Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I agree with Sherry. You will find someone who values, respects and loves you. But, you won't as long as you stay with this creep. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Well, the first problem is you are a young woman dating a man who is old enough to be your father. When young women get into these toxic relationships with men who don't respect them, I have to wonder more about you than the man. Obviously, he's an idiot/weirdo who doesn't respect you. The issue is why would you date him. I feel like some of your psychiatric issues have left you more inclined to be in toxic relationships. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 Well, the first problem is you are a young woman dating a man who is old enough to be your father. When young women get into these toxic relationships with men who don't respect them, I have to wonder more about you than the man. Obviously, he's an idiot/weirdo who doesn't respect you. The issue is why would you date him. I feel like some of your psychiatric issues have left you more inclined to be in toxic relationships. I dont know, maybe you are right. I was always attracted to older men. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 But just because they are older, does not mean they are better...this man is a total example of this. He is one of the worst ones I have heard about. Very disrespectful. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I dont know, maybe you are right. I was always attracted to older men. Did you grow up with a father? Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 Did you grow up with a father? Yes I did. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Are you close? What do your parents think of the age difference? Do you bring your friends around this guy? Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 Are you close? What do your parents think of the age difference? Do you bring your friends around this guy? No, I have pretty weird relationship with my father. My parents dont like the fact that he is older than me. And I dont basically have any friends, so no. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 So, basically you are dependent on this guy for all of your social interaction. That's not good. This also helps him treat you the way he does, as you are isolated. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 So, basically you are dependent on this guy for all of your social interaction. That's not good. This also helps him treat you the way he does, as you are isolated. Yes, I realize that this is not good for me. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 What are your plans? I dont really have any plans. I am kind of stuck in my life right now. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 This man is an abuser, full-stop. Why do you think he goes after young women half his age? Because women his own age are too smart and experienced for his BS and wouldn't go near him. I guarantee you none of them were okay with his "photo" habit. He had to target someone much younger and more vulnerable (ie. you) who wouldn't have the life experience or self-confidence to tell him to take a hike. You are being horribly manipulated and mistreated. He is doing it because he enjoys the power and control he has over you. But make no mistake, he doesn't love you. For your own well-being, you need to get rid of this clown. Yes, it will be hard. But then your life will improve dramatically. Staying with him and tolerating more abuse will be far harder and more damaging in the long-run. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 This man is an abuser, full-stop. Why do you think he goes after young women half his age? Because women his own age are too smart and experienced for his BS and wouldn't go near him. I guarantee you none of them were okay with his "photo" habit. He had to target someone much younger and more vulnerable (ie. you) who wouldn't have the life experience or self-confidence to tell him to take a hike. You are being horribly manipulated and mistreated. He is doing it because he enjoys the power and control he has over you. But make no mistake, he doesn't love you. For your own well-being, you need to get rid of this clown. Yes, it will be hard. But then your life will improve dramatically. Staying with him and tolerating more abuse will be far harder and more damaging in the long-run. Thank you for your reply. It is hard for me to believe all these things, but I guess they have to be true. I was the one who didnt see it. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 How can you not see it?? The proof has been shown to you many many times. MissCanuck is absolutely right, a more experienced woman would never let this man do this to her! I think you are finding it difficult to leave because you don't have your life sorted in other areas. You need to shift your focus on yourself and bettering your life..once you do that, you will wonder what the heck you even bothered with this man for. Truth. He is taking advantage of you because he knows that you aren't going anywhere and he can treat you badly like this. He does not love you. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I dont really have any plans. I am kind of stuck in my life right now. That's an excuse. You can walk out the door anytime. He doesn't work, and doesn't support you, so why can't you go to your family? Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 How can you not see it?? The proof has been shown to you many many times. MissCanuck is absolutely right, a more experienced woman would never let this man do this to her! I think you are finding it difficult to leave because you don't have your life sorted in other areas. You need to shift your focus on yourself and bettering your life..once you do that, you will wonder what the heck you even bothered with this man for. Truth. He is taking advantage of you because he knows that you aren't going anywhere and he can treat you badly like this. He does not love you. Yes, I know, you are all right. I have to leave him. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 That's an excuse. You can walk out the door anytime. He doesn't work, and doesn't support you, so why can't you go to your family? Yes, I was wondering some time ago that I would come back to my family. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I hope one day you will become a strong confident woman who has found her way and is bettering your life and you will never let a man treat you this badly ever again! I wish you all the best Andaco...you can have a better life, and a better man, if you choose to. Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 I hope one day you will become a strong confident woman who has found her way and is bettering your life and you will never let a man treat you this badly ever again! I wish you all the best Andaco...you can have a better life, and a better man, if you choose to. I would be happy to become a woman like that Thanks a lot. Good luck to you too Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 hope you are ok darling , I see this lovely lot have been talking all night to you . Please please consider what you have said about going back to your family ..xx Link to comment
Andaco Posted October 8, 2016 Author Share Posted October 8, 2016 hope you are ok darling , I see this lovely lot have been talking all night to you . Please please consider what you have said about going back to your family ..xx Hi, yes I am ok, I am with my parents today. I will think about it. Thank you for caring, really. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 We do. And remember, you do have the power to be a strong, independent woman. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 It's not about age. It's about he is mean, nasty and inappropriate and not good for you. What do you mean "used to his lifestyle"? Do you live together? Does he support you? Do you live with your parents? Do you work or are you on disability? When someone is this horrible to you and you stay there is usually a reason such as he gives you money or has a car or you live with him.my family only met him one tíme so they dont really know him. But they are not very glad that I date na older man. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 It's not about age. It's about he is mean, nasty and inappropriate and not good for you. What do you mean "used to his lifestyle"? Do you live together? Does he support you? Do you live with your parents? Do you work or are you on disability? When someone is this horrible to you and you stay there is usually a reason such as he gives you money or has a car or you live with him. The guy does not work. He looks at pics of girls all day on the computer. Link to comment
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