Girlfriend flies off the handle for asking for me asking to discuss an issue

[Ms Darcy]

Well, that's why its a good idea that he wanted to discuss to make sure they were on the same page. Apparently, they are so the whole thread was for not. lol

 

*two steps off to the next thread*

 

I agree with that. Text convos about important stuff is a bad idea.

[Longview01]

I never said that! lol

[katrina1980]

Family and friends dancing together (at wedding).

 

 

[ThatwasThen]

As it should be but, once again, it begs the question .... why was a discussion needed about boundaries? It seems she works well within the "normal" boundaries of a relationship.

For the fourth time ~ So that he was sure that they were on the same page. Turns out that They are! He didn't know that until they discussed it... now he does.

[Blue Spiral]

Thatwasthen, this is the kind of thinking I was talking about. Selective conservatism to the point of irrationality.

 

I shall be sure to tell my good friend who's a retired professional dancer that her high school wasn't a dance school at all but just a facade for dance hall teenage groping.

 

Yes...obviously, I was talking about dance schools (which are apparently a thing), as opposed to the dancing that regular people do. Uh-huh.

 

Teens learning how to interact with the other gender dance. Couples dance. There are apparently dances at weddings. People go to nightclubs looking for sex and dance. And you're telling me that dancing has nothing to do with mating/sex?? Wow.

[notalady]

Thread has run its course?

[ThatwasThen]

Well, they don't call dancing "a vertical action of a horizontal want" for nothing, I suppose.

[Seraphim]

Nooooo, you're right. Aside from the fact that I've never seen anyone "waltz" in a club, sometimes people actually go just to have some fun with their friends. You know ..... FUN? FRIENDS?

 

I used to go to night clubs to dance with my girlfriends. We did it every weekend.

[gianno]

Family and friends dancing together (at wedding).

 

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I know, I'm well aware read my name LOL but their family and it is traditional non sexual dancing

[ThatwasThen]

An Italian wedding with no dancing with friends and family? Forgetaboutit!

[Tanzi]

For the fourth time ~ So that he was sure that they were on the same page. Turns out that They are! He didn't know that until they discussed it... now he does.

 

That wasn't my point. My point was .... he already knew this so what more was there to be discussed? However, this thread jumped on a few pages so I must have missed the part where they actually got around to having a discussion. I took it that this must have been something they already knew about each other.

[Seraphim]

An Italian wedding with no dancing with friends and family? Forgetaboutit!

 

Exactly, I've never heard of any wedding without dancing .

[gianno]

I used to go to night clubs to dance with my girlfriends. We did it every weekend.

 

And that's cool, if you and our partner enjoy and are okay with that

[Longview01]

And that's cool, if you and our partner enjoy and are okay with that

 

Your girlfriend not allowed to do that then?

[Seraphim]

And that's cool, if you and our partner enjoy and are okay with that

 

I wasn't with my husband then. This was 30 years ago when I was a free agent.

[gianno]

Your girlfriend not allowed to do that then?

Nope it would mean we aren't compatible and we should split ways. Nice attempt though, real classy by the way

[Seraphim]

Nope it would mean we aren't compatible and we should split ways. Nice attempt though, real classy by the way

 

So she can't go dance with friends? She accepted that?

[katrina1980]

I know, I'm well aware read my name LOL but their family and it is traditional non sexual dancing

 

Fair enough but it was a Jewish Orthodox wedding, not Italian.

 

And BTW that type of dancing (between friends) happens at clubs too.

 

It doesn't always have to sexually-charged/oriented.

 

If you watched the entire clip, Anne Hathaway's character, Kim, was essentially dancing by herself.

 

I have done that too at clubs when the band is good and I enjoy the music.

 

I can't imagine having a bf who would not allow me to dance like this with fellow patrons at a club ....lest he feel uncomfortable.

 

Not judging to each his own, it just wouldn't work for me personally, could never be with a man like that.

 

Which works out since you could never be with a woman who enjoys dancing this way with friends either.

 

If your gf is okay with it that is all that matters.

[gianno]

So she can't go dance with friends? She accepted that?

 

Not can't, she doesn't think it is right and doesn't want to do something like that. There is no restriction place on anyone, her and I are just clear on what we are each acceptable with together as a couple.

[katrina1980]

Not can't, she doesn't think it is right and doesn't want to do something like that. There is no restriction place on anyone, her and I are just clear on what we are each acceptable with together as a couple.

 

Well there kinda is (a restriction) since you just said you would break up with her if she felt differently.

 

And yes I am sure she is quite clear. She agrees to do what YOU want on your terms or you break up with her.

 

Again, if that works for her, then good for her (and you too apparently).

[gianno]

Well there kinda is (a restriction) since you just said you would break up with her if she felt differently.

 

And yes I am sure she is quite clear. She agrees to do what YOU want on your terms or you break up with her.

 

Again, if that works for her, then good for her (and you too apparently).

 

I didn't tell her I would break up with her, she just told me that's her view

[katrina1980]

I didn't tell her I would break up with her, she just told me that's her view

 

Dude come on now. You just posted this like five minutes ago!

 

 

Nope it would mean we aren't compatible and we should split ways.

 

You didn't have to actually say the words (to her) to make your point. She gets it!

[gianno]

Dude come on now. You just posted this like five minutes ago!

 

Yes but I didn't tell her that, read! she doesn't know I would break up with her if that was the case. Therefore, how would she know that is a deal breaker and thus appease me

[kamurj]

The thread has run its course. Thread closed.