Jenny26 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 basically I found out my boyfriend is bisexual and my question is ,well 'should I stay or should I go'?we've hardly been having any sex,he never initiates it.he did at first but then it all stopped.i put it down to us being in long term relationship.just to add I also caught him watching gay porn and chatting online to ladyboy.il just add that he's the best guy I've ever met,kind,really understanding,very well educated,just an interesting person all round. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 I would end the relationship. He is a cheater, as he is communicating with someone else online. he is NOT the best guy you will meet. He rather watch gay porn or communicate with someone else online. He may have manners in public and might not swear, but he is not kind. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 My gay friend asked me this once (made me wonder if he was hitting on me, actually ). My answer to him was "no." For me, I think it would be hard to manage the idea that I can't compete with a man. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 It depends on if you can handle scant sex and him with others. Be his friend.I found out my boyfriend is bisexual. we've hardly been having any sex. Link to comment
j.man Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 If they were monogamous, yes. If not, no. Everyone fantasizes about people who aren't their partner. Bisexuals just happen to include both sexes in their spank bank. Assuming my girlfriend were bisexual, I don't see any more reason to be worried about her getting in bed with another woman than I would be her jumping a guy who looks like Channing Tatum. Fortunately, we're committed and I trust her, so that's to say I don't worry about it at all. Now your boyfriend not having sex with you and him soliciting others in a sexual way are valid concerns of there own, though irrelevant to bisexuality itself. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 My ideas on this have changed in recent years, to a tentative yes. On the spectrum, I'd like him to be primarily hetero because I want to be primary sex interest. If there is a little bit of homo mixed in, that's okay too. If we end up playing with that, it might be okay. Don't know, but I am open to it in a way I would never have guessed. Link to comment
JamesT2 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 Hardly ever having sex is a bit odd if he is your boyfriend. Id leave him. He might be bisexual but I suspect more gay than really bi conseridering he seem to enjoy gay porn and chatting ladyboy behind your back. Link to comment
musicman777 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 basically I found out my boyfriend is bisexual and my question is ,well 'should I stay or should I go'?we've hardly been having any sex,he never initiates it.he did at first but then it all stopped.i put it down to us being in long term relationship.just to add I also caught him watching gay porn and chatting online to ladyboy.il just add that he's the best guy I've ever met,kind,really understanding,very well educated,just an interesting person all round. Please dump this guy as soon as possible. Nothing against bisexuals, but after being dumped by a lesbian once myself, I would never want to date anyone with sexual identity issues. Not to mention, you caught him watching gay porn. I can understand porn in general but gay porn, as well as talking to people online, that's a big no-no. He's not the best guy you've ever met, nor kind if he is watching gay porn behind your back. There are plenty of STRAIGHT guys out there for you to have to put up with this crap. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 It makes no sense to keep a lover who isn't interested in being my lover. I'd skip that. Link to comment
Jenny26 Posted July 6, 2016 Author Share Posted July 6, 2016 Thanks a lot everyone for your replies!I think I came to the same conclusion Link to comment
kamurj Posted July 11, 2016 Share Posted July 11, 2016 Multiple accounts are not allowed. Thread closed. Link to comment
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