byates5637

I just got back together with my ex after about 2 months apart. We are moving in together now.

I miss you like crazy baby and breaking up with you was one of the dumbest things I've ever done. I know you need time to figure yourself out, but do you see us being together again in the future? (Damn I want to call and ask this. It's killing me)

I posted here a bunch about an ex girlfriend 3-4 years ago. We dated for 2 years before finally splitting. Basically I dumped her and quickly realized I made a mistake but she was already over it. I was devastated but after a few months of NC she came around and we got back together. I don't think I ever posted about the reconciliation because as others have said...there is no reason to post when everything is going good. Anyway things started off great with us but slowly deteriorated until she finally left me about 6 months later. After this breakup there was some more NC and a few short lived tried at rekindling before we finally called it quits for good. I moved on and am now hung up on a new exgirlfriend that I just broke up with. Haven't talked to the ex in about 2.5 years. So in summary, I think reconciliation happens very, very often, but it is much more rare that it is actually successful long-term the 2nd (or 3rd) time around.

Not sure why a women would think she could give advice about this... But if you try to "slap it over the top" right as your about to cum it really diminishes the quality of your orgasm.....

Good idea. I keep an all time distance record. I mark it with a clear stain.

picsite, you have got it all wrong. Your semen doesn't go directly into the tissue. First it gets sprayed into th air and it falls where it may. If it was a very good orgasm it may be on the wall or your chest. If it was just average it will be one your stomach, legs, hands, and penis. Then you wipe off with the kleenex. Dont worry about getting some jizz on yourself man, it will be OK.

Yea good idea. I thought alcohol was supposed to make girls horny though

Normally i lose my erection and my desire. I like to cuddle afterward though...which i think may be uncommon for a guy. I have taken viagra before, and when i did i could keep my erection for several sessions in a row

yea....that is what i am thinking too. It's a shame because i would do anything for this girl...but if she won't even try to sexually please me...there is no point.

I do love her for who she is....very much so. She just has excuses for everything and when it comes down to it....she just never wants to do anything sexual. The other day when we did actually have sex, she tried to put me in her right away...i said hold a minute, what about some foreplay? She said she doesn't like foreplay. I love this girl dearly, but it is becoming more clear that our sex life is terrible and she has no motivation to change it or to please me. Perhaps she knows i love her too much, so she doesnt feel like she even has to please me because i will love her anyway. If things don't improve in the next couple days i am leaving her.

Because isn't that what couples do at the end of a long fun night out? They go back to one or the others house and have sex, then fall asleep cuddling? Right? At least that is the way i think a relationship works, and the way it has worked in the past for me.

Yea thats another part of the story i left out. She won't give me blowjobs. She has TMJ ( some minor jaw problem) and says it hurts to give me blowjobs too. She wont even freakin lick it. She has alot of sexual hang ups. She did give me a handjob though.

Yea good points. My post is so filled with stuff about sex because that is the problem area in our relationship. Everything else is really great, until i try to get sexual.

Me and my ex got back together a few weeks ago. My story is in other posts on this forum. Basically we dated for 2.5 years, she left me (it wasn't a bad break, she just wasn;t sure what she wanted) and i did NC. We were split up for about 8 months, i ignored all her atempts to contact me. Meanwhile she moved 800 miles away for school. She came home on thanksgiving and tried to hard to contact me that i gave in. We hung out alot as friends while she was home. Then she went back to school and started calling me ALL the time. We would talk for about 2 hours a day. Things kept escalating until we got back together. about 5 days ago she came home for christmas. First day home she spends with me and we have a wonderful time as a couple. We come back to my house from the bar late at night and i thought we would have great sex, but she was tired so she just took all her clothes off and went right to sleep. In the morning i tried to have sex with her again but she felt sick and said she didnt want to. I was very sexually frustrated ( no sex in almost a year for me) so somehow this escalated into a fight. So 2nd day together and we fight. She leaves and we talk that night. She apologizes and we make up. Next day she comes over and we do finnally have sex. She seemed to like it alot, and afterwards she cried (not sure about this, she has cried a few times before after sex) We then go out shopping and everything seems good. Then we split ways and each go home. Next day we meet up and goto the bar. She is being really nice and so am I. We are buying eachother drinks and telling each other sweet things all night. She talks about how she is horny. So we get back to my house and i try to have sex but again she says she is to tired! I Talked her into haveing sex but she said it hurt way to bad so i had to stop after like 2 minutes. I went to sleep still hard, holding her in my arms. So we wake up this morning and i try to have sex with her again. She says no again! I talk her into it again and as soon as we start she says it hurts way to bad and makes me stop. She then started being REALLY B*TCHY. So we get into another big fight! We ended up getting over it and laying around for an hour or two cuddling. Then she went home. I tried calling her today twice and it seems like she just doesn't really want to talk to me. She said she will call me later tonight...I hope she does. I am so worried this fighting is going to tear us apart. Why would it hurt her soo much to have sex with me? It never did before, and my penis is not to big, 7 in long and average girth. We use Lube too! I am worried I got a little to forceful when she said no, just because i have so much biult up sexual frustration and i feel like she keeps saying no. What can i do to make our sex better? Why does she keep turning me down when i try to have sex, but when we can't have sex she always talks about wanting it? Should i be understanding about our lack of sex, or is this a red flag that we are not meant to be? I love her so much and i am just so worried to lose her again.

Just a little update for all you jelous people who doubted me.... We are now back together officially and she is more in love with me then i can ever remember. She calls me all day long just to tell me she misses me or wished she was with me or whatever cute thing she wants to tell me. The only problem we have is that she wants me to give her more attention then i am able to.

I didn't read the story, i'm just replying based on the title. My love came back about 8 months after she left me. I did 5 months of NC before I let her back into my life. Now she wants more attention from me then i can offer. It is crazy, like the situation reversed itself all of a sudden. Good luck to you, but don't count on your ex coming back because they ussually don't.

Hey man, I didn't get to read the whole story, but the part i read was very well written and something i can relate to on a very deep level. Here are some things i hope you will realize soon if you don't already... 1. You did not waste any time dating this girl. You learned many very valuable things about relationships and yourself. You learned how deeply you can care about something in your life, a trait that is very useful in life. 2. You will never completely detach from this girl. But in time you will start to care less and less. Eventually you will meet a new girl who knocks you off your feet, and you will view your ex as an old best friend who you sometimes miss. Not as a goddess or the answer to all your life's problems.. 3. If your anything like me, the older you get the more jaded you will become. Why? Because life is not the happy fairytale we were taught about as kids. The older you get the more you see the cold brutalilty of human existence. But you have to realize that you live for the good times squeezed inside the depravity. 4. When you fall in love again it will make all this pain you feel worth it.

thank The_Hierophant You made my day. That's what i was thinking too! annie - yea i think the distance may benefit us too. It will keep things fresh between us. Plus i have an excuse to take vacations to atlanta(where she lives) and i won't even need a hotel room My health is pretty good. I work out 3x a week and eat a good diet. On the downside i can't quit smoking cigs and i sometimes drink too much on the weekend, but i figure i will outgrow this when i'm out of college. Why do you ask?

Thanks annie, i know you're just being thoughtful and i'm trying to not take it in the wrong way. I'm glad you remember me. She did hurt me alot in the past, but part of that hurt came from me being emotionally weak, not from some terrible thing she did to me. I have hurt her in the past alot too. During our relationship a broke up with her a couple times because i was not sure if she was what i wanted. She then did the same thing to me a couple times. I think she had trouble trusting me and she wanted to see what independance was like (she also moved from her parents house 800 miles away around the time she broke up with me. She had some soul searching to do). Now we are both older wiser, and more mature. We are both still in love with each other, and neither of us has found a partner that could even begin to compare to each other. I really think we are both going to try and make this work. I know she can break my heart again, but i don't think she will. The only thing i am really worried about is the 800 miles between us right now. We will only see each other on holidays and the summer for the next 2 years.

Well then how should i handle things? I think i am handling everything fine. And she is not searching for anyone else. She is totally into me and only me, i know this 100% I talked to her about the relationship 3 days ago and she said the she just wanted to be totally sure this is what she wants before we get back together. Since then she has started acting like my gf and i feel it is only a matter of time until we are officially together again. I think we should take it slow anyway. It's best to build a strong friendship and make sure we are both still compatible before resuming a relationship, right? I was so happy about how everything was going with us until i came here and posted. I am surprised at how negative everyone is being. I don't know if i will be coming back here much anymore.

Oh my god, he was masterbating 3 or more times per week?!?! I would get him to the hospital or exorcist right away.

I know i could potentially get hurt, but everything feels so good right now. Why can't you all just be happy for me? Why do you think she is "unstable"? I think she is fine, she just was confused for a while. The rest of my life is going very well. I am transferring into a good school, i have a good job, i workout 3x a week. I have alot of friends. I won 100$ last night Thanks for asking

yea good advice man, thats what i am trying to do. I never imagined she would want to talk to me more often then i wanted to. She called me twice before 10AM today, and then at 11:30 she sent me a myspace message telling me all these things she is considering getting me for christmas. I didn't reply. Then she sent me a text message at 12:15. I will probly just wait until tonight to talk to her. How often should i be talking to her at this stage in our relationship? I would like to talk to her all the time but i want to keep her interest - hold something back.

Me and my girl dated for about 2.5 years. She broke up with me about 9 months ago because she wasn't sure what she wanted and she had never really been with any guys besides me. I took it very hard. I asked her to get back together a few times and she always firmly said no. She said we would never be together again, she was over me. She loved me but was no longer in love with me. I tried being friends but i thought she sent alot of mixed signals so i ended up doing about 5-6 months of NC. I ignored her calls and attempts to meet up. About 4 months ago she moved 800 miles away for school. I started hearing from my friends that she was calling around asking about me and such. I found out she was stalking my myspace account, checking it frequently. Last month we ended up talking on myspace. She said she was coming home for thanksgiving and really wanted to see me. I agreed, thinking i was going to be heartbroken again, but willing to take the chance. So the week she came home she called me every day. We spent a few days together and she even slept over one night(no sex). I thought she was really into me, but then again she sent mixed signals in the past so i wasn't totally sure. I told her i missed her and still had feelings and i wanted her back. She said she just wanted to be friends blah blah blah. We ended up kissing and she left for her long drive home. She called me several times that night just to talk, and i had a feeling things were starting to change. Over the next several days she called me more and more just to talk. 2 days ago she started calling me cute and hunny and talking about how she cant wait to see me at christmas. It is now at the point where she calls me ALL THE TIME. I mean she calls me to say goodmorning and calls me about once ever hour or two for the ENTIRE day. It is so crazy. All of a sudden it's like a dam broke, and unimaginable amounts of love are flowing through her and pouring onto me. I can't freaking believe this is happening. We are in love again! and it feels better then ever! Now i just need to figure out how i can deal with the 800 miles that separate us. I have never had a LDR before.

Haha good advice iamteddybear. I'm not always the best with words, i will say that next time. I love her to death and she has been calling me every day since she has been home. I havn't been able to see her yet because i have been very busy. We will see each other tomorow and i am very nervous I hope it goes well. Thanks again.