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Hi Iori... well, I rarely post here, in fact I tried to post a reply and realised I had forgotten my password and had to get my account re-activated. So that just proves you're not worthless and people do care about you I know it's hard when you fall in love, or even just really like somebody and then find out they don't feel the same. There isn't a lot I can say to make you feel better right now, apart from that you could turn this into a positive thing. I think perhaps you could concentrate on making yourself a bit happier with your own life...study hard, do well at work, take up a hobby etc. You'll find that this might help take your mind off things and also it might make you more confident which would help when you're dating. As I said, there isn't a great deal I can say to actually make you feel better, but you can make yourself feel better, I promise Don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself time to feel better...and don't forget that people do care it's just people aren't very good at showing it a lot of the time. Take care.

Yeah, I also think you're over reacting a little bit, but its ok to be worried... the easiest thing to do would be explain to her! Just say something like "you remember the other night when I said looks aren't important? well, what I meant was that personality is more important to me. But I just wanted to tell you that I think you're very good looking and you have a great personality as well." Well, you know what I mean - just explain to her and it'll all be fine

Um...I don't remember ... it was probably my fiance but it was a long time ago lol

Wow. Show her what you just wrote, and make sure she knows there's no rush and you're not going anywhere. I think that's all you need to do

Ok, this might sound dumb, but maybe you could try learning some new things? I have had very bad depression and other problems for years and it has nearly got the better of me a lot of times..but I'm learning to try and accept it. Well, anyway, I found it's good to keep busy, so I started learning new things - even things I didn't have much of an interest in. I just tried a whole bunch of things online. Well, after everything I found design and art and music....well, now it keeps me busy and it gives me goals. And it's nice when people are impressed with what I do, so that helps with the confidence side of things as well. Hope that might help some. Take care x.

^ Well, let her know that if she doesn't want to date, there will be no hard feelings and you would still like to be friends. I'm sure it will be okay, you seem a lovely guy

Tell her That's all the advice I have - just tell her. You could email her if you're unsure, then you have plenty of time to think about what to say etc. And if you're worried that she doesn't like you back - well, at least if she doesn't, you'll know and then you can find time to move on. Good luck and don't worry, life's too short

Sorry to hear you have felt like you had nothing to live for, and I'm glad you're now past those times. Well, I love my partner very much, I have been with him for three years. But he has a temper problem - he doesn't hit me or anything like that - he just gets angry and finds things hard to deal with. He isn't a bad person, it stems from his childhood (and also the fact that our lives have been very stressful lately), and he's going to start anger management classes soon. But, at the moment, it's too hard to talk to him about how I feel as he gets too worked up in himself and it makes me very upset when he's like that In my past I took drugs and drank heavily. I quit drugs and drinking 2-3 years ago now though. And also, people get the wrong idea about me My partner's friends and family think I've ruined his life. And people I meet on the internet just don't understand about my illness and it hurts me when I'm treated like I don't exist by everybody. In regards to your last couple of sentences, I don't want to hurt anybody. I'm trying not to be selfish, I've been trying for years, but I really have nothing to live for. I can't think of one thing.

Thank you very much for the compliment....but I fear, I'm not a caring person in real life. I find it easier over here to try and be a nicer person, I don't know why. I mean, I try to be kind, but...I guess I just have a past/present that makes me seem bad.

Well, there is no chance I could get help. I have tried everything over the past two years to try to get better I'm not really sure, if there was a chance now, whether I would take it... I'm tired of life and I have no pleasure in anything. To be honest, I see no point in my life anymore as I have nothing and I'm just overwhelmingly miserable. Thanks for posting, by the way, PAdreamer.

Hi, no I haven't as I can't get to a doctor. I am agoraphobic to the point where I can't leave the house and my agoraphobia also means I cannot bear to be around anybody (apart from my partner) so I cannot even manage a house call. sorry.

I have had nothing left to live for for the past two years or so...not one thing And I wish to end my life... do you think it's justifiable, seeing as I really don't have anything left to live for. I have no pleasure or enjoyment or even tolerance of anything. Is this ok to anybody...I mean, is it reasonable to do this? Thank you.

Well, I don't really have any advice about your current situation, sorry...but I just wanted to say this. I was doing things really similar when i was a bit younger and I met my fiance that way... but, please, be careful. There is nothing wrong with flirting and having fun, especially when you're young, but if you're not careful it can lead you into bad situations Trust me. So please, take care, and I'm sure someone with better advice about your current situation will come along soon lol

Well, I didn't read your previous posts, but I'm guessing congrats are in order I've been there myself recently, and its a scary time! 8-[ So...Congratulaions! 8)

Hi, I'm in the UK as well... Like the others said, she isn't underage so there's no problem there. I think the only things you should be careful of are, firstly, make sure she really is 16. I don't want to put you off, but that's not a risk you want to take - meeting her parents as little242 suggested is a great idea Secondly, try to remember that she may act very mature but she is still only 16 and may find some emotional situations a little harder to handle etc, so bear that in mind. Oh, and make sure she isn't drinking in the pub or anything like that lol! I hope it all works well out for you