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  1. Guys, I swear on my son's life, it wasn't nearly as bad as it sounds. My ex isn't weak. She is 200 lbs, does kick boxing, brags she prefers bone cracking to massage and in the past she pulled a knife on her ex... I'm sure she was terrified when I pushed her in bed (being ironic).. I pushed her in bed like I had pushed her 204884 times before when u start to have sex... Bed was behind her and if u will I used a finger to knock her in bed. It really wasn't bad. She is by no means a good person, firing me from work? That was disgusting. Nevertheless, she is blocked now and so is her daughter, she can go cry to all corners of the world how bad I am now.
  2. And for the people who have been following my case, I'll explain here really quick why we broke up. We met, I was unemployed and had been for a few years. So I became needy, I wanted to spend all my time with her. I was at her place 6 times a week easily with her cooking, cleaning, etc. She became smothered. Eventually, after we came from holidays meeting my family, she was running out of money. She told me I could work for her company. She became my supervisor. Our department was 4 girls and me. My ex started to give me all the jobs and the other 4 girls and other supervisors started to make pressure on my ex. Eventually I was rusty and some customers complaining too. The job was home cleaning. I'm sure my ex felt a lot of pressure, and if no one liked me at the company, why should she? She lost admiration. Right that moment, I felt her becoming distant. We didn't have sex for 5 days. One night she told me she didn't know why she didn't feel like having sex and she felt o was smothering her. I told her done, if this doesn't change I'm leaving you. She stood up from the bed and started screaming at me, I screamed back. The bed was behind her and I pushed her onto the bed, wasn't even hard. Then I tried to remove her clothes, I was a bit drunk and so was her. I'm the moment I thought some make up angry sex would make things right. She started screaming more and I said something nasty and stopped. I apologised right there and apologised million times for months. I tried to talk to her a week later, I went to her house unannounced, she didn't open the door and freaked out.. Eventually she came outside with all my clothes and said its over that I attacked her and I'm acting crazy.. 2 weeks later when I was going to my normal day work, they fired me. I'm sure was my ex. I still chased her for a few months, but she said she would call the police.. This is all.
  3. Thank you for your input. Yes in an ideal world the kids would remain friends, hang out and me and my ex would communicate friendly for the sake of the kids. When we broke up, for at least couple of months, I would drive my kid to her door for the kids to hangout, she was always hiding in the toilet. Once I called her from the outside, asked if she wanted to come outside to say hi, she answered no need. Very cruel. But my kid went a few months abroad to his mom and now has been back for 3 months. She never once contacted me to ask how he was. She doesn't really care, has moved on and wants to punish me because she felt disrespected at her home, when we had a fight that I screamed at her and pushed her. I think it's more than fair what I did, cut off the kids, and I even explained her with my last msg why I was doing it. I'm not contacting her anymore, I've tried in the past. I've done more than enough to apologise, to try to fix things. She always ignores me. Even last msg she ignored. This girl has had 4 serious relationship, and a bunch of flings, I count around 15 if not more, no one ever sticks, she left them all. She uses men like objects and when she gets bored, finds a new toy and cycle goes on. No point to reach out again, in my experience, explaining, showing your feelings, trying to be nice, doesn't work.. I also need to protect myself. If kids meet I'm gonna have to see her while she is giving me the cold shoulder, knowing that I'm waiting that she throws me a bone. I'm not putting myself in that position again, of going to her doorstep while she ignores me. So yeah I'm all or nothing. If she wants to work things out I'm here, if not I'm out and so is my son.
  4. I could write her and simply ask if we can talk? And go from there?
  5. No I don't have problems with my child, we are both very happy. My problem is I can't forget my ex and deep inside i still want her back. But it's too late now, ask straight if she wants to work things out? Wasn't my last msg to her clear, hinting I still would be open to work things out?
  6. I posted also on another forum. Its funny how people have different opinions. Some say I did the right thing in terminating the kids friendship. Some say its immature and controlling and I should let the kids speak. My gut feeling tells me I need to man up for once and if my ex doesn't want to be with me, I should cut all ties. I'm all or nothing type of guy which my ex hated. She is friends with all her exes except me, I guess she knows I don't take anything less than dating.
  7. Sure, I don't want to use him. One of the reasons I cut off kids connection. Even tho I know my ex wanted to keep this connection for the sake of her daughter. However, ofc I'm very sad, I had a little hope that if kids kept meeting, eventually I'd start speaking to my ex and things could happen or not. The way things are now, blocking the kids, and with my last msg to my ex, pretty much the ball is in her court. And the way she is, she is taking this as me hurting the kids to get some revenge. The probability of her reaching out is probably even less now. Is there anything at all I could say to her or this msg I sent her is clear enough? I don't know maybe just tell her the truth, that I still have hopes to be with her and I'm doing this for my mentak health... Even tho I think the msg conveys that already
  8. You sure there's no point in explain better my decison. Does she get it with my last msg? To be honest I'm in pain, deep down I long to reconcile even tho I know it's done and she has no interest. She probably is even more turned off now that I blocked the kids. She probably sees this as an attempt to get a reaction from her and blackmail her to come back.
  9. Problem is I still have feelings for her. But regardless, I think this really was the best decison, not only for me to move on in peace but also to show my ex I have the strength to cut this last connection and move on
  10. I didn't block them from my phone. Tho they have me blocked. I blocked them from my son's phone. Her daughter created a Facebook profile to contact me.
  11. Hurts a bit to know I teared down my very last hope. After all the kids were a connection. I wouldn't be able to win my ex back anyways. Maybe it's best for me and my son that the kids no longer speak and maybe my ex respects a bit more to be able to cut this off and walk away.
  12. My son is 10 and her daughter 13. It was a 7 months relationship with families involved etc. I need to protect myself and I think. Having my ex in the picture will make me stuck for years. We ended in very bad terms, she has me blocked everywhere
  13. Actually my ex's daughter just contacted me today and said her mother told her I don't allow the kids to talk no more. And she asked please to let them talk. I can't go back with my word, I need to protect myself and my mental health and my ex would respect me even less if I'd go back on my word. If she doesn't reach out to me, and doesn't want to be with me, so be it.
  14. My ex left me some time ago, she never made an attempt to reconcile. My son and her daughter kept in touch via video calls while playing online games. Now that my son moved in with me (he lived with his mom in another country previously) my ex's daughter started to call even more often. Last week, during one of the video calls, my ex popped up to say hi to my son, then she kept talking on the background for a while, I also heard a man's voice behind. In this case was my ex's daughter father but sometime in the future could me some guy my ex could be dating. I felt this was too much for me and for my mental health to hear a male voice and my ex on the background so I blocked my ex and her daughter from my son's phone and terminated their friendship. I sent a text to my ex explaining why, breaking 7 months no contact. Looking back i probably should not have texted her, only blocked. Text bellow: "I don't feel comfortable you talking to my son on the phone while I'm in the house. I wanted to be with you and the kids but you decided to leave, therfore you and your daughter need to completely go from our lives. I'm not interested in having any connections, including the kids, unless we are dating." What you guys think?
  15. Yeah, not posting here anymore. But thanks for your input.
  16. As a man I am, I would never block an ex or anyone for that matter . I don't think it's something a man should do. I itry to be indifferent and unaffected but it's hard. People are very judgemental in this forum. Yes maybe I was abusive but I also did many good things for her and I have improved a lot. My son has been living with my parents abroad for 4 years. Just the fact I'm moving him here speaks volumes of what I'm trying to accomplish and be a better person. My family, friends and even my ex's friends are very proud of me. Does she have to forgive me? No.. But at least I learnt my lesson. Our kids are good friends. I tried to separate them before. My ex was so mad about it. Her daughter called me crying hyperventilating... My dad said I'm being a little woman trying to separate the kids. Dad told me to not reach out to my ex, but let her do as she pleases, to get the kid if she wants, for me not force anything. Yesterday my ex's daughter sent me a msg saying hi and sent a pic of her playing games online with my son. She didn't mention anything about the Facebook. So now I'm 100% sure it was my ex using the Facebook to check in on me.
  17. Well she wasn't perfect either. People can easily forgive if they want. Nothing needs to be set in stone. Just because I pushed her once doesn't mean I'll do it again.
  18. Why wouldn't I be? It would be on her best interest to be with me and work things out. Not only we have the kids who love each other. I have improved a lot. I was unemployed and living with a roomate when she left me. Now, few months later only, I work 2 jobs, 2 cars, I got my own place near the sea, and I'm moving my son near me. I did one month therapy and I'm in the gym for 3 months.
  19. Her daughter just texted me on WhatsApp... Sent me pics of her playing with my son online. Now I'm 999% sure it was my ex who added me on fb under one of her daughters accounts. Because otherwise her daughter wouldn't text me today and she didn't mention anything about fb
  20. I was like a father to her. She slept at my place several times. At my families house etc
  21. I didn't add her.. She did add me several times. I just added like 10 seconds after she canceled. I'm almost sure it's my ex trying to get a reaction of me with a fake profile. I posted a pic of me at the gym and she probably got triggered. I'm. Sure my ex is up to something. Her daughter vĂ­deo called me the other day out of the blue. My ex called my son the other day too on his birthday too. Told him she missed him so much and can't wait to see him.
  22. She is 13...I never saw her awake at that time when I used to live with them (I spend 5 to 6 times a week at her place)
  23. No accidents at 6am in thr morning and both times within 3 days apart
  24. I'm 3,5 months no contact with my ex. 3 days ago her daughter sent me a friend request on Facebook and right after she canceled it. I sent a friend request back to her and she accepted it. Yesterday I posted a pic of me at the gym. And in the morning before 6am, her daughter removed me from friends. And right after sent me another friend request and then canceled it again. I sent a friend request back to her again and she declined. This is 100% my ex playing games with me right? I never saw her daughter awake before 6am when we were together. My ex usually wakes up at 5.30am. Also this back and forth is weird. Even if my ex wouldn't want her daughter to be in touch with me, I cant possibly imagine the kid waking up before 6am, see a pic of me on facebook and get triggered to remove me. What you guys think?
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