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  1. You are right! When being in the middle of it all with your heart being into it as well its not always easy to over see. I can believe people can idealise a relationship with someone else because their current one didn't give enough pleasure. Anyways, definitely not worth it. Really dont appreciate the fake promises, further more prove he isnt right though. Thank you!
  2. Unfortunately yes. I did block him everywhere. Seeing someone else is not a priority right now, not really feeling like dating at the moment. But working on myself would be an idea!
  3. Hi everyone! I posted a post last month, you can find it back in my previous ones. Long story short: A man I dated four years ago for almost a year recently told me he never really got over me, even while having a girlfriend for three years, and asking if I want to try again because he never felt a connection like this before. When we were dating everything was always good, never a fight and it felt secure and nice. He moved to another city and so did I. We grew out of the dating but remained friends. He broke up with his girlfriend (but never told her the reason of bei
  4. Thank you both for the replies! It gave me some new insight, Im glad I posted it here 🙂 Im gonna call him in an hour and talk about this, will also suggest a time out for a while. I think it would be good to use this time to work on myself as well. Feels like the right thing to do. Much appreciated!
  5. Thank you for the reply! He did break up with her. I know this guy for years (this is a privilege at least haha) and I always found him to be very trustworthy and a good man in general. I do think he likes me, we always had a great connection, I felt that too. But the way I see it, he now realizes how hard it is to give up a three year long relationship. I think he thought it would be easier. At least, I hope you are not right 🙃
  6. Hi lovely people, I havent been dating for some months, had numerous bad relationships and I thought it would be good to take some time to myself. I dated a guy four years ago, didn't really work out at the time without a significant reason, I just wasnt ready to commit fully. From all the guys Ive dated our relationship was the most stable, never a problem and we had a great connection. The last four years we decided to stay friends. He got a new girlfriend some months after and she was ok with us meeting from time to time. I have to admit I always had a weak spot for him, but
  7. Thank you for replying! Sounds like a tough time with your mom. For my point of perspective I never really pushed people away. People did push me away and let me down, and not for being a debby downer. I had a bad habit of finding people who werent good for me in the past. Maybe lately ive been more distant, more careful and a little more on my own. But still keeping contact with friends, just a little less. Actually I hide my depression, which can be exhausting too of course, not changing the mood to a negative vibe. I feel ashamed for it and dont want to burden people with it. Could be the
  8. Thank you for replying! I am currently seeing my my doctor and were still talking about the process. I Will contact her again about the medication. Hopefully it could help a bit.
  9. Thank you for the reply! I am working out more often and it is always a relieve. Hiking and biking mostly, but maybe I should try out other options too. This is good, I am curious what it would do for me if I try it more often. Thanks! Im sorry for your dad, must have been hard on you too.
  10. Hi lovely people, Ive come to seek out for some advice again. Its something I could discuss with my therapist, but she is on holidays for a month. I wonder what the experience or opinion is from like minded people. Ive been coping with depression for a while. I remember starting with therapy was a new step in to a positive direction. Still I do feel depressed and very negative. We started processing trauma therapy some months ago. Talking about all this makes me realize that its not weird to think negative, but on the other hand its so hard to see the world in a different view. Ive
  11. Hey amazing people, Im not doing so well lately. Things have been going better, but since a month a lot of things happened and I feel my mindset going back to a negative state. I have thoughts Im starting to believe again ("I am not fun", "no one really likes me", "who can I trust?"). Ive been in therapy for three years now. Im asking for advice, because I notice every week Im feeling a bit worse then the week before. Where I had hope before now its hard to feel at least a bit positive in a day. Ive stopped dating a guy last month, didn't work (as I told in my last post). This made a di
  12. Great advice, will definitely remember this. Thank you!
  13. Definitely not enough, and I wont be there for another run. This is not what I want at all. It did happen before that I didn't want a relationship while dating someone. I was always clear about my intentions/feelings tho, not pretending like I was in love with someone, asking for another chance, only to tell them later that I wasnt. Thank you for the reply!
  14. Im gonna study those last paragraphs so I wont forget. I think you are absolutely right. I believe rose coloured glasses are a real thing, I can see more clearly now in which ways he wasnt the right fit for me either. It still stings but Im glad to have an answer. Personally its hard for me to understand why he would ask for a second change, actually prove that he made major changes and act like/say he likes me and in the end not want anything serious. What is the purpose of it all? Me and his mindsets are probably not on the same page. Thank you for replying!
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