novabateman

Try getting this girls phone number. She should give it to you if she likes you. Get to know her and get past this shy thing or this dance could be quite akward getting past the ice. This will only make your experience at the dance worth while.

Look, you need to tell her that you have feelings for her. Girls just don't go upto guys and admit this kinda thing. You the man have to do it yourself. If you are too scared to do it right away then just start off small. Compliments are a plus. Tell her she's pretty in the middle of a conversation. This will really catch her off guard. Then just see how she reacts, if she reacts like she likes what she just heard then she could be interested. You need to show interest in her, just don't expect her friends to do it all for you. It's not the end of the world, let her know yourself and you will see the results will be much greater.

Lowkey is right. It's not you. You should just move on and pretend it does not bother you like she does towards you. Get on with your life the way you were before she came along. She seems very confused with her life right now but thats what happens when you are a teenager. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin either. You should wait and the right girl will come along one day. You might think now that she was meant for you and you can't see her with anyone else but that's natural. You will get that a lot growing up. Maybe someday when she is ready she will come back to you so you should just be a friend and be patient. It takes a long time for true feelings to develop so just be cool about it and most important, be her friend.

Get over being nervous if you really like her. You are can't be in love with her, you are just in love with what she shows you and what you have now with her. You should tell her how you feel as hard as it may seem.

If you know you're not in love with your ex then there is really no point in getting back with him. You would only be hurting him and yourself. My advice is to move on. If you really like this new guy then you should stick with him and see what happens. But if he was just the rebound guy you should break it off with him also if you're just gonna break his heart. Better safe than sorry.

I agree completely with usied. You have to tell him how you feel about him. He might feel the same about you and if you don't tell him both of you will be sorry in the end. He might be saying he's moving to get you to tell him how you feel. I know I have done that before. Bottom line is you should sit down and have a one on one talk with him.

What I would try and I can say that it has worked for me is you should find something about her and compliment her on it. Say something like, "I like what you have done with your hair, it makes you look even more beautiful than the last time I saw you." It could definetely change the way she looks at herself. It would help give her some confidence in her image. She would go home and think about that. And she would want to improve herself for you so the next time you see her, she looks even better. It's worth a shot. Besides, whats wrong with telling a friend that they are pretty?? Nothing at all.

I used to think the same thing when I was younger but your day will come when you will meet the girl you've always been waiting for. It took me over 21 years to finally meet the one i've been waiting for.

Thanks for the advice jenneke and debaser. I was starting to think I wasnt gonna get any response for this. I really appreciate your help. I will try to talk to her without being a nervous wreck about it.

Hey everyone, this is my first time posting on here and I must say this site seems like a brilliant place to find advice. Ok heres my story, my name is Colin and i'm 22 years old. A little over a year ago I met this 24 year old married girl at work. Her name is Sherry. At first site I thought she was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. Turns out, her husband Brian worked there too. He's 32 and he is pretty cool but very arrogant. I knew she was off limits, so I didnt really try to get to know her. I knew if I did, I would have feelings for her because she was so sweet to me. I dont want to fall for a married girl or anything. Well everything was just fine till her husband quit. Thats when everything changed. After he left she started paying a lot of attention to me. Which at first, was very akward and scary but nice too. I knew I couldnt have her, but she still made it a point to see me everyday. It all started with compliments. She would compliment me, I would compliment her. She would say things like, "If I wasnt married I would want to be with you" and "You're like a prince". She said she had a low self esteem growing up. So I always wanted to make her feel better about herself by telling her how beautiful she was and things like that. She would say ,"The only time Brian tells me i'm beautiful is when we're going out, and thats like once a month." Things got worse for me. I would go home and think about her all time. I knew that if I let this continue, I might regret it in the end. She would come to me when she was mad at her husband and I would ask her to talk to me and she would. She would tell me he is such an a-hole and she couldnt stand being with him. She would tell me she doesnt love him anymore, then she would say, "Why don't I just get a divorce and let you take care of me"... Well to make a long story a little bit shorter, these kind of things continued for months. We would get these long romantic glares a lot. She wouldnt even have to say anything, I would just look at her and she would have this glare in her big beautiful eyes.... and all I wanted to do was kiss her and take her away from everything. And start a new life with her. But I knew I couldnt. It was not right for me to be thinking like this, even though it just felt so right. Why did God place the girl of my dreams right in front of me when I would never be able to love her for a single second?? The only way I would ever have a chance of being with her was if she got a divorce. But I did not have the power to help her make a decision, that was in her own hands and she had to figure that out for herself. We had eventually came to an agreement that we would stop talking to eachother as often as we did, and try to move on with our lives, because maybe it just wasnt meant to be. This was something that I had to do because it was killing me to hold onto somethng that I may never see. Now, about 3 months have gone by since we had that talk, and I still feel the exact same for her. I can't get these feelings to go away no matter how hard I try, no matter who I meet. I really think I might be in love with her. But now get this, some of my best friends knew this 21 year old girl that they insisted I meet. A niece of a 39 year old guy we know. So he wants to set me up with her because he wants her to meet a nice guy. I accepted this date and it was on Oct. 2nd. I still talked to Sherry but just as friends, the spark seems to have vanished. I never wanted to show on the outside that I needed her because that would make me look weak. I wanted her to think I was moving on with my life, even though I never stopped thinking about her. She seemed happy, and I was happy for her. Maybe he treats her better. I only want her to be happy, even if it means I will never love her. Well about 3 days before my date, she comes up and talks to me about what she did the night before. Her best friend Katy took her out to Buffalo Wild Wings. Katy had some of her friends come out there and one of them was my friend Justin. He talked to Sherry about me and it was cool. She said she had fun that night. So I told her I had a big date this weekend and filled her in on the details. She seemed supprised and all. Then after I said that, she tells me that her and Brian got separated. That just blew me away. I was like, "WHAT"?? She tells me again. I was shocked. She didnt really have time to fill me in on why they separated but I think I have an idea. So after that she didnt really talk to me much. I would walk past her and she wouldnt even look at me. Finally I went up to her and asked her if she was mad at me.. She said she wasnt. So we talked for a little bit and that was that. But now, it seems I have to go to her if I want to talk to her, she doesnt come up to me anymore, and I am just having all these crazy emotions pass through me. Is she mad because I had a date? I don't want to screw this up over a stupid blind date, because if things go my way, and I pray to God that they do, she might be my girl someday. This was the first date I would have been on since I stopped talking so much to Sherry. So I called it off. I don't care how perfect that girl would have been... Sherry is the only girl I have ever wanted. I want to date her but I think she needs time. And I know she needs space, but how much do I give? Do I tell her that I still have these feelings for her? If she keeps hanging out with her friends, she might meet another guy. I really think i'm in love with her. Sorry this story was so long, but I had to get as much out as I could so you readers out there would really see my situation. Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.