luxurylover Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Also...try not to check the ENA board while you're out with her! lol Too distracting..you want all your focus to be on her...while you're out with her anyway. Checking the ENA board while out with her....that's crazy! no! check the board...i want real time updates! (jk) Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 She gets out way to late for dinner. Ugh. Maybe we'll get together later and the mood will be right for me to bring it up at her place. You two are hysterical! Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 Btw it was too late. I asked if she was free after work tonight or maybe tomorrow would be better and did end up mentioning wanting to talk to her. Now she keeps asking questions. I ed up. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 She keeps asking what it is.. Fml Link to comment
janut1 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Ohhh too bad you did that now she is freaking out. I hate when someone says we need to talk, usually NOT a good sign. You can't really change it now though. Yikes... Link to comment
weathergirl Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 She keeps asking what it is.. Fml Just curious.. why did you mention it? You must have had a reason...did you want her to wonder...to worry? Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 Wonder maybe, worry no. Is assured her it wasn't bad at all and told her no rush or Anything. What do o say I??? Link to comment
weathergirl Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Not to mention, the mere mention of it makes it sounds like a much bigger deal than it actually is. Makes it sound like you want to have this deep, heavy, serious discussion with her... which this should NOT be! I am not sure you actually get that... Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I would down play this right now. Tell her it's no big deal and you will see her later. I think you've projected a little of your anxiety on to her. Link to comment
luxurylover Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 i agree w/ reinventmyself Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 I said that I realized I made it sound like a bigger deal than it actually is. She responded with a question mark. I can't believe I messed it up. Link to comment
weathergirl Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I would down play this right now. Tell her it's no big deal and you will see her later. I think you've projected a little of your anxiety on to her. I second that... or third that (especially second paragraph)... since luxurylover agrees also..... Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 I can't just say I'll see you later wouldn't it make it worse to her? Link to comment
janut1 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 now it sounds like its getting worse. Just set up the meeting and leave it at that. I fourth the comment about down playing the comment from reinventmyself Link to comment
luxurylover Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 i would just be like, oh girl it's nothing, ---or something like that just brush the whole thing off real quick in a casual tone. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I can't just say I'll see you later wouldn't it make it worse to her? To just say `see you later' and not address her question is very cryptic. . That ,in my opinion, would make it worse. Tell her 'it's no big deal and you will see her later' Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 Told her it's really no big deal and whenever I see her next. No worries! Link to comment
janut1 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Okay, hopefully that will calm her down a bit. Never a good idea to say We need to talk, even it you do need to talk, just wait to see the person before bringing up the subject at all. Link to comment
janut1 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I feel like we are all friends helping you out. It is also helping me with my own insecurities around my guy. Not to hijack your thread, but we have had a month of not seeing each other in person, but have stayed in touch by text and phone, after only 2 months of dating because of a bad family issue he is dealing with around his youngest daughter. I may be seeing him on Saturday for the first time since then. Im so nervous and excited, so yea big insecurities around all that and what he might say to me in person. It can be so crazy making! I'm liking this thread! Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 I'm not sure that it did. She said that I can't just say that and not say anything l. The I reiterated that it was all good stuff and again really no big deal. Then she sent a I might be ruined. No turning back now though. I didn't hit her with we need to talk, I did say I wanted to talk to ya about something. Same thing probably but not as intimidating I hoped. I really wish I would've kept it to myself for just a little longer. Or read the board before I sent that this afternoon. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 She just texted me again saying I want to know! Least she cares I guess. I feel terrible. Link to comment
luxurylover Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I feel like we are all friends helping you out. It is also helping me with my own insecurities around my guy. Not to hijack your thread, but we have had a month of not seeing each other in person, but have stayed in touch by text and phone, after only 2 months of dating because of a bad family issue he is dealing with around his youngest daughter. I may be seeing him on Saturday for the first time since then. Im so nervous and excited, so yea big insecurities around all that and what he might say to me in person. It can be so crazy making! I'm liking this thread! i like this thread too ...takes my mind off my own little issue. not that im enjoying OP's suffering cause im not. i hope everything works out for everyone. Link to comment
luxurylover Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I'm not sure that it did. She said that I can't just say that and not say anything l. The I reiterated that it was all good stuff and again really no big deal. Then she sent a I might be ruined. No turning back now though. I didn't hit her with we need to talk, I did say I wanted to talk to ya about something. Same thing probably but not as intimidating I hoped. I really wish I would've kept it to myself for just a little longer. Or read the board before I sent that this afternoon. knowing me id probably play it off and be like "it's just something about ur birthday..." or something fun. then actually do bring that up during the dinner so it wont be a lie. like u were wanting to do something with her that week. ---since u wanted to know about that anyway. maybe that's not for everyone but im the queen of deflection. that way she wont be worried. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 hold your ground . . she is trying to wear you down. Be light and playful and don't get rattled. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 knowing me id probably play it off and be like "it's just something about ur birthday..." or something fun. then actually do bring that up during the dinner so it wont be a lie. like u were wanting to do something with her that week. ---since u wanted to know about that anyway. maybe that's not for everyone but im the queen of deflection. that way she wont be worried. I thought if that already. Told her it was just something about her bday/vday. Hope she isn't mad when I tell her that wasn't it at all. Link to comment
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