Kwothe28

You are not obligated to be his driver. He can indeed take a bus or an Uber if he likes it. He and you both need to understand that you are doing him a favor. And that he is not a kid to be driven and has to take other means of transportation if available.

I dont think its that weird, I think you have a classic case of "overbearing parent". Some parents are like that and they treat you as a little kid that doesnt know what is good for you. Cure for that sadly doesnt exist. Aside of you just leading your life as you want, or in your case just wear what you want to wear since you are a 25 year old woman.

Sadly, there is a growing trend in younger generation where the mere act of even answering the phone creates them anxiety. So it goes like this: Answering a phone- anxiety Answering a text message- controlled environment where you can have time to answer whenever you want and do it under your conditions Lots of younger people thinks in that way. And technology evolved to the point where that kind of a communication is a norm. Even jobs arent based on phone calls that much, but on emails and group chats. You can send docs, videos etc in that way too. So for younger people that is a preffered form of communication. That is why I said that we are all old and bunch of boomers. And that we are not in tune for stuff like that lol

I would file it under basic incompatibility. You seem to be "cinephile" and he just doesnt enjoy movies in that way. Same with stuff like sharing a home with parents or traveling. If you want somebody who is not like that, you should skip all this because it leads to nothing. OK, mybe you just want fun. But then all this stuff you mentioned doesnt matter.

I dont understand did you split or not? Its probably "Google translate" to English language from your native one, which is OK, but its confusing for people. Anyway, if he trimmed his "member" and you caught him messaging other women, yes, he is probably at least hoping he would get sex if not doing it already.

The fact that age difference is weird aside, are you really surprised some 40 year old wants the attention of 20 year old?Be happy that he didnt want this to go further then just kissing.

Bro literally used "I tried to replace you and cheat on you because you bad" and you took him back lol After some point we cant blame other people for treating us bad. But should blame ourselves for allowing that kind of behavior. For example you had an option to leave. And you stayed with somebody who thinks so low of you that he deflected his cheating and turned it out on you. And you still took him back. Do you have low self- esteem? You do know that weed junkies that would cheat on you arent exactly a prized partner and that you can probably go out of the house and find somebody better then that at first street corner you look?

You literally never asked her out in a means that you have a time and place. Even though she literally almost flashed the sign that says "I am interested". Just ask her out properly lol

I dont think that him trying to escalate a situation a bit means he isnt going to be a gentleman. Its perfectly fine to put on a compliment or to even try physical contact without any "heavy stuff" like kissing or innapropriate touching. That is the problem with lots of people here. They see the situations ONLY from their own perspective. Which is fine but not everybody is you. Older people(sorry to characterize you like that, mean more in a term of people who are not "in tune" with current things, I think the same about me too for some stuff if its any consolation) rarely understand that being labeled "dating site" means next to nothing to some people today. And that they use it as a social network and not for dating. Just because you get a date from a dating site doesnt mean anything today sadly. Especially with multidating and in a culture where something called "Foodie calls" exists and is even celebrated in a media. Or do I need to link the story again about a woman who had 6 dates a week so she wouldnt pay for her meals? In hindsight that woman is I think a millionaire now so take it as you will lol That being said, I dont think OP is "being taken for a ride" here. Heck, by some indications, she trully does like him. Nore do I think its bad for him to take the time to get to know her first. Just that at some point this needs to differentiate from just two people going out and talking to, to a romantic relationship. And it may happen at their own pace which would be ideal. Just dont see harm in him being a bit more assertive. Those are all a fairly good signs. So, carry on. Did you asked for next date yet?

Have you thought that the guy who was basically leeching on you for years maybe would take offense at the notion of him doing his fair share even when he has the money? You cant expect people to change their core beliefs. If he was fine being a leech, he wouldnt really be fine about him picking up a slack. Those are some core beliefs that come from family. He, for example, probably got by with family money as they coddled him. He is not used to taking care of people or even picking up a slack. Sorry, but you will never get that from that kind of a person. Which says a lot about him and his character.

You live in a country that consider "Afro puffs" in a Nintendo video game "cultural appropriation" if you are not African American. And where people wanted to dox the woman who did it, and even told her to "kys" or even threatened to kill her dog. You really shouldnt be surprised about pressumably bunch of snowlakes throwing a fit at you for asking sensitive questions lol. Online is not the right way to do stuff like that. Because, as you can see, some snowflake will always get offended even at the honest question about experience of people. If you want to do stuff like that, you should do it in person. There are a lot of people or even groups who would be happy to share their experience with you. Without Reddit(or whatever you used) snowflake mods bussybodies censoring you for just asking the questions.

OK but did you, I dunno, got any signs that she is into you in that way? Did you compliment her? Has she complimented back? Stuff like that. Dont get me wrong, I think you are doing OK. Just that things should escalate as the time goes on. And that you just taking her out and talking is good but that is what you do with friends as well. With romantic partners there should be a different dynamic. For example what was wrong with you trying to stretch your arm in movies? Perhaps she was comfortable enough with you doing that and would tell you some stuff for later.

That doesnt need to be her. When and if she hires another Social Media Manager, you can tranfer it to them. I got one from another Social Media Manager when I started to manage one page. In the future, for things like that, you should open it for the business. Meaning that you should have made an email and open it for her. Also not that out of the ordinary, lots of bussineses dont have some pages and require you to open them for them. It makes your job easier when stuff like this happens. But again, its not a problem if you did it with your Facebook account. Just makes it more complicated when you are no longer there and need to transfer admin right to somebody else.

It depends. Lots of those men are chasing physical so you denying them would dether them from pursuing further. Which is not a bad thing "per se" if they are just chasing that. On the other hand, are you giving all those men enough signs that you are into them? Kisses are not the only thing that expresses intimacy. For example do they try to hug you, put their hand around you in movies, touch you not in appropriate way? Heck, do you even at least compliment them? Rarely who would chase you without any signs that you are at least into them.

Oof. Sorry to hear that. Could be that he was just after sex then.

I think that anything is possible. Its possible that he just wanted sex. But he didnt "ghosted" and actually checked on you so its also possible that he doesnt view it as "one and done". You can always try to schedule a date and see what he says.

I dunno Invocana, we dont have that here. But Ozempic is widely known. And also used by non- diabetic people to lose weight. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/22/well/ozempic-diabetes-weight-loss.html From what Ive known its OK medicine. But just misused a lot. Also, if you maybe dont want to take medicine, did you thought about insulin shots? Maybe in your country its expensive(dunno about Canadian healthcare but heard bad stuff) but would maybe save a liver a bit more then taking medications. Once you start taking medications you need to do it whole life I think.

She wants you to drive 40 minutes to clean for her for 7.50 US dollars? Again, you do know that you are losing money with that deal?

Something I discovered is that its far better to be doing something else that is more profitable then to be doing remedial jobs where you would spent most of that money traveling or even paying for some other stuff like food(if the job is more hours and need to buy meal). For example you need to drive 40 minutes(considering you also need to go back home). That means you have to pay to have gas for that trips. You are literally losing money with that deal if she pays you only 7.50$ for a trip there.

Wut? Also, narcissists are looking for worshipers, not relationships or even friends. If he has contacted you he misses you chasing him. He certanly doesnt miss you as a person. Dont fall for that and block him everywhere.

Unless its something really gross I dont think he would care. Heck I dont think he would even notice since you would be pressumably in a swimming suit so his look would probably be elsewhere lol Go enjoy baths.

I actually have a friend that has that kind of a relationship. His girlfriend is really ankward. For example we were at his brother wedding and she didnt want to even take a picture. Mind you, here brother/sister of a groom is also an important figure during weddings and has their own obligations as far as local customs go. So she seem really rude by not even wanting to have a picture with anybody. They date for years and live together for 3 years now. So she is also part of the family and is accepted by his parents as such. They solve that by just not attending together when she doesnt want to. Which is most of the times for her. She enjoys smaller gatherings and when she is at her home. While he goes socilizing with his friends. When they are at home they get along between themselves. I would suggest to you too. You are not obligated to go with him. You can stay home or organize something on your own if you are annoyed by his company. Telling him to leave is "nagging wife" routine that you should avoid.

When? You do know the thread of the topic is mandatory tipping culture Americans like you have and support? You do know there is a difference between that and charity work or giving funds to charity? Delivery work is not charity. In fact, during Corona it was one of the works that thrived because of the whole situation. I called mandatory tipping culture insanity. Which it is according to many even here as it seems. Again, go protest and demand owners to pay proper wages. And if the delivery does good job, then put in some tip. Mandatory 15-20% for just doing its job is insanity.

Exactly. It was your risk to have a casual sex with somebody who maybe just wanted that. If it went awry, it would also be a part of that risk. Dont really think others disagree with that. At least I am not. But again, I did said about how I think nobody does thinks that, if he did indeed "ghosted" her, he would be in the right and do good. And that ofcourse it would be way better if he was honest from the start or honest after that. I mean I am sometimes "literal" and harsher in my wording, but trully dont think "ghosting" is OK and that she somehow deserved it. Its just that, it was her who took the risk of that might happen after she invited him to her place and had sex. Without him(as far as we know) ever indicating that he wants more. Again, I would maybe have different opinion if OP clarified situation more and that it turns out that he promised her a relationship or something. Most she said is that she said to him that she wants a relationship. Which again is a classic case of OPs on Forum and thinking how just because they said they are not looking for a hookup, other person isnt looking for it either. And its sad that it happens. But that is why I am advocating for not taking so much risks with people who you dont really know. Because things like this happen a lot. Especially in a todays hookup culture.

I dont think anybody argues that she doesnt have the right to feel dissapointed. Nore that what he did was a particullarly good thing. Just that she engaged in a casual sex activity and involved emotions into it. Which is a recipe for a disaster by itself.