Kwothe28

Ah, OK. But again, that is just a bad partner overall. And somebody that you shouldnt be in general. Just dont be with somebody like that. Now or in the future.

Eh, everyone would forgot about it by next week. Maybe they even already forgot. Probably watched new Tik Tok trend or something and already dont even know what happened yesterday lol Its often to teenagers that over exaggerate what happens. Your reputation isnt “ruined”. You probably dont have that high reputation in the first place to be ruined. Most of people just dont care too much unless you are somebody of the importance. Which, I am sorry, you dont seem to be. You do have a bad friend that you shouldnt hang out with. Also, I am sorry, but asking him to do that sounds like a sexual innuendo. Please avoid that with people.

But again, that could be because she really isnt that interested. Just because she doesnt care or makes an effort doesnt mean its narcissistic personality disorder. It just can be that she is a bad partner. For example what sticks out to me from original message is that you see each other every weekend. Which is not unusual, but it seems more like convenience when after a year you just see casually on the weekends. No plans for future, not mentioning children(maybe you both or one of you has one, you didnt mention) nore anything. It just seems to me that she is more interested into having somebody then into actually being with somebody.

Are we talking “micro penis” size or just “I am not porn star big” size? Because if you are not the first, dont think you should worry that much. Average vaginal depth is like 9cm(3.6 inches in Murican silly units). Bigger and wider should be better for sure, but you should be fine as long as you are at least average Asian guy big lol Second thing is, real life is not “Sex and the City” episode. Nore is it a porn script. People, especially women, are more inclined to emotional connect and not just physical one. Even if you are that small, I doubt she would leave because of it. That is more your fear than anything else.

It depends. Sadly, lots of people just are selfish and egotistical. Doesnt mean they have a narcissistic personality disorder. For example, does she have illusions of grandeur? Meaning does she give herself too much importance? Does she have a sense of entitlement over others? Does she have a need for admiration or manipulative behavior? Does she have empathy at all? Those are all very important signs of spotting a narcissist.

By being your childhood friend and taking you to prom? I would say its just a friends situation. There is a distinct difference between a date and a friends going out for coffee, or in your case ice cream. Your childhood friend is by that distinction, just a friend. I dont see how him taking you to prom changes things. Especially when you reached out to him for that, not him to you. As far as I know, other than American teen romance comedies, there is no correlation between asking somebody to prom and being romantic. Aside of some people already being a couple. Which you are not, he is your childhood friend. FRIEND.

I am sorry, but you would have to balance your life better. Meaning that if you need work for studying, then you would have to persist at the expanse of something else like social life. If you dont need work, then you could maybe cut off some hours or leave so you could maybe lead some social life. Otherwise, you would experience burnout(or shall I say you already do experience it) because, well, human body and mind needs at least some satisfaction. For example I have a buddy who has a family and works almost all day. But he takes pride in material things he obtains(he is on his way to buy 4th apartment). You dont have that. With your school obligations, you go to work and dont have an outlet where you can say “Yeah, you know, me doing that 2 days a week is worth it”. For example, maybe buying something for yourself or making time in a week to go out with friends would make that satisfaction.

Let me guess: you "dated down". Meaning that you accepted somebody way under your standards of beauty(not pretty face, possibly overweight) because you havent had a relationship. And now you are wondering why there is no physical attraction there. Well, its because it was never there in a first place. Far that physical is everything and all. But you cant disregard it completely when it comes to dating. Because at the end of the day, you need at least something to excite you. I would maybe think differently if you are seeking 10/10 supermodels. But you are not superficial if you want your D to at least go up in bed. There are people who are attracted to something other then physical. You are not one of them. And that is also OK. Dont "date down" next time.

Your ex wants to badmouth you to your fiance. That is why she wants to meet her alone. I wouldnt allow that. If she wants to meet her, then she could do it over the coffee but only when you are there.

If you bought that, I have a large case of good Yugoslavian wine to sell you lol He wants to fool around without his girlfriend. Ask yourself one thing: Do you really think she would be fine with him dancing closely with some other woman? Or she would dig his eyes with the spoon if she knew he did that? He disclosed because you would probably found out from the social group. Not because he is so honest and truthful. Dont be fooled with that. I think its good that you do meetup with different people. But as far as this is going, avoid that guy in future meetups as much as you can.

Love is a mutual feeling of appreciation and respect 2 people have for each other. What you have is not love, it’s infatuation. With somebody who is leading double life, lies to you and then deflects by blaming you. That is not love. That is just toxic infatuation you have for somebody who lies to you for years. And that is on you. Its you who accept somebody very bad for you and even claim how “you love him”. And its you who needs to see that, cuts contact, works on herself and say she deserves more then some lier and cheater, and move on from this whole situation.

Well. apparently you would. I dont think you are a homewrecker. However I do think you make a bad choices regarding men. There was no reason to talk to his ex directly in any capacity. However, there was a reason not to date that man at all. He was living with his ex and the mother of his kids. What about that screams "dating prospect" to you?

Yes, yes, join the dark side!!!! Joking lol. There are all kinds of it. Good and bad. I was bad with matches but had luck regarding dates. They didnt went anywhere too meaningful but havent encountered crazies. They were OK I guess. One I had on FB even married last year I think. Saw pics of it. Anyway, you travel a lot or are you bound to Miami? Because from what Ive heard about Miami(or even California since you mentioned some woman from there) it isn’t exactly good dating market for men. So, no wonder your dates and experiences are that awful. For example Ive heard all those women who go to those podcasts and say all kinds of dumb and entitled things, are “Miami woman” type. “How much you earn and are you 666 man” type of women.

Yeah, welcome to 30s lol Priorities change. You cant expect somebody with a husband and a small kid to be available that much. In 20s its different because you may or may not have job and a family so you have more time to go out and see friends. In 30s, its way different. You are expected to found a job and have a career, you maybe find your SO and even have kids. There is no time to see your friends that much. Lots of mine havent settle down completely yet so I still see them. The once that did settle down? You are lucky to see them once a year. So, get used to it and find somebody else to hang out with.

The correct answer is "No, but would you like me to?". It usually confuses them. Also they are teasing/making fun of you.

Learn to use "comma" properly because reading this was painful. Anyway, he doesnt "hold" you. You are holding yourself with somebody who clearly is fine with "status quo" and doesnt care if he gets married or has kids. And you clearly do. So yes, its time to leave.

Wife asked the husband was he at the club. He said that he was at friends house. She asked 10 of his friends. 9 of them confirmed he was at their house and 1 of them is claiming he is still there. Anyway, you wont get to anything by being a detective. You have enough evidence to know something isnt right. There is no need to interrogate people about it. Nobody hates your boyfriend to set him up or something like that. He enjoys clubbing and as it happens drinking and seducing somebody else girlfriend. That is on him. "Gaslighting" is deliberately making you crazy. For example, here on Forum we had a woman whos boyfriend hid the stuff around home from her so she couldnt find it even though she was sure she put the stuff at the right place. That is gaslighting. Your boyfriend is just lying to you. So he could cover his adulterous path.

If 2 failed marriages havent been a clue at the beginning, then yes, her mother and her own bad education of the daughters certainly is. Next time when you hear something like this from your date Run. Because its also a reflection of them as well.

Depending on a context, maybe. Lots of people today are too serious with the media they consume. They think every protagonist is supposed to be a role model without flaws and that every situation needs to be teachable. While in reality, its not like that. lots of characters, villains and even heroes are not good people. Nore everything they do needs a teachable moments where somebody would tell the audience how that is bad. Sometimes they do bad stuff. Sometimes violence is funny. Media is suppose to be escapism. People who you kill in a video game are not real people. You can be emotionally connected to them or not depending on a context, but yes, its still fiction and the form of escapism. Somebody who plays Call of Duty isnt going to shoot people because he does it in game. No matter how much boomers tell you that. That being said, I would be way more concerned about him witnessing a suicide and feeling nothing. That shows that he truly is desensitized to any form of emotions and that he truly lacks empathy for even big stuff like that.

I need to ask: Are you sure the ring is for you? And not something he bought way before for some other woman he dated before? Also, I dont think its that weird. Depending on age, you dont need too long dating. If you already live together and its going fine, he may think that its enough to tie the knot in the future. Especially when you both plan to settle down.

Yeah, I dont think he cares much anyway.

How would we know that? I think its OK to want to know how does he defines your relationship and to ask him. If he says that you are in a relationship and that he wants to be, good. If he starts to squirm and says how he wants to be casual or some phrase like “lets see what will happen”, that means that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you and that he just wants somebody to go out and maybe have sex every once in while. Dont think he would take you on so many dates already and keep contact if he just wants casual. But you never know these days and it shouldnt be a problem for you to ask for his intentions.

With the gay guy? Oh I am sorry, maybe he is just bi with enjoying having his bottom roasted by plastic man thing lol There is no future there. Except if you want to pretend your whole life your SO isnt really attracted to men. Which he clearly is when he had you pretend that you are one in roleplay to rail him from behind.

Yeah, no narcisoid would write this. Reason is very simple: Narcisoid doesnt worry about stuff like that because in their head you exist to worship them. So they wouldnt bother with messaging you at all. Nore would worry to lose any self- respect about themselves. They are perfect in their heads so they wouldnt allow to even think about such thing as to lose their mind over somebody. To true narcisoid you are their puppet. Its you who should chase them. This is just desperate attempt from some guy that you dont even know. Not every person who doesnt give you the time of the day is narcisoid. Especially the one that would beg you to contact him after. Lots of people are self- absorbed and want your attention. But not every one of them has narcisoid personality disorder. God forbid if that was the case. True pathological cases of narcissism are very rare.

I dont understand? You met somebody on an app, never saw each other and after a week of talk you were exclusive? Or did you meet in meantime? I dont mind that you and her dont talk to other prospects, but you never even saw her. Dont you think you are rushing things?