thefireisoutanyway

Yes, I get urge to watch porn time to time. Usually, these urges come in cycles, and near the cycle it gets kind of lame and boring, so I stop. After a long build up, I get urges, so I do it again. Supposedly, men go through "cycles" of their sexual peak just as a woman has a period every month, or something to that degree. ...so no, porn is not a necessity. Masturbation, may be.

Hello, There is something that I always wondered... Suppose you are on a date with a girl. Say it's like an n-th date, where n can be some decently large number. Things go well, and it seems like the two of you will get it on some time soon... So... here's the thing. I don't know if I got STDs. I'm pretty sure if I am dating someone, it is not the best conversational topic. So what would be the appropriate way for a guy to check that the woman is clear? What would be the sensible way for a guy to tell a girl that he doesn't have STDs? (Think how awkward it'd be. "Hey, I have no STDs. I got the papers to prove it.") Also, do most guys carry a condom with them when they go on dates "just in case"? Is it the man's responsibility to whip out the condom in times of need?

Is it possible that b/c they like you they avoid you? I heard something like that once, that when a woman really likes you, they tend to shy away...

Hello all, This is kind of a follow up on the post link removed So basically, today was the day we were supposed to go see the movie. Seeing that I am here, sitting myself, making this post, you are correct to believe that the movie going did not happen. But this IS what happened. So I was really REALLY psyched about this. I carefully chose my wardrobe and everything so that I don't look too dressed up, with a help of a female friend. I had cleared out my evening so that we could go see the movie, and just about 20 minutes before the movie starts, she stumbles into my office. From hereforth, I shall refer to the woman as Jela. Anyway, Jela comes to my office and the first thing she says is, "do you mind if I ditched you?" ...Then she apologized and apologized, even offering to getting down on her knees... The reason she gave was, well, she basically told me what happened at work, and it sounded like things got pretty bad there. And so, basically, she was not up for it or something. Then she said something about me going alone. When I explained to her I didn't have a ride (which I really didn't), she offered to lend me her car????????? ...at this point, I was convinced that she did not want to go with me. Of course, I refused the offer. I mean, who could possibly say yes to that? One of my officemates was here, so we just chatted a little bit. Then, she asked may be tomorrow, and I said sure, whatever. She told me to call her, then she left. I couldn't help but to think that she did not really want to go with me, and that she was forcing herself to go out of obligation. She is a very polite woman, and one thing I learned form my ex is that some girls will go out of their way to not hurt a guy's feelings, do things they don't want to do, etc. So I decided to talk to her and cancel the trip. So I found her in her office. She was checking something on-line, and I basically told her, that if she was not up for it, then we could do a rain check. I figured, by leaving things vague, she won't feel obligated to ever go, and she won't feel guilty for telling me off. To my surprise, she seemed rather reluctant to cancel and appeared to be pretty set on going with me tomorrow. Then, she offered me a sit and we chatted a little bit. Among the things we talked about, was her ex. It sounded like she still had some feelings for the ex, and how she tries not to see him anymore and such. To be honest, I don't really know what's going on in her mind. I feel like on one hand, she doesn't want to go with me, but then she seemed really glad to see me when I stopped by her office to talk to her alone. I guess I'll call her tomorrow.

UPDATE: Okay, so I hadn't heard from this woman in days, so I had pretty much given up on her, until... I was doing some work in the computer lab, and she stumbled in. We chatted about stuff, and we decided to go see the movie this Friday, and we set the time and everything. She said the movie was DEFINITELY on, but I got a slight feeling she was reluctant to set a specific day and time. (So I went ahead and checked the times and stuff, and told her we'll go at this day, this time...) I asked her if she could find anyone to go with, but she told me she couldn't. She was going to give me her number (but I already had it from one of the e-mails) and I gave her mine. She said she was leaving, so I offered to walk her back to the car, thinking about last time. But, I had got a distinct feeling that she didn't want me doing that... But she kept on talking to me from the door, instead of leaving. So I got up and escorted her down stairs... I thought I was taking her to the car, but she stopped at the floor where I have my office. And then, she went to another guy's office, supposedly offering him a ride. She then told me she had to make a phone call. Or something. So I turned my back to leave when she made a little fist and well, we fist bumped (I don't know if that's the correct expression) each other. For some reason, I felt that she didn't want me to follow her around, but then, I also got confused b/c she kept on talking to me, even after saying goodnight, going around the corner, out of sight. So... I don't know. This is pretty much all that had transpired, and I'm getting a feeling that she's not really interested in me, but at the same time... What do you guys think? In the last e-mail I sent her, I told her that I'd like to go with her alone, almost exactly as DN told me to. (BTW, she just stuck her head in to say goodnight again. And I'm beginning to think that her talking while the other person is out of sight is just a habit of hers...) So she knows that I am interested in her, right? Arrrrgh, this is giving me a headache.

I read somewhere that the taste of semen is largely affected by what you drank/ate prior to ejaculation. Drinking coffee or eating brocolli gives semen a bitter taste, while drinking fruit juice can sweeten it a little bit. But then, all of these are just temporary things... ...then again, what do I know?

Okay, I found it really exciting when my ex-gf would lick me and kiss me around the nipular area. I remember she had to stop b/c I was moaning so much and she was afraid I was cumming.

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Yeah, I guess you got a point there. I don't know, should I try calling her?

...so orgasm and ejaculation aren't necessarily related?

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by an orgasm lasting a certain period of time... I've always thought that orgasm was that intense feeling just the moment before ejaculation, so by definition, I thought it can't be longer than a few seconds. Do you mean, like the aftershock of an orgasm? That could be anywhere from 0 to like, yeah, 30 minutes.

So I took DN's advice. I sent her an e-mail last night as he recommended... ...and uhm, there has been no reply of any sort. I don't know what to do. I know I should patiently wait. I guess it was good for me to let her know that I am interested in her, but perhaps my choice of words were poor? May be I came off too strong? Arggggggh (Talk like a Pirate Day~)

...Yes, none of my friends wanted to go. And I told her. ...may be I shouldn't have told her that? So wait, do I tell her all of that all at once? Or do I save the second part (just the two of us part) for later?

Okay, I just got an e-mail from the woman who I was suppose to go see the movie with. ...I am now convinced that this won't be a date... (and I got all excited too. Bleh) She asked me, if it would be okay if she invited some of her friends too. ...bleh ...so I mean, I can only say it's okay for her to invite her friends, right? Or... I don't know. Any suggestions?

Yes, it's really a shame that I don't have a g/f right now to share all this excessive... energy. I see what you mean. Strangely though, when I was going out with my last g/f I never had the urge to masturbate...

Hi, thanks for all your replies. Anonymous12321, thanks for your support. It's too bad all that energy is going to waste, huh? Acne, yes. Aggression, may be. I have been feeling a bit short tempered lately. And about women who always want it: There was a point in my life when I had a g/f, and once we started to fool around, it felt like it was all she wanted to do. We rarely talked. When we met, it was just all... physical. To be honest, it was a lot of fun, but at the same time, I felt that our relationship was becoming cheap. ...so I am... peaking?

Hello, I am a soon to be 25 year old male, and I am making a post b/c, well, lately I'm beginning to be a bit concerned about myself. It used to be that even when I first started masturbating, it would not be more than once a day. Once I fired away, that was it, and it would be nearly impossible to get it up (even if I did get it up, I couldn't orgasm). This was the way it's been for a while, then the jerk off frequecy went down to basically once in two days. I think the lowest it ever was like 3 times a week. Nowadays, the frequency is back up again, but a tad too much. It's like, I have to do it in the morning (with the morning wood), then before I go to sleep, and once or twice in the middle. I find myself getting wood randomly and desire to get off more frequently (even without an erection)... as in right now, I need to go badly. (And I got off like a few hours ago too.) Is this... normal for this age? To be getting aroused randomly and having to jerk off on almost hourly basis? (sometimes, I need to come twice to make the erection go away). Isn't 3~4 times a day a bit too much?

I interpreted her statement, "We should see a movie," where "we" as in everyone... I guess. At the time it didn't occur to me that she might be interested in me. But I want to say, thank you for your replies. Currently, among the friends I've contacted, only one of them even bothered to reply, and he said he's not a fan of the penguins... so it seems like it'll be just me and her. We talked about going to see the movie sometime this week, so I'll write happens afterwards.

Well, it's been a week since the event aforementioned. Since then, some e-mails were exchanged (silly conversations), but the whole issue of having a drink together isn't being mentioned. I can't tell whether she's interested or not... should I try asking again?

Hello, This is more of a question for the ladies, but as long as you could help this poor bastard out with comments it doesn't matter what gender or orientation you are. Okay so here is the situation in a nutshell... There is a woman from work who I have known for about two years. We didn't really interact that much at all, and to my knowledge she was seeing someone at the time or at least around the time I first met her. Our interaction was somewhat minimal, until that one fateful(?) night. There was a work-related party, and this guy (who we all know and not like so much with problems) came in and tried to ruin the party. He basically got himself drunk and passed out. Me and the woman, basically carried the dude back to his home, and looked after him for about an hour or so until the guy finally fell asleep. During this time, we talked a little bit and such. After this day, we started to exchange more words when we ran into each other at work. About a week later, for some reason, I was staying the night in my office. Taking a break from work, I decided to wander around the hall a little bit, when I passed by her office. It looked like she was about to leave, and she saw me and she said hi. We started talking and talking for until about 3 am! We talked a little bit about her previous work, and it turned out that she had broken up with the other guy she was seeing, and told me she was, well single. We looked at some of the pictures she had on-line, pictures of her old apartment that she used to share with her ex-boy friend, etc. We talked about my ex-girl friend, etc. She told me she's going camping with her ex and other friends over the weekend. She asked me if I was going home, and when I told her I was going to sleep in the office, she offered me the couch in her place, since she knows from experience how uncomfortable it is to sleep in the office. Without thinking much about it (at the time, I didn't think it was a big deal. Now, may be it was? Unsure...), I declined, saying that I had a couch in the office I could sleep in. Then, she started to get up. But instead of leaving as she said she was going to, she asked me if I was hungry. I told her yes, and she gave me some bread, peanut butter, jam, etc. I just took one bread and started to leave b/c I didn't want to keep her, but she was, "Are you sure you don't want more?" Once we got outside, she kept on talking to me, even as she was leaving... I don't know, may be she was expecting me to walk her out to the parking lot? (Which, now I think of it, I should've done, b/c it was really late at night and not really safe for her to walk alone...) This was on a Friday. On Monday, I passed by her office again and she came out to say hi. I asked her about the camping trip, and she told me... that I looked healthy(?) Then she asked me what I did over the weekend... and I told her I went to the movies with some friends (which I did), at which point she (literally) jumped and said we should definitely go see "that movie with penguins." Again, I didn't think much about this at the moment. I don't even remember what I told her. I just remember talking a bit about movies then going off to work... After that, I barely saw her again for like two weeks. We passed each other a few times, but we were both on our way to somewhere Then today, I was doing some work on the computer when she passed by my office saying hi. After a moment of hesitation, I got up from the chair and caught up with her, and asked her if she was still interested in going to see the movie. Now I don't know which of the following happened first but a) She said yes b) I told her I'll try to see if others want to go a) and b) happened in some order, I don't remember. She told me to e-mail her and tell her when, and then thanked me? ...okay, so here is the thing. I know for a fact that none of my friends, the very "others" that I am trying to see if they'd be interested in going, have no interest in going whatsoever. I know this b/c I suggested that we go see this thing, and they laughed at my face. So, in a way, from my position, one COULD say I asked her out on a date, since 1) I was feeling extremely nervous and embarrassed when I was asking her if she wanted to go 2) I asked her fully knowing that it'd be just the two of us going to the movie, at least if she doesn't ask any of her friends to come along. Sorry for making it so long. I didn't intend on rambling like this... but anyway, this is the full story. So, here is the question: is this really a date? Or is it too early to say anything? Any comment will be appreciated~!

...well, we don't really get to see each other that often. I did run into her earlier today (this was before she sent me her reply to the second e-mail), but she told me she was in a hurry...

Try link removed. I found some good work out tips, both inside/outside gym, as well as diet and such. Of course, the magazine is targeted for men in their 30s or 40s, but I think you'll find it useful.

Hello, There is a girl, that I like (duh). I've known her for a few years. It was her birthday not too long ago, and as a gag gift, I got her a shot glass (and something else, which she apparently liked). She later called me that night and said we should definitely get together for a drinking party, since she now has two shot glasses. So I e-mailed her about a week later telling her that I got something nice and if she'd still be interested in having that drink. She e-mailed me back rather quickly asking me what it was that I got. Then, she sent me another e-mail, on a completely unrelated topic. I replied to both of the e-mails. The second e-mail, I got a response just about an hour ago. But she hasn't said anything about the first e-mail. Now, I shouldn't be driving myself nuts with this thing, but I wanted to hear your opinion: is she giving me an obvious hint? (She doesn't want to tell me she's not interested, and she's not talking about it in the hopes that either I get the hint or I'll just forget about it?)

Heh, I almost misread the last sentence~ In my case, for best results, 3 inches below the navel.

Yes, playing with fire I am, then. Thanks for the advice. I'll either ask or remain mute. (Probably the latter.)