sophie274 Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Sounds like a great third date! So excited for you that you have this cooking. Personally, I think third date is pretty early. But you know me. I think if there's great chemistry now, there will be great chemistry in 5 more dates when you know him better and can bring up exclusivity and stds and all that yummy stuff. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Good luck on your third date with M, Annie. Just remember to stay calm, cool and collected. It's alright to worry sometime, but have your poker face on. Never let them see you sweat! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 16, 2012 Author Share Posted March 16, 2012 Thanks guys! I think it will be a fun date. I'll be as calm as I can! I'm def looking forward to seeing him again! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 16, 2012 Author Share Posted March 16, 2012 Sometimes I wonder if being on ENA contributes to this relationship anxiety...? Reading threads about relationships falling apart all day can make you feel like all relationships have an expiration date. some people come here with happy topics, but not most. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Sometimes I wonder if being on ENA contributes to this relationship anxiety...? Reading threads about relationships falling apart all day can make you feel like all relationships have an expiration date. some people come here with happy topics, but not most. I think it's a too each his/her own type of interpretation. If anything, this site has helped me to look at the full picture of things and to understand that everybody processes information differently. I used to so one sided on things and I had my own way of thinking but not so much anymore. Not to mention it also keeps me involved with things that are happening in relationships and helps me to see that it's not always just me, we all share the same relationship struggles. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Sometimes I wonder if being on ENA contributes to this relationship anxiety...? Reading threads about relationships falling apart all day can make you feel like all relationships have an expiration date. some people come here with happy topics, but not most. I question this myself. I have a feeling that reading about others' problems (while making you more educated about them) at the same time makes you more aware of things that you otherwise would have overlooked if you were more "ignorant". The statement, "Ignorance is bliss" is usually more often true than not. I've found that since I've started reading these threads more over the past few years, I'm much more aware of signals in general but at the same time I've picked apart relationships I've had a little too often. Kind of defeating the purpose of "going with the flow". Self-awareness is a * * * * * . Overall I have to say that posting here has probably given me back more than not though. What I've learned from reading others issues has definitely prepared me in ways that would have taken years of first hand experience. Although, reading about others' problems is also draining at times, that's when you take a few steps back and take a break from the board for awhile. Plenty of people "left" these boards because it kept reminding them of their ex, or of a perceived problem that doesn't actually exist in their own lives. I think it all just lies in moderation, like everything else. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Being an ENA member has caused me to dwell deeper than the top problem, to look at a problem objectively. I def find myself falling into ENA member mode when someone is talking to me about a problem. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes not. Link to comment
Ellie2006 Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 Have fun on your date, Annie! Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 Good luck on your 3rd date!!!!! Link to comment
Stay_home Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 tomorrow is a big day for you Annie! Just remember to relax, breathe and have a great time. Let us know. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Share Posted March 17, 2012 I hope tomorrow happens. I went to the ER last night because of major back pain. this has never happened to me before. they think I pulled a back muscle dancing, and i was in so much pain i couldn't sleep. walking and sitting up really hurt. i hope i am ok by the date. i definitely can't go to any dance classes this weekend. they gave me pain killers and muscle relaxants. i hope i am ok enough by tomorrow night to be able to sit for a few hours! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 oh no!!! I hope you feel better, both for the date and health wise! Link to comment
Batya33 Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 I hope tomorrow happens. I went to the ER last night because of major back pain. this has never happened to me before. they think I pulled a back muscle dancing, and i was in so much pain i couldn't sleep. walking and sitting up really hurt. i hope i am ok by the date. i definitely can't go to any dance classes this weekend. they gave me pain killers and muscle relaxants. i hope i am ok enough by tomorrow night to be able to sit for a few hours! I hope you feel better quickly!! Link to comment
sophie274 Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 Yikes. That sounds terrible Annie. Hugs, hope you feel better soon. Take it easy today! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Share Posted March 17, 2012 thanks guys, i hope i get better. i do want to see this show and see M!! but right now, i'm a total mess. M texted me today to wish me a happy st. patrick's day, i wished him that too and told him what happened. he told me if i needed anything to let him know, which was very sweet of him. i remember dating this guy from a few years back, when i told him i couldn't make our date because i went to the ER, he just got all huffy like, 'but i'm leaving on a trip for a week.' nevermind the fact that i was in the ER! Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 That stinks annie, feel better. I have a story for you! Last time I was sick (ER sick) I was having abdominal pains...turns out I needed my gall bladder removed as I had stones. The attacks were fierce when they came, doubled over in pain for 2 hours or more at a clip, took 3 ER visits and 5 doctors before they figured out it was gallstones. Anyway, one of the girls I was dating took me to the ER as I had an attack after some pretty fatty foods we had for dinner. The girl was laughing at me the whole time I was basically gasping for air due to the pain. Needless to say, I thanked her for the ride then told her to take a hike! Take it slow, don't force the date if you aren't feeling well or in pain. If you do go, best of luck! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 18, 2012 Author Share Posted March 18, 2012 wow, what a not nice date!! glad you ditched her. Yes, i'm going to try to go to the show tonight. I'll bring an ice pack, just in case. i guess i can always leave too if I am in massive pain. he's been texting me every few hours to see how I am doing, so that's been nice of him. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 That really is sweet of him. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 so, the date was ok. we met up at the show, i was still in a lot of pain. he massaged my back and i managed to make it through half the show. i told him that early on, i wasn't feeling well, and suggested we leave halfway. he said ok, that actually his favorite team was playing that night and wanted to watch the game on TV. I was surprised because i knew that he was a huge fan of this team and that he was ready to go the show i wanted to see and he would have missed his game. he was like, 'it's ok - i haven't seen you in a while.' so, we went back to his place, and we watched part of the game and kissed for a little while, and then i went home because i knew he had to work early today, and he was tired. so it was nice catching up with him. his birthday is in 2 weeks, i suggested to him that i'd like to take him out for his bday. the actual day, it sounds like, he is going to be out of town on a boys' weekend he is trying to organize. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Sounds like it went well despite you being on pain and he was inner sweet. how you feeling today? Link to comment
hers Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 He sounds super sweet. I was hoping we'd get an update today! I hope you're feeling better Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 still feel terrible. lying in bed. going back to the dr. tomorrow. i can't even imagine how people who have chronic pain deal. for me, this is torture. Link to comment
Ellie2006 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Annie, so glad to hear that the date went well (as it could despite your back pain!) Feel better soon~ Link to comment
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