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Blue Spiral

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  1. Yeah, most people respond in a joking way, because they think I'm joking about it. And they make sure to say some variation of what you did: "Yeah, everybody would like to..." I'll just say that there's a difference between not liking work and not believing in work. IMHO, if given the chance, most people would be too proud to do it.
  2. This may be a bad time to tell you that I'd rather have a guaranteed income and not do any work at all. I've never gotten anything rewarding out of work, I'm not good at it, and it's slowly eaten away at me. I don't think there's anything good about being "productive" in the sense you're referring to. Also, I've purposely chosen to work less, to keep from contributing to a society that I'm ambivalent toward.
  3. No, both. That said, I'm a sellout, as I do have a job. But in my defense, I don't put very much into it at all...
  4. Having watched how my male relatives were treated at their jobs, where they were basically used up and thrown away... ...and having seen that men that make more than me still get pretty unimpressive women... ...my response has basically been, "Wow, I'm better off not even trying."
  5. It's because my philosophy is spreading! I put in a lot of hard work, doing this sort of thing long before it was cool or mainstream, and it's finally paying off...!
  6. Your problem shouldn't be with JJ, it should be with the process that he's going through. It's a cycle of trying, failing, and having to do it again. Pursuing women is a highly repetitive/monotonous process. You're going to hear about the same problems over and over. And if you think that hearing about pursuit is stressful, you should try actually doing it. Cut him some slack.
  7. I realize that women have to worry about safety more than men...but I'd encourage you to always be direct, as opposed to using code and/or trying to spare the guy's feelings. Yeah, the guy may get upset, but you'll save a lot of time for both of you. Also, it'll avoid the two main problems that come from that: 1. The guy will wonder what he's doing wrong, and become neurotic about it, as opposed to realizing that you just aren't attracted to him. Instead of moving on, he'll try to make a zillion changes to his approach. You'll both get worn down and stressed out. This happened to me when I was younger, and understood women even less than I do now. 2. Later, if the guy finds out that you broke your rules for another guy, he'll realize the truth, and become bitter. If a guy sees that happen dozens of times, well, he'll end up like me. When the woman that "needs an emotional connection" before she has sex hooks up with the gym instructor she just met (you may recall me telling that story years ago), when the girlfriend that really wants a sensitive guy leaves you for a neanderthal with the emotional range of a bowling ball, and this keeps happening for the next fifteen years...
  8. The picture-wanting guy's test worked, then, even if he doesn't know it. You're more interested in gym guy than picture-wanting guy--because you'll make a sexual exception for the former, but not the latter--and your response indicated that. Gym guy gets a shower, picture-wanting guy doesn't even get a picture, and that pretty much tells the story. IMHO, if a woman is attracted to a man, that attraction will overcome her usual beliefs and rules, and she'll quickly throw them aside. Whereas if she shrugs and does what she always does, there isn't enough attraction there.
  9. Both of my girlfriends constantly complained about my lack of confidence. They tried to present it as encouragement, but I could tell how uncomfortable it made them. My self-esteem is currently somewhere around our planet's core, and I can tell you that it hasn't done me any favors. For the record, I think that confidence is an entirely neutral trait, one that I'm not attracted to at all.
  10. The height discussion is dead. Long live the weight discussion! I weigh 120 lbs. I know some women who weigh around that...and all but a few are stay-at-home-moms who married into money. The ones that work only work because they want to, not because they have to. That's how in-demand thin women are. In an alternate reality where physical priorities are reversed, I'm probably a trophy husband of some sort, who stays at home and watches sports all day. Sadly, in this universe, staying thin won't earn me a meal-ticket...
  11. For some reason, that doesn't seem to bother them. Where I live, I frequently see couples that are a foot apart (or more) in height. Two of the married women that I know are both significantly shorter than me, and their husbands are well over six feet (and either come from money or are extremely successful, but that's another story).
  12. You would be shocked at the number of women your height who refuse to date a man under six feet tall. I don't care about height at all, but, being realistic, I've tried to go after women that are shorter than I am. 90% of the time, they're looking for someone 5'10 or taller.
  13. Actions speak louder than words. Men may not say "I'd never date a woman that's overweight", but their actions will tell the tale. It's the same here. Some things don't need to be said. I will now attempt to summarize the universal argument made in threads like these: "Golly gee, women care about height? I'm a woman, and that's news to me! Sure, sure, I'm involved with a guy that's taller than me, but that's just a coincidence. You should do just fine as a not-tall guy! Completely coincidentally, though, you may need to settle for less. Significantly less."
  14. Obviously, all of this is proof that men shouldn't pursue, since it doesn't usually work for us.
  15. That's correct. I broke a woman's heart, once, and I'm never doing it again. In my defense, though, that was an honest attempt at a relationship.
  16. The thing is, by being honest, I'm basically sabotaging myself. This sort of anti-commitment mindset makes it extremely difficult to get sex, and most guys will naturally take the easy way out by pretending to be "normal". It would be simple for me to pretend to want a relationship and lead a woman on. I won't do that. I would, however, steal Deedee from her husband in a hot minute, if I thought that she was becoming a more viable prospect. I would not be honest about my intentions, initially. So, I guess that I'm mostly honest...
  17. 1. There are many men out there who want everything and believe in nothing. 2. I'm one of them...but, sadly, most of these men aren't as honest as I am...
  18. I assume that ND didn't engage in that same gesture; it's hard to facepalm when one's date is trying to use her face to read one's palm...
  19. And a ton of "platonic friends" who would love to be her boyfriend. Orbiter types, essentially.
  20. Wait a second...so, you get to force us to be the ones that pursue, and you then get to hold that against us?? Wow. Also: ...you do realize that, until I was 27, I was desperately looking for a serious relationship, yes?
  21. I'd be willing to bet that ND and I are far less demanding/picky than the women that we've been involved with...
  22. So, ND needs to be...dishonest about who he really is? I'm sure that isn't what you mean, but that's certainly the message that I take from it. I always advise against self-censoring. It may start small, but it can be hard to stop.
  23. It isn't ND's fault that a good portion of this country is ridiculously puritanical. Just speaking for myself: I use overtly sexual language to scare off certain types of women, because I don't want to waste my time with them. I know that pro-FWB women won't be turned off by that sort of language. Obviously, ND is looking for something serious...but still, euphemism-averse women wouldn't fit his GGG lifestyle. If they're going to balk when they read some "codeword" in his profile, I can't imagine what their reaction would be to certain bedroom suggestions.
  24. What does "overly focused on sex" mean, and who gets to decide that?
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