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Everything posted by melancholy123

  1. I see two possible things here, one is that he is breaking up with you due to all of the issues on his plate at the moment and the vast distance between you two. The other is he is telling you the truth and you need to cut him some slack. For now leave him be, concentrate on yourself and your own needs.
  2. My husband wanted us to be married because we had a baby on the way after living together for about 7 years. He thinks parents should be married, for the security of the child. Kind of an old fashioned view now. I was content to live with him but I truly love him and had no problem agreeing to marry him. Back in the olden days my great grandparents lived together. Gr grandma had 3 kids from a previous marriage where that man had died. The gr grandparents lived together for a long time, raising the kids, until they discovered if he died, gr grandma would get no money or anything else as she was not his legal wife. So they got married and she got his estate when he died. Life is different now so it's not necessary to be married to inherit someone's things and money. If I found myself single again I wouldn't to get. married, because, why? I'm not having anymore kids, my kids are grown. I could live with someone but see no need to get married. Also, you dont need to spend $20K on a wedding! City Hall is cheap! Whatever you decide to do, see a lawyer and have a plan.
  3. Stop trying to contact this person as they clearly are not interested. You are only hurting yourself with your persistence. Develop new hobbies, friends etc. Dont let yourself dwell on this guy. Stop crying.
  4. Putting his hands down your pants on the 2nd date - well that would have been the last date if that happened to me. Why is this ok with you? It is just plain creepy. If you stick with this guy you better be prepared for anal sex...I'd tell him to hit the road.
  5. At the moment seems like you are indeed a placeholder. Is this ok with you?
  6. OMG I sure hope you have vowed to yourself that you will never, ever, get that hammered again. I also hope you have blocked and deleted this guy from ever contacting you again. Sounds like date rape to me but I am not a cop or lawyer. Did you call the police? Go to the ER? If you were that drunk, how did you manage to get in a cab, go to his place, attempt to do work on a computer? Did it not occur to you that if you lay on his bed beside him, that he might want to have sex with you?
  7. What is it you want from this relationship, such as it is? Do you think he's your bf or do you want him to be? You really need to have a talk with him.
  8. I think you need to go back to counselling, this has gone on far too long for you.
  9. Good! I think there may have been yet another person in the back seat that you could not see.
  10. CBC I read every word you wrote. I think he's hiding something from you and he didnt like you touching his car door handle. There could have been more than a sleeping kid in the car. He's up to something, you may never know what it is. I hope you come to realize you are better off without him.
  11. I wonder if he's married or living with a woman since you aren't supposed to go to his house and havent met his kids. I think he viewed you as too pushy and definitely nervy for showing up at his house. All in all you are better off to move on from this guy. Something is wrong somewhere, there's a lot of possibilities.
  12. You even need to ask what to do? Tell him to hit the f***ing road! He is absolutely disgusting. Why would you believe anything he says? Anyone who tells anyone they stink, on a regular basis, should be told to be gone. Block and delete him now!
  13. I have someone like that in my life and when that happens I distract myself any way I can and make myself focus on something else. It all takes time!
  14. Go to HR and tell t hem about this person. Do not ever yell back or get loud, you want her to look the fool not yourself.
  15. Daughter and family need to contact social services for some help in getting a place of their own to live in. Your GF could make the initial phone call and get the ball rolling if daughter won't. If it's as bad as you say the children's aid may end up involved because of the kids.
  16. OMG this is easy to figure out when you are at a distance like we are. Buddy wanted to get laid and you obliged. That's all it was. You should not have been so eager to have sex with a total stranger. How do you know he doesn't have any social diseases? You dont. So he got what he wanted and he's moved on. Block and delete him and learn from this.
  17. WAY too soon to contemplate marriage! I think he's up to something, lots of red flags with this guy. Personally, I'd be gone.
  18. I think she is possibly jealous that you have gone on to marry again, have a child, got a good job and live in a new area. She may also have the"grass is greener" feeling. She wanted to get away from you, finished her medical schooling and now it isn't quite what she had in mind, but you look like you've got it made in the shade compared to her.e I do agree you need to end this "friendship." It serves no purpose for you that you mention. If I was your wife I would not be too pleased you kept inn contact with her.
  19. You said in your original post that you see each other once a month! Which is it?
  20. A company won't be loyal to you, so you need to be loyal to yourself which means looking for a new job.
  21. All people named Karen and their friends and families will thank you if you don't ever say that again. It's unfortunate someone thought the was a good way to slam someone they didnt like.
  22. What Dancing Fool said! Block and delete in all possible ways. Never respond to him again.
  23. My daughter's name is Karen so I wish people would not call mean/negattive people Karen. Dust off your resume and start looking for a new job.
  24. If your current therapist is not helping, find another one. Do NOT marry someone you don't trust, it will never work.
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