SeaBisquit

I use to have really long hair and for the first time ever I got it cut short. Now I'm not liking it at all and it makes me feel worse about myself because I think I look real bad. I wanted to do something different to my hair because I'm going thru a break up and wanted to make myself look better but now I think I look worse.

well i had another bad experience with my bf and this time i think maybe i have finally learned my lesson. We had plans to spend the 4th of July together and go camping. i found some pics and a letter from a girl that he must be seeing. of course he says that there just friends, but i find it kinda ironic because he doesn't have any pic of me laying around.

this is for sure a big "pisser". evertime i go out to a club with my bf he sits there and stares at all the girls while they are dancing. he doesn't even pay any attention to me. how can i get his attention without making a folo out of myself?

hi, last night i went out with a few of my girlfriends and one of my friends ended up getting really drunk and she was flirting around with my boyfriend alot. At first i just blew it off because i knew she was pretty drunk. but then later when we were all in my car together she took off her shirt in front of my bf to change into another shirt. i tried to act like i didn't care but i saw my bf looking at her. it might have been just a guy thing but still it pissed me off. i think i'm more mad at her for acting inappropiate.

hello, I ended up spending the weekend with my ex bf to try to resolve some of the issues we been having. At fisrt things were going really cool and it felt like we were finally solving some of the issues that has been disturbing me for quite sometime now. Yesterday we went to the racetrack with some mutual friends and one of my friends ended up getting really drunk and said some things to me about my boyfriend that really got me upset. I don't know if I should shrug it off because she was really drunk or consider her a good source of information. Her husband is bestfriends with my bf and she told me she heard them talking and my boyfriend said that he doesn't have any room in his life for me that he has way to many things going on his life right now.

this queation is for a good friend of mine, who is in need of some good advice.. ok, here it goes my friend has been in a relationship with her bf for over two years. they recently broke up on mutual terms because they both had problems in there life that they needed to get straightened out on there own. there breakup was pleasant (as a breakup could be I guess) and she moved out of their apartment and into a place of her own. Her bf called her a few days after the breakup and told her that he feels very hurt over the breakup and that he cares for her alot. He told her that he is still trying to get things straightened out with his life and it was up to her if she wanted to wait for him. They live 4 hours away from each other and he calls her several times a week and goes to visit her every two weeks. She feels that if he really cared alot for her like he says he does that he would come to see her every weekend. She has asked him to move back in with her and he told her he would think about it. Now she is really confused because she feels like he is not making an effort to get back together. They have been separated for three months. Now she starting to think that he might be liking somebody else because he never talks about getting back together anymore, and she hasn't seen him for three weeks and when he calls her he doesn't say when he is going to see her. She just sits around for him to make all the moves. But she questions why he would continue to see her every two weeks and take such a long trip to see her if he isn't serious about her. any advice?

it's only been a few days since I dumped him but it feels awesome. I never realized how bad I felt about myself and how bad he made me feel until now. I finally feel like I can do whatever I want to do without any hassles. it's awesome so far!

Here's another ? my friends think i should call his wife and let her know what he is doing. so she can protect herself and know what he is up to. i kinda want to because technically he screwed both of us over and is still doing it. i just don't think this is at all fair to me or his wife? and he has kids.

I found out a club that we go to from some of the girls that work there. he use to go out there alot before i met him. one of the girls just kinda slipped and said he is married. so i started asking alot of questions and everybody knew but me.

OMG, now i'm finding out more info about my ex bf. when i met him he was married. I had no idea, we had a long distance relationship and we lived over 300 miles away. he had a whole other life that I knew nothing about. I don't understand how he could live such a lie and decieve me like that without even feel an ounce of guilt. now he is living with another girl and is still married to his wife.

so far this morning my ex has called me about four times, i'm doin good, staying strong i didn't answer any of his calls. but what should i do in case he shows up at my house?

hello Hubman my bf and i use to rent a apartment together, we lived together for eight months. three months ago he came up with a bunch of lame excuses and asked me to move out. I moved out , took my daughter out of school and left without any money. I moved back in with my parents and since then he has called me up cying saying how wrong he was to kick me out. I forgave him and started seeing him again. Everything that is in the apartment belongs to me because I left everything behind when I moved out. now some other girl is sitting on my furniture, sleeping in my bed, and ating off my dishes, so i'm pretty ticked off to say the least. ________________________________ sometimes I wish I was a fish!

yes, I agree he's the idiot not me. and he is a BIG waste of my time and energy. thankyou!

definitely not!!! I feel like such a idiot. I kinda suspected I was being kicked out for someone else, because he gave me some pretty lame excuses as to why we were breaking up. he use to call me alot after we broke up and the last month his calls got shorter and it took him longer to return my phone calls. then he would only call me from work, never when he was at home. I figured something was up with that. but he always had a exuse for everything did and like a idiot i believed him.

hi, after all the crap that I have posted on this site about my bf. yesterday I found out that he has been seeing another girl since our breakup. He broke up with me and asked me to move out of our home so that he could see both of us at the same time.

thanks for the response, but both of you have different advice. i don't think i'm necissarily being selfish in this relationship it just seems like i'm not getting out of it what i need i guess. by being supportive of me, i mean i have had a couple of incidences where my house was broken into and he didn't seem to give me much support or be there for me. all my neighbors and my friends were there except for him. he does come to seem me often and drives a long distance and he does buy me alot of gifts. but alot of my friends and family don't like him and they tell me that he comes to see me just to get sex. that's mostly the reason why i am so confused because i don't know who to listen to anymore my friends or my bf.

those of you who have replied to my posts I thankyou very much. sometimes things are to hard for me to bear all on my own so I come to you for advice. It is hard for me to completely end this relationship for some damn reason and even though he makes me feel like crap I still put up with it. I had several other guys ask me out and show a big interest in me and most of these guys seem to be really nice. but i have turned them all down. I don't think I stay with my boyfriend because I'm scared to be alone because there are lot's of others guys who like me. I know that my bf will never commit and I stay with him anyways. A big part of me wants to be in a relationship that I know will last, but for some reason I'm settling for one that isn't going to last. My bf and I wil be together for almost two years, he has never told me that he loves me ( maybe because he is a narcissist) he says that he loves me alot but he never makes a effort to do anything special for me. We lived together for 8 months and broke up. When we broke up he told me that he just needed some space that things weren't going well in our lives, and that we needed time to put our lives back in order. I now live three hours away from him. When we broke up he said not to put any feelings or emotions into the breakup that there were no rules involved. Since the breakup he makes the drive to come and see me almost every weekend and says that he still cares about me and doesn't want to be with anybodyelse. He says alot of nice things about me but doesn't make any effort to help or support me while I am living alone. I don't know what to think of all this, somebody spell this out for me is he being sincere or does it sound like I'm a game to him?

DN I do feel bad about reading the papers but on the other hand i always had a gut feeling that something was wrong with him i just didn't know what. so i'm kinda glad that i know now.

this is so true because he never really lets me talk about myself. most of our talks are about him. but the confusing part is that he is very giving, he buys me alot of gifts.

DN i found his papers in a box, we use to live together and i was looking for some important papers of my own that i had left behind. i wasn't snooping.

hi, i spent last weekend at my bf place to try and solve some things in our relationship that has been troubling me. while i was there i stumbled upon some medical papers and court papers that belonged to him. the medical papers stated that he has severe mental problems and he was diagnosed with narcasism, i don't know much about this illness and was wondering if anyone might have some info on this illness.

I don't get it.. why would a guy spend so much on someone he didn't care about?

would a guy spend money on a girl or buy her alot of gifts if he only wanted her for sex?

thankyou all for your support reading your replies helps me alot. right now i'm just sort of in shock or kinda diabelief, like i wish someone would shout out "no he really isn't that bad" or "no that didn't really happen" it's just hard to believe that a guy that i care so much about would view something i'm so strongly against. my daughter is my heart!

thanks shes2smart, right now i just feel very confused and hurt. but i know i need to put all this behind me, but i keep second guessing myself. i'm finding it hard to detach.