melancholy123

What are you afraid of?

Dont reply. Block and delete him on social media and your phone. Throw out the letter. Move on from this. He is not your responsibility.

I think he was being your typical immature 17 yr old boy. Nothing more than that. It doesn't mean he's got problems, just he's busy being a teenager.

I think it's a sign of good mental health and maturity that you can see clearly that he was not the person for you. Be glad you feel that way. Some people cry and carry on for ages when they'd have been further ahead to look logically at what had happened rather than being so emotional about it. I had someone in my life die and I was not upset at all. That person was almost never nice to me, I never felt like they cared about me, and in some was it was a relief when they were gone as they could not ever hurt me again.

How about you add your DIL to the group chat thing so then she is included? Is it really that big of a deal to do that? In the interest of peace keeping it might help. She sounds bristly to me so good luck dealing with her.

So Pam is full of sh1t. Stop interacting with her so much since you know she's full of it! She sounds annoying with her lies and wild stories and you sound so very over involved. What is your point in telling us all of these things about Pam? You seem to see her for what she is (a liar) so stop hanging out with her so much. You can be cordial without being in the middle of her ife.

I think you are way too involved in Pam's life and you need to distance yourself from her. You don't appear to actually like her or how she conducts her life. What do you care if she buys a house or not? You said she'll never leave her mother. Back off from Pam and develop some other interests or friends and let Pam live her life as she sees fit. Just because you dont agree with it, doesn't make it wrong.

You have no idea about me. I am closer to the age of that old woman you have not ben kind to than I am to you and I've been married for along time to a great guy and we do have a healthy relationship. My saying shallow is in regards to you making sure we know the guy is good looking which in the end is irrelevant as to what he is like as a person!

Wow too much drama. I'd skip this wedding if I was you.

Bitter is the exact word I thought.

You dodged what I said quite nicely. You made sure we knew he was good looking as you said it a few times but that doesn't make anyone a good person. Common interests and hobbies are more important than a pretty face. I said your comments about this woman were insulting to older people and you dodged that too going on about how unhealthy this woman looks to be. Maybe she is not healthy, maybe she just looks unwell but is actually not ill. You cant paint all older adults with the same brush. Maybe this guy wants her for harmony, if she has any. Who knows! Somehow you need to get over this. You got dumped and you are hurting but it's wrong to slam older people who are not as attractive as they once were.

So you liked him because he was good looking? That's a pretty shallow reason to like someone. People are more than their looks. I found your comments about this older woman to be insulting to all of the older people out there, male and female.

Either sell the tickets or go with a friend. I'd forget about this guy and find someone locally.

I'd forget about him and move on. If he cant answer a simple question, what's the point? He sounds like a flake.

So is this guy your husband or your bf? You need to get way from him and keep your child safe. I would talk to a lawyer just to clarify any questions you have. Avoid your parents at all costs.

We moved from my childhood house to the burbs when I was 15. I didnt really want to go, as it was all I knew. But it was all fine. You make new friends, discover a new area etc. It's not that big off a deal in the end. You should look forward to change!

You're welcome! Give mother a guest limit number, and don't leet her go over it. You may need to repeat your wishes a number of times but keep doing it and hopefully she will eventually get it.

You cant be serious. This must be a fake post. If it is real, then you need to divorce him and go play that game and send underwear photos to strange men that you don't know. There's something wrong with both of you.

My. husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves in order to keep my mother from having any say in it. End of story. She would have pushed us into many thing we did not want had she had her way, so us paying the bill eliminated that huge miserable possibility. So you and your intended need to pay the bill for your wedding yourselves then you can do as you please. It really stinks when parents get in the middle of things that are not about them and often ruin what the couple actually wants.

As a Canadian I really don't get the need to have a gun.

I wonder if he's got a lady friend on the side, his way of talking to you is mean and demeaning. You might want to contact lawyer and have your dusk's in a row in case he leaves or throws you out.

I don't have the issue you have so I would tolerate the mean person for a few minutes and then I'd look at them and say in a calm voice - will you kindly knock it off? If they persist I'd repeat myself a bit louder and then louder again if it carried on. People who do things like that need to be told to stop.

Dont assume I've never been there as I have. I've seen someone I really cared about with another woman and it hurt me badly. So I do understand. However you cannot let it affect or ruin your life. Life goes on and you have to pick yourself up and move on from unpleasant things.

I have an ex husband and I hadn't heard from him hin in over 30 years, which was fine with me. One day I got an email from him asking how my life had been. A mutual friend had given him my email address. I wrote back and said I was fine and asked how he was. He told me about his life, briefly, and sent a couple of photos of his house. That was the end of it. We established we were both still alive and that was enough.

I wouldn't go if I was you. An ex is an ex for a reason. Being friends seems odd to me, since you are broken up. Even meeting for coffee seems like a bad idea to me.