Coldarmy13

Hey there friend! Yeah was bored yesterday and figured I’d browse here.

I find the longer you message back and forth, the less likely a meet up will occur. If we match during the week, I try and set up a date the upcoming weekend. Doesn’t always result in one but at least I can rule that person out in the event they’re waiting for something “better” or just looking for attention.

Even then, great, but don’t necessarily look as it as a chance to be with her. I wouldn’t put her in a pedestal right away. Look at it as an opportunity to meet someone new and see if she’s someone YOU would be interested in. Also, consider if you’re comfortable with someone who’s doted over so often each time she works. If jealousy has been any issue for you.

I’ve never bothered trying to flirt with a bartender. I read their kindness and flirting as just that, her job. That hundreds of guys probably hit on her every week, I just don’t want to be another one. Cant hurt to ask though. You’ll know for sure then.

If you feel that way, tell his as quickly and honestly as possible. No reason to bring up your ex or why, just the truth.. that it isn’t working for you anymore.

As a man, I supremely appreciate a woman not afraid to shoot her shot. We have to do it all the time to find out if anyone is interested in us. If I feel That my interest is one’s sided or playing the “chase me” game, I lose interest quickly.

I’d also be curious about what the differences are. If your interest is high now, I don’t see why more dates would be out of the question. If you’re comfortable and get along great in person, and you enjoy her communication style during the in between then it sounds like a promising start. I gave up on finding someone that’s exactly my mirror image or having all the same things in common ages ago. It’s more about the compatibility and comfort to where I don’t have to second guess anything. I too, wonder if you’re looking for reason to not get serious with this one. Only based off of what you posted and not having been in one before. Maybe she just doesn’t check all the boxes that you’re looking for exactly, which is fine, but could also be a long search to find someone perfect. Up to you, if your interest isn’t sky high after date three I’d wonder why and if there are dealbreakers that would make you think you’d eventually lose interest.

Absolutely agree. What texted her was a much less serious convo than I think what you’re talking about. This was more of a - I’m deleting my dating apps because I like where this is going type of comment along with a hope your days going well - type message. Although, I’m sure I would’ve gotten the same message when I went to make plans for the upcoming Friday.

That was what she sent me when I texted her saying essentially that I was deleted my profiles and wanting to focus on this and where it could go. I couldn’t figure out how to get rid of the quote when I replied on my phone.

I agree it is. Everything was very good in person last Friday but she could always just enjoy my company but my gut says if her interest level is high that I’d hear more from her but everyone’s different. Probably why I’d like to see where we are at.

This is sort of where I’m at. I don’t want her to think I’m just in it for kicks. To answer a couple replies here, we have talked about what we were looking for and how we were both looking for a meaningful connecting and wanting long term dating.

Two months isn’t far off, guess I’ll have to play it by feel in the moment.

Exactly my feeling here. That I don’t know her interest level and maybe that’s what has me anxious, which isn’t a healthy reason why to bring it up.

That was what my gut is telling me. We shall see how it goes.

Back again, folks. After a long time. M/37 here. I’ve been dating this F/40 for 6 weeks or so. Probably have had about 8 dates. All have been very enjoyable and really feels like we enjoy each other’s company. In person, it feels effortless and comfortable just like I feel it should be when there’s potential. We have been sleeping together since date number 3. Likely because I have been catching feelings lately(uhoh) for her, I’ve been wondering more about her interest level. If I text, she will respond even if it’s sometimes many hours apart. We’re adults, that isn’t a big deal. Typically we’ve been getting together on Friday’s since that’s what our schedules allow. Exception being the holiday weekend where she went to her moms out of state. We love about 45 minutes apart, which isn’t ideal but we’ve made it work and have shared the driving each time. If I don’t text first sometimes I won’t hear from her for 2-3 days, which again, is okay. It has, however, made me wonder if she’d like to be exclusive or is still at a place to where she’s interested in me more than just dating each weekend. I could ask in person and wouldn’t want to do it through text or anything like that, so that leaves me with a long week of wondering. Nearly every time I catch feelings first or have the DTR talk before the woman brings it up, it hasn’t gone great so I’m hesitant. I’m in a place now though, that I’d like to be at least exclusive. After our date at my place last Friday, I noticed the next day that she had deleted her profile on the two dating apps that we had matched on. I hope that means she is in the same mind frame of no longer looking elsewhere, but I know that isn’t necessarily what that means. I think I’m just in my head about it, as is what happens during that period of “dtr chicken” as I call it. The easiest thing is wait a couple of days and try to make plans for this Friday and just keep having fun and having dates, but I’m genuinely interested in more here. Any advice?

Id love to know how youre doing. I cant let myself go to that place ever again though. Im doing alright and im sure you are just fine since you left me. I was always honest with you, best wishes.

I miss you and hope youre happy. I wish I could settle for friendship, but only because I truly miss hearing your voice and seeing your face.

I don't know what to say or maybe just don't think its worth bothering. All that I know is that I still miss you and wish you'd come back, but I know you wont. I cant come to you.

I miss you so much. Over a month later, the tears are starting to return.

I didn't go out with friends from work because they were going to where we had our first date. I couldn't see the place where I met someone who made me so happy then so unbelievably sad and broken. I couldn't be somewhere where i know your house is only a couple minutes away. A little surprised you haven't tried to contact me after your text a week after the break up. It's been almost a month since then. I ignored your message because it was still too hard.. It's probably best that I didn't hear from you again anyway. I just can't help but miss you and miss hearing from you. If you truly cared like you said you did you would've tried to reach out again. Why did you let me get as invested as I did when you knew you weren't going to be ready for it? Still love you even though you never did. Miss you, please get out of my thoughts.

I miss you very much. Thinking of you lately, not sure why. I'm sure you're doing fine so no need to hope you're doing well. I'm starting to get back into everything I was into before we met, but they don't give me the same feeling you gave me when we laughed together, when I smelled you or whenever we touched. That's gone now, and life isn't nearly as colorful without having you in it.

Ive had enough time to think about things and go through all the emotions of you leaving me. If you weren't ready for a relationship you should have never let things progress to where they went. Im not mad at you anymore. I miss the good times with you, but they don't outweigh the negative things I felt, now I know they weren't unfounded. My brain knew you weren't into us as much as I was and you didn't treat me nearly like I deserved. My heart hoped youd come around and realize how good of a person I was and how I could've been so good for you. That just isn't what you wanted. Again, im not mad at you anymore, nor do I want you back anymore. Wish you the best, but you missed out babe. Ive moved on.

Even with removing everything that reminded me of you, i still find reminders everywhere.