping at) couldnt go to the party. When asked why he said she was just being a * * * * *. I thought ok. Yesterday, the day after the party, i found out that i was the only one out of about 30 of my friends that didnt go, even my mate who i had the fight with (who wasnt allowed either) went. Im feelin kind of depressed, any advice? I am definatly not initiating contact with my mate i had the fight with. Thank you

I did dream about her... and we were together I know i need to get over her... but how???? All anyone says is "time", and it just looks like that option just aint gunna work for me!

Its verging on 3 months now, and today i cant get her out of my head. I know ive posted many topics about her, but i dont think she will ever get out of my head. I keep on thinking about the "what ifs" and "if we were together nows". I dont think im ever gunna get her out of my head!!!!! I hate love

My arms are approx. 16". Yes 4000 calories a day with approx 250g of protein each day. I just never thought this would be so hard. I mean we made plans for children, marrage and everything else under the sun, she was my first. I dont want to give her time in my life, but she keeps on invading it. I will try to think bout how its not my fault but hers and not let her into my life again. I will try... Thank you again. I dont know how to ever thank the members of this ledge that bring me closer to closure each time...

Thank you both for your kind responses. This forums is so great and has helped me through many a hard time. I am glad to hear you are doing better passionate. I am very healthy conscious and know alot about body building. I am currently bulking and getting in 4000 calories a day and going to the gym 4 days a week. I find it takes my mind off things... until recently. I know it will take time, but im selfish right now and i want it to be over. I want to move on with my life. I will try hard. 1824blue i do not have a mac but i will apply the same principle. If i think of her i will do something immeditaly to take my mind off it. I wish i had some 80lb DB's i could press whenever i think of her! Thanks again

Here it is, 3 months on. And i still cant get her out of my head. What in the hell do i need to do to make the pain go away?? I mean i actually thought of sending her something for valentines day while i was at the gym. The gym is normally my sanctuary, somewhere i can go and be at peace and not have a care in the world, but she has invaded that too! I dont think ill ever get over her

I will do that then. Then i will get her out of my life!!!!!!!

No you see i could do it from my computers, i dont physically need to go anywhere. I will just have to talk to her on the computer, not face to face. I know thats not much to some of you, but... oh i dunno. who cares

hi my ex gf just messaged me on an IM client and my heart fell to the floor. she asked if she could ask a question and it fell even further. luckily it was only a computer question. then she asked me for a big favor... i said yes. she wants me to do something for her (dont have to be face to face with her) with computers (im in college for them). i said yes. i feel like the healing process has been set back like 2 months. not only did i talk to her bout 10 mins ago, but i have to talk to her in a couple of days. i didnt know where to come. i hate love

Thank you very much for your kind replies, especially you yme. I am not a pushover outside of a relationship, far from it infact. But out of love... you are quite right. I promised myself i would never let it happen again. I will keep on looking for that girl, but i guess if i do not find her i will be ready to be alone. Also merickso, thank you for that quote. I have seen it more and more since you said it, but you were the first to bring it to my attention. I will remember it and it will help me im sure. I just woke up from a little nap and i was dreaming about her the whole time Thank you again

Exactly right, gym does wonders for your self confidence. With the right diet and routine you will see results and the confidence WILL come believe me. I got 4 days a week with opposing muscle group splits. One tip i can give to you is to use heavy compound exercises and free weights.

I am sorry i cant offer much advice with the dating aspect, and i just came out of a relationship with a girl and i am still hurting bad... But a couple of other things struck me in your post. First of all, you are NOT a loser. Im sure many girls would admire and respect the fact you are still a virgin. I know if i met a girl who was your age who was i would be very impressed. Second of all, going to the gym is a great thing. I have been going for a while now and im loving every single bit of it. I know alot about nutrition and alot about how to build your body, that is what is the right way to get maximum muscle fibre stimulation. A personal trainer is a great idea. If you have any questions about anything related just give me a yell and i will be more then happy to help you out. Keep at it mate. Your not a loser by any means and you will find the girl for you.

Why?? I was her puppydog. I was too sensative. I loved holding her and cuddling her and writing her poems - taking her out to a romantic restraunt. I am not like my mates, i do not go out looking for one night stands and hook ups. Instead i seek that one girl. She treated me bad. She told me multiple times she hated me and blamed everything on me. It was my fault. She told me i was a pushover. Yet despite all this, i remember the good times. Why am i so sensative? Why am i commited to only one girl? Why do i choose to love someone unconditionally and always be by their side? Nice guys finish last. So why can i not stop thinking about her? Why is life so unfair? She met many guys online when we were going out, most of them from the UK. Shes going there in september to study abroad. Shes forgotten about me thinking that the whole relationship was my fault and shes ready to move on. She was very pretty, she gave these guys her photo. I know they cant wait to sleep with her, she probably cant wait either. I will never love again. I wont set myself up to be knocked back down again. There is no one out there for me, im just the sweet hopeless romantic. It hurts so bad

Hey all, Its heading on 3 months now since i broke up with my gf. Its been hard, and ive had different levels of emotions throughout it all. I was getting alot better, but it seems it hit a road block and i cant stop thinking about it. She told me today that she was going to study abroad in the UK in September. Now i know she met alot of guys online that live in the UK and im sure shes going there because of them, and it cant stop thinking about it. I know its stupid, but its making me sad. Help?

Thank you all for your kind words. I dont know how im going to make it through this hard time, im sure it will take a long time. I dont think i want to let another girl into my heart, i dont want to set myself up to be knocked right back down. Thanks again

What makes it worse is that im a really sensative guy. Im the kind of guy who writes romantic poems, takes girls out to restraunts and would rather have sex with them to be complete. Its hard to remember all the bad things she did to me, even though i know there was alot. Unlike her, i can only think of the good things in the relationship.