I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I’m turning 18 years old soon and have a full-time job while I attend college full-time. But when I was in my last year of high school my single parent moved hours away to help my brother and sister-in-law with their first born. I decided not to move in the middle of nowhere with them and began staying at my grandparents. I stayed there for a month, staying in the living room, until one of my uncles began crashing there as well. There wasn’t enough space so I decided I would start staying at my boyfriends (with his and his mother’s permission) a few nights out of the week— it slowly became every night of week.
My boyfriends single mother decided that we would both began paying rent. Which is more than fair. Then we had to move because the lease was up. She’s expressed how she doesn’t think we should be living together at such a young age... I agree. But in my culture it isn’t as shameful to. She also said “ I didn’t want her to move in, but her f****** mother left her” when my boyfriend brought up moving out with me, which wasn’t my idea at all. I walked away and began to cry, she apologized but it hurt me deeply. Especially since my boyfriend didn’t defend me.
That situation has affected me deeply. I don’t want to move in with them because of it but my boyfriend insist I still do.
She also excludes me often. For example, we are finally moving into the new place this weekend, but she told my boyfriend that she just wants him and her to start to. Making me feel excluded, like It’s not going to be my home as well. So I’ll be staying at a family members house while they stay at the house during the weekend and move things in.
I want to move in with my boyfriend but I feel uncomfortable with how his mother feels and behaves towards me. I know I’m unwanted by her and can feel it, but my boyfriend insist that’s not true.
I need advice, I’m young and dumb. I’m probably being inconsiderate or overly sensitive, but I want to hear from others on the situation. I know it was my decision to stay but moving away when I already had a job, applied for the local college, and in a relationship would be devastating.