earthfairy

Yeah I've tried, she just doesn't listen... or she straight out says she doesn't want to talk about it. And its not like I would marry one of these guys, I just enjoy hanging out with them... and they are really interesting people, they live life how they want. Thanks for the advice though, maybe I'll let her cool off and try again.

I have not had the best experiences in the past dating highschool guys my own age. They are either very immature, very perverted, can't carry on a conversation, or just don't have anything in common with me. But the other night I went to a concert with my older sister and her boyfriend's friends. I enjoyed myself, and two of the guys in particular I really hit it off with. They were very different from the boys I ussually meet, and I felt so much more like myself around them. They are 18 and 20. I'm not looking for anything serious, but I would like to hang out with them more... become friends. They invited me to another concert next week. The thing is my Mom is not willing to let me hang out with these boys. They are, I will admit, not currently enrolled in a college, but they do have jobs. My Mom told me that I may not hang out with boys like that... boys that listen to hardcore and are not in school. She thinks it will rub off on me. I am currently taking three Advanced Placement classes in my junior year of high school. I am the youth elder at my church (a church governement position). I think that I deserve more trust. The thing is, my sister did not turn out as well and my Mom seems to treat me as if I am just like her and will act just like her. My sister showed signs of this all along though, while I have been responsible. I feel like I have finally found people who I can really fit in with, and enjoy being around. I have finally found a guy who I feel is right for me... as a friend or otherwise. Having this taken away from me just when I find it is torture. I am not looking for people to tell me if what I am doing is right or wrong... because I feel in my heart that this is what I want. I am looking for advice on how to convince my mother that I will not change by hanging out with these boys, and that she can trust me to continue to be responsible. Also, is it really that wrong that they have finished highschool and are now working for a while before they begin to take college classes? Help! (By the way, I'm sixteen)

Hey guys, I appreciate the comments. I will never change who I am for a guy. I am a happy person, and I don't have social anxiety. I feel at ease in large crowds, and guys seem to like me. I guess what I'm trying to say is that its not getting the guys thats the problem, its keeping them. I can never think of anything to talk about when I'm around a guy for a really long time that would keep both of us interested. Maybe I just need to find a guy who's a good conversationalist, or has similar interests. Any more suggestions on good topics to talk about?

So I'm sixteen, I go to an all girls school, and I'm trying to enjoy life. I want a boyfriend to share this joy with, someone to be my friend and like me for me. The problem is that I don't meet too many guys going to an all girls school. I have had several boyfriends, but they often tell me I'm "too quiet". Is that such a crime? Do guys really prefer obnoxious loud people? Maybe thats a bit extreme, but I just feel like I have to act crazy to get a guy to like me... I have to change... because guys seem too apathetic to get to know the real me, even if it might take longer. If I act crazy, guys for some reason think I'm letting the "real me" show... when really I'm hiding what I believe to be an "even better" me. I'm not looking for a soul-mate or anything, but I just want to find a fun guy who will take me for who I am... a friendly, intellectual, peaceful girl who is in love with life. Where can I find him?? Also, guys don't seem too excited to talk about the same things as I do, they prefer the low-pressure topics that you could talk about without thinking. Any suggestions on how to talk to guys?

i think its theres a scientific theory that says people are attracted to those of the opposite sex who look similar to them... similar features, skin color, hair color, etc. This isn't always true, but does this girl look like you or have similar mannerisms now that you think of it? idk, just a guess

So you've had your first breakup. It sucks, doesn't it. The first time you learn to love everything is so new, so wonderful, so perfect. Then it happens. They stop loving you (or so it feels like). They leave and you are left with something even more emotion-packed than your first love.... your first crushed heart. This happened to me a couple years ago, and I went through a long period of depression... ups and downs, highs and lows, mostly lows, and sometimes huge lows. I still have things to work out with my ex, but mostly with myself. I have to find out what makes me happy, I have to learn to be at peace with myself, I have to learn to love again. You don't have to stop loving your ex, treasure your memories, pray for her, give her a special place in your heart... "my first love"... and then remind yourself that you will make it, and you will keep living your life, keep finding things to smile about, and keep on loving. Your heart is capable of loving more than you can imagine. I'm sorry you are going through this, but no matter how low you get, remember that so many people have and are going through what you are right now. Good luck! And you can talk or vent to me anytime, I know what you are going through.

hello

a harmless lie i once was told, an innocent saviour and i was sold, my picture book bible a fairy tale bold, adventure and love you will never be cold a harmless lie i was scared to leave, my entire world it was there to relieve, a tender youth in Cinderella believed, and my world was forming too quickly to conceive a harmless lie that watched over the nation, turned patriotic caused quite a sensation, an angel, a flag gods special creation, room for one fairytale our fairytale nation a harmless lie has been bastardized, question your faith as a young child cries, what good is it now the writer sighs, the mirage is fading as one more dies a harmless lie say it with conviction, these words i write are my own sedition, i will take back the truth and throw out your fiction, my saviour, Jesus his is my mission a harmless lie misconceived stone, taking back empty words so what if i'm alone, love is the allegory we are only made of bone, did you see him rise up? come death did he moan? a harmless lie a fraudulent mistake, they took his words and from them take hate, a fairytale is now defiled yet from this land i will awake, i will take back the truth they stole this, his mission, for love's sake ~EarthFairy... comments?

wash away my tears of blue i want to have a crystal view show me how to feel once more brushing my lips up to yours rediscover this wondrous world i dance around you, watch me twirl please be patient, it has been a while since this young girl has given a smile leave me room to stretch and grow heart is mending, innocent doe bubbling water, mountain air a rare orchid, do i dare? i lost my dear to someone else these blue tears soon will melt take me away and teach me to breathe show me today, reach out please i lost myself along the way so i must remember day by day hold me tight, then let me go there are so many things i need to know these blue tears, my sanctuary an offering of peace, so my cry will carry ~Earthfairy... comments?

Are you kidding Cure? At first I thought you were, but now I'm not so sure.

This girl wants it all, she wants whatever guy she wants, and she wants all the other guys to still be her friend after she leads them on. You don't have to go to this party if you don't want to. In fact, I think that it would be best if you just back off and forget about this girl for a good while. She seems to be in rebound going thru different guys to make her ex jealous. She wants it all, she seems to be desperate for love, both emotional or physical, but she can't always get what she wants. As I said, you are not obligated to go to this party. This girl needs time to figure things out.

Boxers or briefs: boxers Curly or straight hair: curly is cute, but straight suits some guys better Tall or short: tall(er than me... so taller than 5'6") Six pack or muscular arms: both are nice, doesn't have to be super buff tho Good or bad guys: half and half... maybe a bit rebellious but with a sensitive side Hat or no hat: don't care Ears pierced or not: pierced (i wouldn't look down on u if u didn't tho) Tan or no Tan: doesn't matter, but no skin-cancer tans that make me look like a ghost Dimples or not: don't care Stubble or neatly shaven: stubble Rugged or sporty: rugged Studly or cutie: cutie Accent or not: don't care Glasses: no Smart or dumb: smart What sport should he play: how about hockey

So these feelings flow thru me Like a constant waterfall With a crash after each new day I think I know what I want I begin to forget your face And that's when its time to crash I've been feelin' so sad lately, These thoughts don't even make sense to me I swear, its all screwin' with my head And I feel the wave crash And its suffocating me My lungs are filled with its sweet salty breath And then comes the crash Always the crash This love has suffocated me It flows through my veins Won't leave me alone Out, I scream, my shivering eyes break down I crash because I see the truth I see you won't be coming back I see me livin' this life Always so shy, always scared Always unsure of myself, alone and unwanted I crash because I can't change who I am And I can't let it show He loves a girl, But I'm not her, And so I crash and crash again Am I ever really happy? When have I been free? It was that day you kissed me I want to feel that way forever But you're not there for me Why does this love burn? Why do I even feel it? What is it about you? I don't see it now All I can feel is the pain, the silent torture And the crash Always the Crash

but seriously i'm pretty much a peaceful person, it would be wrong of me to hate complacent people.

uh, hey dude, i don't hate happy people and I don't think of myself as possessing more potential because I can get sad... its just i think people cloud over a bit too much when it comes to problems in the world, i understand its easier to go with the flow, but how much can we ignore? how long can people ignore pain, and ignore the fact that people are suffering? And when someone does attempt to confront these emotions, it seems as if many people look down on them, or get nervous when something someone says or does makes them have to rethink things... i know there is a word for this.... o yeah, IGNORANCE. but yeah, u give pretty good advice for a fifteen year old