melancholy123

OMG! I'd kick him to the curb. This is wrong on so many levels. so she says she is ok with this, she may be lying to you because he's told her it's their little secret and not to tell you because you wouldn't understand! Surely you know just how wrong this is. All hell will break loose if her friends find out and one tells their parent about this and that parent calls the cops. You cant prove he hasn't touched her or even raped her. You just dont know that, but it is your job to protect your 14 yr old daughter! Or any other 14 yr old girl in your house.

Bad idea to contact him. Seraphim is right, remember the forsaking all others part? You give yourself closure by moving on and not dwelling on the past and contemplating contact. Work on your marriage.

I have never heard of so many issues with a pregnancy and honestly, if that was me, I would never get pregnant again. I assume you are under a doctor's care at the moment and he/she is doing what they can to help you. I'd find it way too risky to go for another child.

Yup ignore him, block and delete everywhere. He can rant and rave all he wants and you dont have to hear it. If you are not together anymore, he has no right telling you what you can and cannot o.

You really need a lawyer.

You teach people how to treat you. You've taught him that you will do everything for him and so you get nothing in return because he doesn't have to do anything. Back off on the things you do, lie running his bth, that's crazy. A grown man can fill a bathtub himself or he can take a shower. Yes I get he's tired at the end of the day but he needs to contribute something. If you really cant handle this lopsided relationship you may need to leave it and find someone who will treat you better. He really is taking advantage of you, because you let him.

I think you are young but not dumb, just inexperienced due to your age. I would not move in with him and his mother, you know she doesn't want you, you dont want to be there with her. As stated, if you can afford her rent, you can afford another place, without her. You dont want to be where you aren't comfortable. Find your own pace. At 18 you are going to change so much in the next 10 yrs or so, things will be vastly different by then.

Nobody is the same person they were 15 yrs ago, even you, and her for sure. We all grow up and change. You are living in the past. She's made herself clear and you need to understand that and back off.

With age comes wisdom. This is all new to you and it takes time to become comfortable in a new place and that is what you are experiencing. Dont give up. make friends with your roomies. Make friends where you work. In a short time you should feel much more relaxed and when it's time to move abroad you won't think twice!!

I would call this the behaviour of an a$$hole. Why are you still there? I think you need to take your child and your stuff and move out.

Ridiculous. She's trying to control who your friends are and who you interact with. This won't get better if she's the petty jealous type which she sounds like to me.

You said you dont want to lose her but I think you already have. She's just not into you like you are into her.

She needs to go see her doctor or a therapist for some help. I dont know if she has anxiety or is just an ornery person. She will push you away sooner or later with her actions. My son's gf has anxiety and she's generally quiet but pleasant. She was put on the wrong meds for a while and wasn't very pleasant but a change of meds made a huge difference to her, she is much happier. A male friend says he has anxiety, and as much as I like him, he can be hard to be around as he cant sit still and fidgets constantly. He is not one to go to a doctor unless he's half dead, tho he'd probably benefit from some medical intervention.

I have a vertical caesarean scar that I think looks pretty awful so I understand your concern. However you are getting way ahead of yourself when you haven't even actually met him! You need to plan a coffee meet up with him and see how it goes. He may have an attribute he or you find not so pleasant! you just dont know. If you both truly like each other your stretch marks aren't going to matter.

Bossy control freak

My guess is he's going crazy with the new found freedom of being at college and hanging with like minded people and they are drinking together. This should pass in time as the novelty wears off along with the hangovers. If he cant or won't make time for you then you may need to move on. Dont compromise your athletics in order to hang out with him and his buddies.

This is the best response I've seen among all of the other good responses.

I dont think this is the guy for you as you two are on totally different wavelengths when it comes to kids and buying houses. I actually agree with you, I had my first child ay 30, no way was I ready before that. Dont let anyone talk you into having a child before you are ready. You are the one who will do most of the care taking of the child, no matter what he says, and if you want to travel or anything else first, you need to do that. So you already have a mortgage on a house, it'd be foolish to get another mortgage on another house so soon. Can you even afford a second mortgage should the relationship fail? I think he's way too pushy and I really hope you dont let him talk you out of the things you want to do.

He's taking monetary advantage of you because you let him. $340 a month doesn't cover much. He needs to ante up more towards all household things. If you plan to. keep the house in your name only, then you should pay the mortgage on it. The rest needs to be more fair.

Was this fling before you? If so none of this matters. Her name isn't going to help you with anything. It really doesn't matter. How old are you? You sound very jealous which is an awful trait to have. If you cant trust him you need to move on.

An ex is an ex for a reason. I'd block and delete her, to be honest. Stop following her.

I'd let it go, she doesn't sound like even a half reasonable friend, she sounds like a pain in the butt. Very immature of her to act the way she has been. No need for a letter to say good bye, I've had enough. Just let it go. I've had friends that have drifted off and it's better to just move on in life thank dwell on them and their childish reactions.

Give yourself time to process this. You did what you could but you cant save someone from themselves. I had a friend die from ALS, a horrible way to die. He was like a brother to me and it shocked me and tore me apart. nobody could have saved him and it ws an atrocious way to go. Find a way to celebrate her life.

Has he seen his doctor lately? Perhaps there's something going on a doctor can help with.

Maybe he is!