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please make the first move!!!!!! the girl will be waiting for it, and she was motioning u towards her as a sign she wants it, but id say just said that to reassure u she wudnt kiss u if u werent ready, but do it, ull both be so pleased. I think u shud while hugging her maybe kiss her on the cheek as u do it, then gradualli get to the lips, cos a cheek peck is still friendli and if u do i when your hugging its more intimate. Girls definateli want guys to make the first move, but take it slowly, and make a bit of a joke out of it like say 'gee u've got a hott 'backside' ' ! take it kool and itll be fine!!!!goodluck!!!!!

haha no probs!! i think its interesting how our minds work lol! haha 'not so many words as 'get lost' ' lol, i'd like to know that phrase!!!! im so glad he asked you how you'd been, and at least sorta admited by it he'd caused u to get upset. yeh spose the hug was a spur of the moment emotion rush thing, hopefully it showed him how emotional you felt cos of what he'd done, stick to ur guns, and keep rehearsing! or not caring rather

yep im a chic and im like that too, so dont feel alone. my problem by the way is obsessive compulsive thoughts, i think about thinks i dont want to, yet i make myself think about them...does that mean i want to think about them?!?!?! better not, or im truly weird, i think its just part of human character to let our minds explore everything. your not losing your mind, but i think u need to do what i do which is 'block the thoughts'. For example in situations when i want to focus on being a normal teenager, ** all situations u can think of, i just dont want to say em lol, i get these horrible thoughts threw me head, that wud suggest im abnormal, these make me think i actualli am abnormal, but i discussed it with ppl and they link it back to situations like yours, where ur minds just over active, and u cant get a grip. You need to look at strategies to prevent the thoughts and memories from cropping up whenever u look at things which vagueli remind u, and think 'no this is not the time for that' or 'this is unrelated...go away stupid thought' i still need to better my situation and i know its not as easi as it sounds, but you will get threw it! i hope this reply has been of reassurance at least

let her come chasing you i think. i want this guy but i have awful feelings that more confident girls will win him over. the thing is, if someone lets that happen to them, you dont want to be going out with them anyway. make yourself noticed to her, which u have done, and just chill for a while, even if she doesnt know your everyday move etc and has to ask, she will ask i promise you, one day. See how it goes and just let ur life go on normally, so you dont feel totally into the whole thing which makes u feel jealous of other guys. girls run after guys who show they have a second life going on, like not just interested in a girlfriend, hang in there!

sounds like a bit of a muck! but dont be overcome by it all, i am often overcome with negative obsessive thoughts, which i know arent what your situations based on, but yeh i think the underlying message is to wear a brave face and battle on, otherwise you will become bitter about being bitter. From what i gather there are some situations that have imprinted on your memory, and change your corse of acton, like becoming depressed, but you have to escape this negative perception of life. Even if it means forgiving your best friend. I think the guy sounds a bit of a b'stard for just getting up and going, but he has problems there which onli he caused. i hope i read it right, and that im not going offtrack or inadvertantli bagging someone who shudnt be bageed, but i really believe in perception, as do u, and i think we know when we are percieving things negatively, and yea, there isnt a reality unless you can change your perception. Join some clubs or social groups and get to know people, i think its good that you like to share your problems, unlike your best friend did, as it shows that you want to figure them out, theres potential for this, and i think once you can get ontop of things by becoming involved, you will see that its not the end of everything right now. I am sorry for your unhappy memories of childhood etc, but take your mind off it threw becoming involved. Let that 10second bliss last a bit longer, and then longer and then longer, why torment yourself! i hope this site helps you realise your not alone and that life is what you make it! i think its unfair that some of us have such active minds which thus change our perceptions of things,, often for the worse, so conquer those thoughts!! hang in there!!!

yeh...dig it...whatever that means i'd say this is really about hoo u wanna be with, talk to da gf and see wat she says about ur thgts on like ur sex life, then make up yo mind which is better for you

just when you ask them if theyre involved in 'extra curricular activities', dont call them that, say like 'wat sorta things r u into' lol. othawise u might be calling for a 'ooh um chess and maths camp' responce lol!! goodluck buddy girls love to know lotsa guys, so just make urself known to em~

Wei Lily!! wo jiao Xiuwen, shi nude, 17 sui le. wo zhu zai Aodaliya, Moerben. Wo jinnian shang gaosan. wo xue hanyu, keshi wo shuo de bu hao, duibuqi!!! Wo dui Shanghai feichang you ganqu!!!! wo qu nian qu Zhongguo canguan wo zui hao de pengyou Wangmengwei. Wo de hanyu ke qu le! - i went with my chinese class! - wo men canguan Datong Zhongxue, Waitan, Nanjing lu, Dong fanmingzhudianshi ta! hen you yisi le!!! Wo gezi gao, bu pang bu shou! Tongxuemen shuo wo hen youmo haha! Wo zui xihuan hanyu ke! suoyi xiwang yihou neng dao Zhongguo luxing huozhe xuexi. I really hope you can understand my chinese ! i really would love to talk to you, so that we can get to know eachother!! please reply!

hi lily!! im so glad i saw your posting! i learn chinese and am in year 12 in Melbourne Australia, i'd love to talk to you in chinese!!! i went to Shanghai last year with my chinese class and i apsolutely loved it!!!! i have a friend there at Datong Zhongxue, and i went there for a week. i love chinese culture so much and im studying Shanghai at school!!! please send me an email so we can chat!!!!!

y'd the Bible have to say: 1Ti 2:11-14: A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. (12) I do not permit a woman to teach or have authority over a man; she must be silent. (13) For Adam was formed first, then Eve. (14) And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. ??? i sent the good quote to my male friend and he thgt he'd beat it with this one

Awwessome!!!! Eve came outa Adams ribcage!!! i love that quote!!! im surprised more ppl dont use it!!! i think that whole transformation thing wud be awesome to watch!!!!

yeh i think that you definitely need to confront her on the whole thing. See how she reacts, if she can look you in the eyes and tell you shes playing it straight, then stay by her till she's ready, but like you cant waste away waiting for this girl to be ready, i dont know whether i read everything right, but yeh, from my perspective, im the sorta girl who wants to flirt and all and not go out, and guys just give up, i mean i've personally come to realise that its unfair to do this to a guy, and i know shes been through a lot, but i think you need to stop giving over to her momentary desires to flirt. she needs to start fresh with you, and the whole flirting thing may just remind her of her old relshp, so be more assertive about what you want and she'll come back down to earth, hopefully, goodluck!

goo you!!! i hope it all goes well!

hey guys, i didnt know if this worked so i sent it again lol. i was just investigating sites which would tell me about dating and stuff and found dis one. I'm really scared when it comes to dating and theres something in my mind saying its wrong, like i feel immature and uneasy in those situations and it drives me mad when im like that. Im a really outgoing person, but im quite shy too. i just keep thinking im some weirdo who doesn't know themselves, yet i really like being with guys and they like my company, and although i really wanna ask them out, i feel embarrased and as though it wouldnt be my sorta thing. Does anyone know how to build up courage against these negative thoughts and make it all casual n easy?? i so wanna get over this and im already nearly 18, so i feel odd around my friends i feel a bit like this dude looks> 0X thankuu