mimi20

Ok i have a question for the guys.... What is the slowest it has ever taken you to commit to a girl you are interested in?? and why exactly did you take sooooo long?? and is there anything a girl can do or say that would help him speed things up with out being anoying??? and lastly, if a guy was hurt VERY badly that caused him to take forever to trust anyone again without being hurt by them first....would it help at all to reasurre him and say..." i wouldn't hurt you ever."...or would only actions over time prove that i wouldn't hurt him.....becuase the other girl may have said this...then in the end hurt him thanks a bunch "The game of catch has never been so fun!" ~inventor of the hand grenade.

ok well the guy i am talking to now is 22, and i had no idea he was afraid to go see scary movies, and he didn not tell me this. So when i first met him, we planned on going to see a scary movie and i'm all thinking "ok yay! he is totally gonna hold me, cuz i get sooo scared!" haha BUUUUTTT....he was scared as well, and it honestly turned me on, becuase he was himself and did not act all macho and what not...we actually held eachother, and jumped a mile high out of our seats at the same time haha it was fun, and i got to hold him as well and he would put his face nuzzled in my neck when he didn't want to watch. I have no problems with it at all. Just as long as in real life, he could have the courage to help me if i was in danger at all...which any guy would do that for someone they care bout....hope this helped

hmmmmm well if you are not comfortable with your current boyfriend, then i would say break it off....becuase if you liked him, and wanted to be with him, then you wouldn't have any doubts about anything, and would be comfortable with him touching you....you know?? and it sounds like you like his friend as well, and before him. so if you are still thinking about his friend, then i would break it off....it is not fair to your current boyfriend, don't waste his time, when he could be with someone who wants to be with him, and is comfortable with his weird actions. hope this helped! and hope you come to a solution.

OMG!!! i totally get that!!! but no complaints here, it feels good, i just get really frisky when it happens....then i lock myself in my bedroom, with candles and take care of it myself But it is normal for me...yes....and it happens when i am talking to a guy i like, or am very attracted to, or even when i am watching T.V. and sumthin' turns me on, i pulse down there....hope this helped

HI again, i am posting this again becuase i forgot to add something that would change your responses drastically. Ok.....i have been very patient with this guy i am really intereted in. It has been since september that we have been talking, but he is very slooow at things. But i am unsure where i stand....He has taken me out like once a month, not really talking to me in between that much in the beginning...but he has been doing very well for the past month, has talked to me more, seen me more...he basically has opened up slowly but surely. He has only had one other girlfriend a while ago, so he may be inexperienced. but last weekend we hung out on friday (Nov. 26), and things got hot and steamy...i ended up giving him head....he is the second person i have ever given head too. ****But what i forgot to add is that HE WAS the one who initiated it. He wanted me too. I was apprehensive becuase i didn't know what i should do. But he sat there and said that i should let loose (i am sort of shy) and just do it. i enjoyed it though once i started.... But i think i may have made a mistake because i do not know where i stand, becuase we haven't talked about it yet, i don't want to scare him off, so i am going to go at his pace and give him time to open up to me. But the thing is I haven't heard from him since that night....He walked me to the door, gave me a kiss, then walked away...then walked back and kissed my cheek and said he'll text me tomorrow (saturday Nov, 27) when he gets up. well he never did, and i haven't heard from him since I saw him online yesterday for the first time this week, and he didn't IM me. I don't know what to think.....But he does this though...he disapears so to say. then he will show up again, and IM me to hang out....we don't do sexual stuff each time though, so i am not a booty call, i know he is interested, but can you tell me what you think of this situation. Please don't say "maybe you didn't give good head" haha becuase i do know how to, I gave oral to my ex plenty of times, and i am very good So if you could give me your take of what you might think is going on here, that would be great. (sorry for posting this again, but it will change the responces and i need to know what is really going on... thanks ~mimi20

Well Actually i was not the one who initiated the oral...he REALLY wanted me too. I was very apprehensive, but he sat there and told me to let loose becuase (i am very shy)....so i didn't rush into it actually...sorry i should have said this in my post....so what do you think now???

hmmmm, i personlly like a little skin on top of the six pack....i don't like the stomachs with really thin skin, it has to be think if he has a six pack...kinda hard to expliain....but yes i normally go for guys with an athletic look to them, but will totally get turned off if they lift their shirt up in front of the mirror while i'm there..eeewwww. I'm with a guy now that plays water polo, and has those lines on the sides of his abdomen that lead down to his *eh hum..private parts* you know what i'm talking bout. It sort of dents in, but is soooo sexy. I'll take that over a six pack anyday, but when a guy has those lines their, they are very fit, and usually comes with a six pack as well.....awww i love the "Male Physique*

I'm soooo happy for you!!! What you wrote will encourage more people than you may realize...Stay positive!!!

well, i have no advice.... but i am in the same situation......what i am doing is going at his pace, because i don't want to scare him away. I am going to wait until he opens up to me first....but he may get cold feet as well, so sheesh, it may very well turn into a vicious cycle, and both of us would never know how the other one feels....hmmmm sorry i couldn't help, just wanted to let you know that i am in your shoes

WOW!!! i am so in the dark here...uuummmm what is NC?? i think it may mean "No Contact" ? am i right??

Ok.....i have been very patient with this guy i am really intereted in. It has been since september that we have been talking, but he is very slooow at things. But i am unsure where i stand....He has taken me out like once a month, not really talking to me in between that much in the beginning...but he has been doing very well for the past month, has talked to me more, seen me more...he basically has opened up slowly but surely. He has only had one other girlfriend a while ago, so he may be inexperienced. but last weekend we hung out on friday, and things got hot and steamy...i ended up giving him head....he is the second person i have ever given head too. And i think i may have made a mistake because i do not know where i stand, becuase we haven't talked about it yet, i don't want to scare him off, so i am going to go at his pace and give him time to open up to me. But the thing is I haven't heard from him since that night....He walked me to the door, gave me a kiss, then walked away...then walked back and kissed my cheek and said he'll text me tomorrow (saturday) when he gets up. well he never did, and i haven't heard from him since I saw him online today for the first time this week, and he didn't IM me. I don't know what to think.....But he does this though...he disapears so to say. then he will show up again, and IM me to hang out....we don't do sexual stuff each time though, so i am not a booty call, i know he is interested, but can you tell me what you think of this situation. Please don't say "maybe you didn't give good head" becuase i do know how to, I gave oral to my ex plenty of times, and i am very good So if you could give me your take of what you might think is going on here, that would be great. thanks ~mimi20 ~The more you think about things, the weirder they seem. Take milk. Why do we drink *cow* milk?? Who was the guy who first looked at a cow and said, "I think I'll drink whatever comes out of these dangily things when I squeeze 'em."?~

Hi there.... First things first...I hold upmost respect for you for not jumping all over your girl and humping her brains out! Second, i am a 20 year old female, and a virgin as well.... Before i start, i have one question....Did your girlfriend initially want to wait until she was married before having sex??? I wanted to wait until i got married, and thought that even if i had met the person i wanted to marry, i would still wait..... BUT....i have met the most wonderful person, and i know that he will be the one to take my virginity one day...I have not told him this yet.....boy is he in for a surprise So if your girlfriend said this to you, take her seriously and really consider it. You care about her soooo much it seems, so why would you not want to share this intimacy with her??? especially since she WANTS to and is initiating it??? I don't know how serious your realtionship is, but if you truly are in love with her, and she wants to give you this wonderful gift...then take it with arms wide open, because you love her, and she loves you. OK now heres the advice: Before you two decide to do this, you need to sit down with eachother and talk about what you want and expect from it. maybe the reason you were apprehensive is becuase it was a little too spontaneous, and you didn't know how to go about it. Since she is a virgin, she will need extra tending love and care, and you should ask her how you can make this a very special experience for her. Her emotions will be all over the place, it will be so important to kiss and hold her after the act. haha so don't conk out on your pillow, i am sure that's not what you will do, but a friend of mine had a horrible first time similar to what i just said... And also, i don't suggest doing it on the couch in front of the television either...So after you two talk about it, and you tell her you are open to it, you should plan it out, make it an evening she won't forget. Take her out of town, to a beautiful place to stay the night. And if you decide to do this please, please don't forget protection!!!! Happy humping! mimi20

hi there, thanks for sharing.....i did forgot to mention something... I know that he had been VERY VERY hurt in his last relationship....she cheated on him with a guy he knew, so now he is definitely over her, she calls him, saying sorry, wants him back,but he doesn't answer, doesn't trust her, got hurt ect....so with this problem i know he doesn't want her back of course...but do you think that maybe he is going back and forth becuase whenever he feels he is getting closer to me, he will back away out of fear of getting hurt again??? I have never told him "i won't hurt you" becuase i could probly tell him this till i am blue in the face, because his last gf may have said that but she hurt him...so i feel that only my actions will prove this.....it just is frustrating, how he opens up, then disappears, but it is very emotionaly draining, so i may give him till the end of the month to come around and stay. Becuase i feel it is not healthy for me. I have done everything i could to not be clingy, needy, or desparate, I walk on egg shells so i won't scare him away. But i am thinking bout this constantly, trying to figure out IF i INDEED did something to push him away...and it really stresses me out.....the only reason i haven't "walked" is becuase i feel the most deep connection with him that i have never felt before, and i feel that if we were to have a relationship...he could very well be the love of my life....and when we are together i can feel his energy as well and i know he feels the same....but my dilemma is helping him to breakdown those walls, i don't know what to do or say that would help, WITHOUT SCARING HIM AWAY!!! ~mimi20

OK so i am VERY confused. I like a this guy VERY much, BUT....his behavior i am not getting, so i want to know what you think is goin on here. so here goes... Ok i feel a total connection with him, but i can't help but feel like there is this thick wall around him, and he won't let me in i really want to be in a realtionship with him...i have been very, VERY patient with him, for a little over 2 months, but when will he let me in? he has made progress but at the speed of molasses. His behavior is this: I won't hear from him for days at a time, I will text his phone a little smily face, and i get nuthin then the next day i get a text from him (He never calls me, it's always texts..it's like he is scared to call, he hasn't said he's scared, but it's only IM's online or cell phone texts, even when he asks me to go out or sumthin, he asks me in a text, or an IM online)...anyways as i was saying, the next day after i text him he texts me a little wink face. I was very excited, and text him, he text back, and i was at work so couldn't chat, but told him i would like to yak online later if he wants, he said ok...BUT he never signed on at the time we set i feel rejected, but he does this....he will be totally comfortable and the words just flow when we talk online, but then it's like he pulls away, and disapears for a few days, then i will hear from him when he is ready. It is very frustrating, but i feel he is worth all the effort, I never show him or tell him my frustrations, because i don't want to scare him away, when he does this i give him his space, and let him make the next contact when he is ready. I really want him to open up to me. When we are in eachothers company, he opens up but then i won't hear from him, then here he comes, a cute text or a sweet IM, then there he goes back in his cave. I feel he has feelings towards me when we are around eachother, i feel a deep connection, an unspoken one. Last friday we were in eachothers company, and it was the first time i really felt him open up and relax in my company...he was VERY affectionate and i really enjoyed it and reciprocated, but he said he would text me the next day, and he didn't, and i haven't heard from him since .... SOOOO... what i want to know from you guys is what should i do? am i doing the right thing by giving him space when he clams up and crawls in his cave? is this the cycle guys go through before they really want to commit to a girl? Also, when he does this to me and sort of stands me up, like he did with the online thing, i never bring it up, i will carry on like everything is fine when we talk next, is that the right thing? I have learned to be patient with him, because i feel it will be worth it in the end, i would never ever cheat on him or do anything to hurt him, i feel he is sort of precious. Even though he has this thick wall up around him, i can see through it and can see he is very sensitive. (I am very observant, so this is heloing me as well to understand him) I was wonderin' if guys do this all the time when they like a girl? and will he ever surrender to the feelings he has in his heart for me, and let the fears subside? I want him to trust me in everything, and i want him to know i will be there for him....Does the texts from me, like smily face or just a "hi" help breakdown the walls? should i not take it personal if he doesn't text back right away? is that him guarding himself? i am so confused.....Anyone give me any thoughts or advice.... It would be GREATLY appreciated....And also thanks for reading my extremely long post Yours truly, mimi20