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Hey all, I broke up with my gf about 1 month ago. We needed to break up and i know that. However, now i feel so depressed because im sure no one is ever going to love me. Its so scary to think that your going to go through life alone. But a bigger problem, i keep on getting depressed because i can just imagine other guys having sex with her. I dont know why i do, but just thinking about it makes me so dammed depressed. I cant help but think of her in bed with another guy. Please help. I know this is a stupid post, but its really been getting me down as of late.

I have looked over my post twice and fail to see how you could derive such information from it. I probably do have issues that i need to fix, but how have you come to the conclusion that i am at fault for the whole relationship? And no, i am not a dominant person what so ever, infact i am the complete opposite. You were right about one thing, fights were over small, trivial things. I dont think i want a chance with her or want to be friends, it will be too hard for me. I just wanted help and support to get me through this time. I know that people will say the same thing, "give it time", "you will have the benefit of hindsight", "you will look back later on and know it was the right choice". I know these were probably the only anwsers i was going to receive, but i needed them, directed at me and not anyone else. I dunno i guess, thanks anyway

Me and my ex fought constantly, there was not a day that passed that we didnt fight. We broke up close to 10 times but always made our way back to each other. About 2 weeks ago, on our 11 month aniversery we ended it. On an online messenger program i saw her name, and i got really sad and remembered how it used to be when it was good. So i called her, told her i loved her and i wanted to try and make it work. She said it wasnt the time to discuss it and told me she had a cold. We fought again, i dont know how it happened. She told me that until i admit that i have put her through hell for 11 months, not to talk to her again. I said fine. She said that me talking to her had been a waste of her time. So i look at her name again today, and it was somethign along the lines of "its been 10 days waiting, and i made it, i didnt think i was going to but i made it (barely)." I dont know what to do. Am i ever going to get over her? I neglected my friends for 11 months for her. I went out with them maybe 4 times in 11 months. Now i dont get any phone calls anymore. Can someone take this pain away?

Thanks. It still hurts so bad though They say time heals all and in hindisight i will see that it is better off this way, but i felt like she was the one, the one who would accept me for me. It hurts so much

Cheers everyone. And no problem bout going off topic, this is just kind of a sensitive issue for me and i wanted to find out if i was normal. Other then that, feel free to start the circumsizion wars all you want. See my problem is i have nothing to compare it to. I didnt have sex when i was uncircumsized. Maybe it was that i was just too anxious, though i wasnt embarrassed at all (even though i had grown up thinking i would be). As i said, i wont be having sex for a while because my gf and i broke up, and that is a pain that i dont think is going to heal for a very long time. Thank you all once again P.S. - If its any consilation - i think it looks better with the hood off

Well glad to see everyone turned my thread into a circumsized vs uncircumsized and hardly anyone addressed my main question. Cheers though to rayana and newt

Seems people have got me wrong. I had a medical condition called phimosis, she in no way, shape or form pushed me into doing anything. Infact, she didnt want me to go torugh with it. If i would have had sex with my condition, it would have ripped and caused me alot of pain. I hope i need to get used to it, i mean even if uncircumsied guys have more feeling then circumsized, it all feels good dont it? Hell yeah it does. I hope i can get used to it.

Yeah well why not just throw everything out there, nothing to be ashamed of. until about 6 months ago i was not circumsized. I hadnt had any sexual contact (oral, sex etc) and was doing just fine "by myself". Its then i met my now ex gf, and after talking to her about it (she was shocked) i found out that it isnt natural for your foreskin not to retract over the head. Now this with knowledge, i went and saw my doctor, who reffered me to a surgeon. About 3 weeks later, i was circumsized (im 16 now turning 17 in a few months). We didnt end up having sex until about 3 or so weeks ago, but i was surpised to find it didnt do that much for me :s My head is WAY too sensitive these days and her grabbing of me (which im sure is normal for most people) really hurt. When i stuck it in her, it felt very warm. Other then that, i didnt feel too much. I didnt feel much when she gave me head either, and i wanted to cum so bad incase she was starting to think she couldnt do it for me - but i didnt. I think that this circumcision has done something and i dont know what. Is this natural? I want to enjoy sex so much like every other normal guy. Whats wrong with me?

She has said some very hurtful things when she was mad, but blamed me because im the one who got her there in the first place. Ive felt like such a cat this whole relationship. I guess i just need reassurance that fighting every day and being upset and depressed alot is a reason not to be with someone, no matter how bad you feel for them.

I wish i was tougher, shes told me (jokingly) that im a push over. Even scince then i decided to harden up, but i could never do it. She had deleted me from her phone, from her IM and from her life. She says she never wants me to call her again. I just feel so bad, shes sitting there crying right now. I know i should be caring about me, but i cant. Infact, with her, whenever i care about me i get in trouble for not caring about her. Im making her out to be a total btch, and really shes not. She can be so loving at times, but she can also say very hateful things. I need to heal myself, but i think she was the one. I never want to love again.

My gf and i have been going on and off for the past 11 months. It was not unusual for us to fight every day and we both ended up getting sick of it. I didnt feel it was always my fault, but she didnt seem to think one bit of it was hers. It was ALWAYS my fault. So a couple of days ago we got into another fight, and she told me she was leaving me for good. She told me she hoped i felt rotten and bad inside, and told me i was a bad person. So a couple of days went by, and i thought i could make it through. I know with her its either we are together, or we are not, theres no friends. I occupied myself by going to the gym, going out with some mates and playing games. But she caught me on msn, and things went down from there. I didnt know what i wanted to do, i knew we couldnt last forever fighting like we did. So we started talking. Today we started talking again, and i didnt reply for 30 or so seconds (on MSN Messenger) and she, i guess, too offense to it. I asked her what she would like me to say and she said nothing and went offline. Then she came back and insinuated i wasnt paying attention to her, and that she was going to bed. I got angry and said that even after we have broken up, she still makes me feel bad for things. Anyway she rang me, and told me how i am the worst person she ever met and she cant believe she ever loved me. At that comment, i got really mad and yelled at her and said if she just called me up to tell me that then to piss off. She started crying and the guilt flew threw me. I hate it when she cries, even though she doesnt really care when i do it. I feel like the worst person on earth and i hate myself. I sit here and i cry because i feel so bad. I dont know what to do. She said she never wants to speak to me again, but when she does i gte in trouble for not running back to her. Help me, please. I dont know what to do, i feel so bad and so guilty. I feel so depressed, i thought i could do this until she got in contact with me, now i dont know if i can. I think about her crying and i drop to my knees. I was one of those guys who said he would never make a woman cry and treat them with so much respect. What have i turned into if i have? Help me please