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Everything posted by melancholy123

  1. I disagree. I can smell a smoker as I am not one. Most non smokers can smell cigarettes quite easily.
  2. Having red this, I change my answer. I would not go meet her. She really over reacted to this and I suspect she wants something from you now.
  3. I have type 2 diabetes and you are setting yourself up for a miserable existence if you int take care of yourself. You may be ok now but you won't stay that way.
  4. I say go, but dont expect much. I think curiosity will get to you (as it would me) and you will want to go to see what she wants. Dont expect anything big or revelational, or that you will end up friends. Myself, anyone who dumps me as a friend probably cant slink back into my life and resume being a friend. I'd wonder what they are up to or what they want. Go but be skeptical.
  5. You are a fool to put up with this. There is no good, valid reason to continue on with her when she does what she wants yet tries to control what you do and ho you see. It's her way or the highway, so let her sit in the express lane. Smarten up! Move on from this woman.
  6. WRONG! You are not happy with that guy and you really need to grow a backbone and move on from him. He doesn't sound like he gives a sh1t about you anyway. Dont settle for a guy who isn't giving you what you want and need.
  7. Mt husband used to sound like a chain saw when he snored. I used ear plugs for many years. Then I asked our chiropractor about this and he said send him in! Well he adjusted his sinus area and he. now doesn't snore. It's been years since he tuned up that old chainsaw in the middle of the night! I highly recommend a good chiropractor!
  8. I think a large part of the sis your ages, you two are so young and neither of your brains are fully mature yet. She may well be overwhelmed with life in general and just needs a break. Life is hectic for almost everyone including her. I say back off a bit and leave her alone for a while.
  9. Take yourself to therapy, even if he won't go. You need some help to navigate this. Also talk to a lawyer to establish child support which he has to pay.
  10. This is not going to end well. I'd bet it's been going on a lot longer than he says. You should talk to a lawyer - soon.
  11. Can you muster the ability to go to her place for an hour or so? Then leave and go to your family's event. My MIL was a psycho *** from hell and I used to encounter arguments with my husband when I didnt want to go to events when she would be there as she was always nasty to me. I got the usual - you are not supportive, my whole family will be there! He knew how s he treated me but he didnt get it that she hurt me a lot! So I'd go, and be really pissy about the whole thing. In the end after a few yrs I told him no, I am not going, your mother is too nasty to me. He eventually gave up hassling me about this. He learned to go to things by himself. He now admits. he understands why I felt like I did. I say fake it if you can, but if you cant, then tell him no you are not going, and have a good time I'll see you when you get back.
  12. I think you are probably in shock and her loss hasn't actually hit you yet. Be kind to yourself and remember we all grieve differently. It doesn't mean you are wrong or bad to not feel much of anything. My mother and I had a bad relationship for decades and I felt nothing when she died, and 10 yrs later I still dont feel bad. Dont beat yourself up.
  13. OMG are you actually that shallow? You cant change people, they have to want to change. Maybe he is fine with how he looks. You need to let this go and move on to someone who meets your requirements.
  14. This post is bizarre. Are you always this jealous and suspicious? They cant do much in 10 minutes if something was going on!
  15. OMG! Slow down! Date 2 and you want to get her in bed! ***? Like others said, go for a walk, get outside. Dont try to get laid so fast, you will most likely scare her away. Much too soon for this.
  16. You need to dump his sorry ass and find a guy who is decent and not a liar.
  17. When I learned to stop worrying about what others thought of me and what I did or said my life got a lot better. I tried to tow the line and do all the typical things my mother thought I should do with my life even tho they didnt work for me. I stopped trying to be what others wanted me to be and worked on being what I wanted to be. Then I became a lot happier. I am not interested in trying to be better than anyone, keep up with the Jones's etc. I do what works for me! Learn to be yourself and dont dwell on what others want or expect you to do.
  18. My brother and his wife never had kids as they didnt want them. My neighbours dont have kids as they didnt want them. Many of. my friends dont have kids, they didnt want them. There is nothing wrong with that choice. Sometimes I wish I never had kids, I have 2 grown kids. I love them but my life could have been a lot simpler if I didnt.
  19. He needs to get help for his own depression, you cant fix him. I'd walk away if I was you.
  20. My son was at home til about 22 and he was in college a lot of that time and came home when school ended. He was a slob in his own room and I used to get on him to tidy up but he just didnt care if it was a mess. So along as his door was closed I didnt care. He did pick up after himself in the rest of the house as he knew he had to. We had our battles about chores like mowing the lawn, shovelling snow etc and he learned he had to do it as part of being in the family. He learned to do his own laundry at 13 and was good about that. I suggest you sit your kid down and tell her as long as she does not have a job she needs to contribute to the household by doing X chores. Give her a list, tidy up, vacuum, wash dishes or load or unload the dishwasher, do her own laundry. Whatever you think is reasonable. Point out she can help out or she can leave. My son did nothing after a return from college and about a month into his laziness I said get a job or go back to school. He signed up for another college course. You are supposed to be in charge here, not her. Develop a backbone and assign some chores along with consequences if they aren't done.
  21. This ^^^. The guy is an abusive jerk who is alienating you from your family. Do you really want to live like this? He sounds awful.
  22. You really need to develop a backbone and send this loud mouth jerk packing. Kick his sorry butt to the curb along with his junk. You know full well his yelling and cussing is not how people talk to other people. Only jerks do that. Get rid of him before your landlord gets rid of you.
  23. My husband does something like this. He divides his days into time for the main things he wants to do and accomplish. He can easily get raked in and over focus on one thing to the detriment of other things. He works his day in hourly segments, you could try that, or use a calendar if you think that would be better.
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