Hollyj Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 I won't send anything. Looking back I've already told her all I had to say. Just annoys me that all she can see is one night where I was abusive. Rest all the relationship I treated her like a princess. Once she went one week to see her sister in England. I stayed with her daughter at her house for the whole week taking care of her daughter. I drove her daughter to school and picked her up, cooked dinner etc for a whole week. Then picked up my ex from the airport with flower lol, I'm such a fool lolol Funny how she forgot it all. Anyways it's her decision, I need to accept it. Maybe the reason she only remembers the bad things it because I haven't given her real space. I never been more than 3 weeks NC.. Its now 1 month Fully my record. How long were you out of work while dating? Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 Omg, if I was this woman I would be so scared! You sound like an obsessed stalker. If you dont get some serious professional help to aid you in getting over this it could turn very nasty! Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 13, 2020 Author Share Posted March 13, 2020 I never said my behavior was correct. But I have apologized to her a million times and I have left her alone. It's been one month silence and I don't plan to reach out. But of course she will when my son moves here or comes in holiday. Kids are very close, even yesterday he called me, he was video chat with her daughter and another friend playing roblox. I just wish she could forgive me and leave things in good terms, but I guess in time when she reaches out for the kids, I can be normal again with her a d show her a different side of me. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 13, 2020 Author Share Posted March 13, 2020 I just wanted her to forgive me thats all, I don't need her back. Just would like for her to forgive me Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 Eh, you need to let go of the outcome of this. Whether or not she forgives you is rather irrelevant at this point. It's still not going to work out between you two. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 13, 2020 Author Share Posted March 13, 2020 Eh, you need to let go of the outcome of this. Whether or not she forgives you is rather irrelevant at this point. It's still not going to work out between you two. You're right it's done. Besides her best friend, is married to my cousin. Last week my cousin had a fight with his wife, he punched the wall and broke his hand. Now ny ex most likely knows about it too. She is gonna think we are all crazy... Link to comment
ninjabib Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 If you explored your behaviour with a therapist it will help you control your anger and help you forgive yourself. Link to comment
Lambert Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 I just wanted her to forgive me thats all, I don't need her back. Just would like for her to forgive meTherapy would help you with this. We can't control other people. And that includes their forgiveness. What you can do is learn to accept situations, control your own emotions and actions, and make a better future for yourself. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 I never said my behavior was correct. But I have apologized to her a million times and I have left her alone. It's been one month silence and I don't plan to reach out. But of course she will when my son moves here or comes in holiday. Kids are very close, even yesterday he called me, he was video chat with her daughter and another friend playing roblox. I just wish she could forgive me and leave things in good terms, but I guess in time when she reaches out for the kids, I can be normal again with her a d show her a different side of me. It didn't go that way last time. Please stop focusing on trying to impress her. She isn't impressed. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 How long were you out of work? Link to comment
smackie9 Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 Last week my cousin had a fight with his wife, he punched the wall and broke his hand. Now my ex most likely knows about it too. She is gonna think we are all crazy... I think that would be anyone's thought. I have been with my husband for over 30 years, he has never raised a hand or punched a wall or anything for that matter, and he is a big grumpy construction worker. That kind of behavior is never acceptable or excusable. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 13, 2020 Author Share Posted March 13, 2020 How long were you out of work? I had been 5 years unemployed when I met her. We dated for 7 months. And she gave me a job ok the last month before she left me. She got smothered. Before out fight, she last 2 weeks were pretty bad, she was getting ready to leave me I think. We spent too much time together home work, I didn't realize I was being all over her suffocating her Link to comment
ninjabib Posted March 13, 2020 Share Posted March 13, 2020 What's done is done. What you do going forward is learn from your past mistakes by letting go of the past. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 14, 2020 Author Share Posted March 14, 2020 I got this reply from a red pill forum : So she does kickboxing and likes to crack bones but she got scared that you pushed her. She clearly didn't want you leaving the little beta box she'd placed you in. Women MUST always know you're stronger than them. Physically and mentally. It establishes your masculine frame over (repeat: over. Not alongside) her and ensures she'll always follow your lead. Link to comment
ninjabib Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 What is a red pill forum? Sounds messed up. Link to comment
ninjabib Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 OK did some Google-fun and those guys sound nuts. I'd steer clear of them. You admit you smothered her and were probably became clingy and needy which turned her off massively I would imagine. Not the fact she may or may not be physically superior to you. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 14, 2020 Author Share Posted March 14, 2020 Yeah I smothered her no doubt.. Especially being unemployed for a good while, with nothing going on in my life. Spending all my days at her place. And working together. She was my direct supervisor. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 14, 2020 Author Share Posted March 14, 2020 I've been in no contact for a month. My birthday comes in one month. It will be 2 solid months of no contact. Let's see if she greets me. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 I got this reply from a red pill forum : So she does kickboxing and likes to crack bones but she got scared that you pushed her. She clearly didn't want you leaving the little beta box she'd placed you in. Women MUST always know you're stronger than them. Physically and mentally. It establishes your masculine frame over (repeat: over. Not alongside) her and ensures she'll always follow your lead. Ric, does any of that sound remotely sane to you? Genuinely wondering Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 14, 2020 Author Share Posted March 14, 2020 Bottom of line, I was in love with this girl, I miss her and her daughter very much. We were a nice family, me, her and our kids. We travel 3 weeks to my country and I introduced her to whole my family. I know everything was too fast too soon and she got smothered and I was out of line shoving her. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love the most. I really miss her and her daughter. She walked away from the relationship really easily. Me chasing her and harrasing her with texts and calls really put her in a state of mind that she wants nothing from me. People really have a hard time to forgive these days. I really hope with time apart I can spin this around. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 I got this reply from a red pill forum : So she does kickboxing and likes to crack bones but she got scared that you pushed her. She clearly didn't want you leaving the little beta box she'd placed you in. Women MUST always know you're stronger than them. Physically and mentally. It establishes your masculine frame over (repeat: over. Not alongside) her and ensures she'll always follow your lead. Why are you trying to convince yourself that abusing women is OK? She is not OK with it, so I am sure she does not care one bit what those "red pill forum" men have to say about it. Good luck convincing her that they're right and she's wrong. Jeez, I see you're still thinking about trying to get her back. Please, please seek professional help before you end up locked up in jail for harassment. Link to comment
ninjabib Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 Ric please seek professional help. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 14, 2020 Share Posted March 14, 2020 Ric please seek professional help. I agree with this. It's obvious that you don't really understand how disturbing your behaviour and thought patterns are here. Link to comment
RicBoy Posted March 15, 2020 Author Share Posted March 15, 2020 She walked away from this relationship way to easily for my taste. She made no attempt to fix things. Most people are ready to forgive, even worse things like cheating, let alone a fight. No more dating single mothers for me, there's a reason they are single. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 15, 2020 Share Posted March 15, 2020 Again, I am going to advise you to seek professional help. I believe the underlying problems here are beyond the capabilities of an internet advice forum. Link to comment
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