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  1. Great post, really interesting. I would like to point out that if she says she’s going, she’ll be dumped on the spot.
  2. I'm fascinated by your reply. My mother was a very empathetic and caring person in a caring profession who taught me to be non-judgemental and accept people for who they are. The problem with empathy is that it can attract the wrong sort of people, like bees to a honeypot. I've always looked for the best in people, possibly giving time to people and relationships I shouldn't have. The saying 'treat other people how you would like to be treated yourself' is quite dangerous though, encouraging you to be nice to people that don't warrant it. A few years ago I was exposed to somebody whom I now be
  3. Please read again, when I suggested this she mentioned taking two trips.
  4. I’ve been dating a lovely woman for three months, and I’m falling in love with her and vice-versa. I’ve gone through a maelstrom of emotions the last six months with family deaths, and she’s been an absolute rock. She has an ex from many years ago whom she stays friends with, she finished with him because he’s exceptionally good looking who can’t be trusted but has given her work over the years (we are both freelancers). We are in Belfast but don’t live together yet, and he’s based in North Vietnam. She often chats with him, and does work for him free of charge. There is a picture of him o
  5. I would leave the relationship and find someone who can reciprocate your emotions. The long term impact of carrying the entire emotional weight of the relationship alone can result in PTSD, or Cassandra syndrome/Affective deprivation disorder.
  6. 'just a reminder that I never want to hear off you again, ever'
  7. Looks like you've got competition for your boyfriend from someone who hasn't stepped out of the closet yet.
  8. Just send him a final message saying that he's about to be blocked, and that if he ever turns up where you work alone or with a girlfriend you will view this as harassment and call the police. Then block him everywhere, it really is that simple.
  9. Why do you think you may have Aspergers syndrome? If this is the case, you should absolutely leave this woman alone whilst you come to terms with your diagnosis. Aspergers will have serious implications for your relationship abilities. What traits or symptoms have materialised for you to feel you have ASD?
  10. Are you familiar with dealing with narcisstic personality disorder and abuse? Sam Vaknin has plenty of material on the subject, and this guys behaviour stinks of it. I worked with someone like this years ago, but sadly I didn't know what the condition was back then. Sadly, I've had experience of this again in recent years. There are people who function like this, feeding off the effect they have with their bullying. It's call 'narcisstic supply'. Psychological and emotional abuse became a crime in the UK in December 2015, so it's a shame you haven't any recordings of the abuse taking place. An
  11. Well, after not seeing her since Saturday I heard off her today. In her usual completely logical way she fired me an email saying she was done and wanted her stuff back from mine just as I was about to go in to a morning meeting for a brief I'd picked up with a new company. I'm freelance, and this was an important new client. I struggled through the meeting as best I could, and sat down with them to do some work. I was surprisingly ok until lunch, and then I sent her a text to say I'd got the message with a sarcastic thanks, and that her stuff would be safe until she could collect it. Then as
  12. You know, the problem with having empathy is that you feel bad about things. Because I believe she most likely has Aspergers, I feel the urge to break silence and point out in a text to her that insulting someone with highly abusive comments is not nice and that she should at least apologise. I'm only considering this because I don't actually think she's capable of thinking in this way. The insults were just words to her, most likely. Alternatively, should I just sit back and wait for her to get in touch? I'm not sure she will if she's not taking advice off someone who's NT. I would particu
  13. Lisa, I think a lot of people skim through posts here without reading them properly. Please read again, she told me that she had traits. I have not diagnosed this woman, it's apparent through her visible actions that there is something present.
  14. What bit of 'I will not say what they were' do you not understand? It was offensive enough to not want to put on the internet, so use your imagination.
  15. Absolutely not true, in any way. I had to ask a very long standing friend what they thought of it, completely absurd.
  16. Thanks Wiseman, interesting. We're past that, sorted it out satisfactorily. It was inappropriate and not true, just as the latest abusive comments were. Completely out of context, like Tourettes. Interestingly though, you highlight the fact that the statements she comes out with are not based in reality in the least, and seem to tumble from her mind unfiltered by the brain. Our sexual compatibility has been more than adequate.
  17. Posting here again, I wish I didn't need to. I've been in a relationship with an amazing woman whom I heavily suspect is heavily on the Aspergers spectrum for a year and a half, and whilst it's had its ups and downs (more ups than downs) it can be really challenging sometimes. She warned me she thought she had traits when we met, and I went off and read up about it to be armed with all the relevant info. Her behaviour ticks most of the boxes for the condition, sensory issues, routines, pedantic grammar, specialist interests, too many things to mention really. She's exceptionally intelligent, i
  18. Call your local police, this situation varies from country to country.
  19. It means you're comfortable and secure in yourself, your attitude is cool.
  20. They're not your kids, she'll meet someone else and that person most likely won't want her ex rocking up all the time. She is also manipulating you really badly in a horrible way, the only communication you should accept off her is a total apology and a genuine want to reconcile. I'd personally block her number and blank her for your own well being and state of mind.
  21. What the hell were you even doing in that situation? You've known her seven years and fancy her, she's turned you down repeatedly and you still persist even when she's with someone else. Walk away, block her on everything, and stop wasting a huge part of your life when you should be looking elsewhere. You can't be friends with someone you want romance with and theyre not reciprocating.
  22. Both men and women enjoy porn, but you're dealing with an addict if he's that blatant. You need to get him some counselling, and be prepared to go along with him if required.
  23. If he hadn't been an ass to her they'd still be together, and you wouldn't have had the call. Have some self respect and leave her in the past where she so clearly belongs.
  24. Nobody is worth killing yourself over, you just need time to get over it. Going no contact will help, as will seeing friends and family.
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