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so hi guys, i need a little help. my bf and i are planing on having sex for the first time. we are are both virgins and he is 18 and im 16 (almost 17). we both have a few qestions so i figured this was the best place to come to ask. so here goes. 1) how much are condoms? 2) how many condoms come in like a pack??? now heres another delima (kinda). he just found out that hes unable to have children some day because of a hereditary thing. so this elimates the chance of me getting pregnant... sort of. his dad has it too yet he (my bf) was still born =/ but i mean we're using a condom so it shouldnt matter right? please reply, i really need to get some answers

ok so heres the deal.... my best friend and i went out to the mall Saturday. she slipped off with this guy and and left me with our other friend..... i didnt know till Sunday what really happened..... she said they went off to his boat and well they ended up having sex..... she wasnt planing on that. she didnt want to (as she has explained to me) but by the time she realized what she was getting herself into, it was too late. now, i never expected her to open up to me this much, but im the only person she can trust with this kind of information right now. i really want to help her but im not sure what to do... they didnt use a condom (which is what's really worrying her right now) and well this may sound weird but she had a tampon in and well we're hoping that will decrease her chances of getting pregnant... she is really really worried about this. we tried to get my bf and his best friend to go out and get the morning after pill for her.... but he cant leave his house now, and its just a really bad situation..... what r her chances of actually getting pregnant and is there anything i can tell her to help make here feel a little bit better? becuase she cant let anyone know about this, the only time shes actually allowed to show her emotions is around me when its just us 2.... i really want to help her. any ideas how i can??

i have been soooooo stressed over school. I have exams this week, and i go to a very very very hard school. I have friends in college who believe that my school is even harder than college...... anyways ive been owkring very hard on exams (45 hours of studying from Friday- monday) and anyways. i have been feeling very overwhelmed and sick lately. my stomach is hurting and ive been feeling kinda queezy. ive had a bad headache for the past few days. i dont know what to do. my mom wont let me take a real break, and im just going crazy. i had my big emotional break down Saturday, and things just arent getting better after parent teacher confrences. my teachers think i may have ADD and i definitely dont..... anyways...... help. ive gotten very little sleep and i cant slow down till these are over (Friday).....

Thanks for ya'lls help..... we talked a little bit more last night, and i told him that he was hurting everyone around him that cared about him cuz he was not thinking or caring what he was doing. i told him i still really cared for him even tho we arent going out and it really hurts me to see him doing all this crap..... i also just found out from his friend, he completely dropped out of school, he got fired from his job after 2 weeks (he didnt quit like he said he did), and hes been lieing to me about smoking weed. Im over his crap and i hope he ends up going to a teen detention home. if thats what its going to take for him to straiten up then ok...... he really needs help. he hasnt even told his paretns he got 3 tickets for speeding wreckless driving and possession...... he has to go to court feb 15........ i wanna talk to his parents but i cant do that w/o my parents or him knowing....

My bf and i broke up a week ago, and i was having a really hard time with our break up, but ive started feeling a lot better, when i got out with my friends and some guys that actually treated me like a young lady. Anyways, i got an IM from my ex tonight he said' my life is over. i hate my life. later" then he signed off..... his firned told me he was pulled over for racing, speeding, and possession...... he cant hold a job for more than 2 weeks, he dropped out of school and hes had 1 speeding ticket before and he didnt take the class, so basically hes really screwed..... i am ready to move on. I love him so much, and i ccare about him so much, but ive realized he doesnt love/ care for me the same. and im ok with that. I dont regret anything we did. anyways, it hurts me sooooo bad to see him screweing himself over like this. can anyone give me some input as to what i should do?? i want to go over and yell at him and tell him that hes hurting himself and the people who care about him but *shrug* my parents wont let me near his house...... what can i do to get through to him? hes hurting me more now than he did when we first broke up.... HELP........

Ok, I know i need to get over him but it is so hard...... a couple weeks ago we planned on having sex and we were going to do it on new years, or at least i had planned on it when he came over to spend new years with me. well he ditched me to go to a party to go get drunk.... and this hasnt been the first time hes ditched me since weve been going out. anyways he ditched me again yesterday to go and work on his car. i told him to go do whatever and id go hang out with someone else and do something else with him. I was going to break up with him last night...... mostly becuase my mom was making me becuase he dropped out of school and he treats me like crap a lot of the time. anyways, we broke up last night over IM. and weve chosen to remain friends. (he broke up with me, but only becuase i didnt get to first). my friends all told me he treated me bad and i guess i iddnt see it till these past few days.... now it hurts so bad becuase i think he could have just been using me... i dont regret anything i did with him becuase he was my first love (even tho he may not have loved me back). this hurts so bad...... ive been crying since new years even and i just dont know what to do. im a total wreck..... someone please help! make the pain go away!

I told him before we started going out that i would not have sex with him and he said that was ok. But a couple of weeks ago I told him i wanted to. he hasnt pushed me into it. Everything has been on my time and not his. Hes respected me a whole lot about the decisions ive made.

well i am 16, and the problem is, i got to a private christian school so thereforeeee there is not planned parenthood stuff........ any other methods of getting birth control or anything like that?? i plan on talking to an adult about all of this, i havnet decided who tho. I cant talk to my parents about it becuase they already dont like the guy I'm with. we dont have a school counselor or anything like that, plus i woudlnt trust my mentor (mentors at my school are like homeroom teachers but more on a personal level) anyways, i have decided that i am going to have sex with my bf. i know i said i wouldnt but i really want to.... i want to b responsible about all of this and make sure that things are planned out before we do anything

well i do love him, theres no doubt in my mind. my thing is im not 100% sure he feels the same and i dont wanna feel like a complete and total idiot blonde if i say it and he doesnt say it back. weve almost broken up twice, both times i cried a lot becuase i didnt want to b w/o him. both times we almost broke up was becuase of my mom not wanting us to see each other. its really messing things up.

Ok, my bf and i have been together for 3 months. about a month before we started going out I asked him what the one thing he wished he had never done was. He said tell his ex gf that he loved her when he really didnt.... so when he told me that he loved me after about 2 months i was shocked, but really happy. I said it back, and at that point i wasnt sure if i really did. But now I know I do. Maybe not the kind of lets get married and have babies love, but teenage love at least. anyways, that was the only time we have ever said I lvoe you to one another. A couple days ago he was playing with my hands while we were on the couch and he made the i love u sign with my hand, but thats the closest thing to I love you I've gotten from him. I dunno if he was just doing that or if he really meant it...... I consider it a pretty big deal that he said i love you to begin with, and i what i really wanna know is, should i say I love you to him??? I want him to know that i love him, but im scared that he may not say it back, or that he'll just say it to b nice, or maybe even say that he doesnt love me and end the relationship..... so HELP please......... should i say it? should i wait and see if he'll say it? if i should say it how should i go about doing so???

hmmm..... ok. thank you very much for all ya'lls help. gosh.... 18..... hmmm. ok well thanx again.

so how old will i have to b to get MAP's or BC w/o my parents knowing?

question, do they have to tell your parents?? . I wanna talk to my parents about this, i want them to know what we are considering (key word being considering) but his just flat out dont care, and mine care a little too much, plus they dont like the guy i am with. hes homeschooled and doesnt have a job, and im in private school and i have 2 jobs. they dont think we are an equal match yada yada, and they just dont like him, but i love him and i hate that they wont accept us being together. so it gets a bit complicated. but we arent decided about what we're going to do.

we'll if we do have sex we are planning on using condoms, and im not quite old enough to get birth control w/o my parents knowing, but i want to try and elliminate all possible chances of me getting pregnant

okie dokie, yeah, well sex has kind of become a possibility for me and my bf, and we want to be responsible about it, but ive got a question (please dont kill me if it seems stupid) what exactly is the morning after pill? hows it work and how can i get it (if i choose to use it)?? sorry, i just really want to b responsible about this if we choose to have sex.

Ive never felt pressured by him. It was actually my idea and of course him being a guy, he didnt have a problem with it. *shrug* I dont feel like I have to do anything back for him, but I want to. i think it may kind of make him feel a bit upset when i say no, the only reason im saying no though is cuz i have no real clue of what im doing. so can anyone help so i dont feel like a total idiot by doing something wrong. this is something i really wanna do for him.

just making sure. thanks for all your help!

I dont feel pressured to do anything at all. Hes kinda tried and i said no, and he respected that and didnt push it any further. ok now another question, if he uses a condom, would i have to worry about swallowing or not? and i understand about cleaning up real well after, i had a friend who got pregnant that way. I understand the consequences and i think he and i are both responsible enough to take it that far.

i really want to be responsible about this, and i mean if it means waiting then i guess thats what i'll do. i want to have sex with him, but if it means possibly getting pregnant and messing up my life at this young age then i'll wait..... however, i have never done anything in return to him for what hes done for me, and i want to be able to do that for him, but im scared of maybe hurting him, and well, im just not 100% sure of what to do. but i want to do it for him. i understand that he'd kind of guide me through what to do, but umm.... well, when he cums, do i swallow or what? ive always kinda been confused of what to do about that..... help.....

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Well heres the deal. my bf and i have been together for 3 months as of today. I really care about him and he cares about me. We have already gone to 3rd and we are planning on having sex sometime soon. but i was wondeirng, what are the chances of me getting pregnant if he uses a condom? We are both virgins and i really am not too sure what to do. I really want to do this, but im scared about either getting pregnant or getting caught. so i guess im asking, what are my chances of getting pregnant and anyone got any tips? also, is it common for girls to bleed from being fingered?? I hope that doesnt sound weird, but yeah, we were experementing and things may have gotten a bit too rough, but prolly not as rough as sex would really be.... is there something wrong with me or does this kind of thing happen???