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thanks for the responses....i should have been clearer....we have met and we dated before and then he went back home. anyways he calls me from the airport saying he is trying to come see me on the deadline then he emails me saying he is back home. i realized how stupid ive been. havent talked to him since. i went out on a date this week....i didnt end up liking the guy but it was nice to be appreciated if only for a bit. i just have to move on....this has been dragging and he is being shady. it hurts but ill get over it.
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so i have given my "friend" a deadline this week. he is supposed to book a flight to see me. i think he will let me down. i just dont trust him. but why would someone miles and miles away lead someone on. i always thought i was smart but i have the stupids when it comes to him. i care about him and he is always letting me down. i hold back when i meet other men in hopes it will work out. id be stupid to think he isnt seeing anyone but he was adamant that he was coming to stay here for a while this time. why is he pushing my buttons. need help.
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hi...looking for advice...a man i care deeply about is overseas. we talk once a week and talked about going on holiday together. we both are finally single at the same time. problem is it isnt until april that we can get together and i like him so much i feel like im being an idiot for thinking he isnt hooking up with other women while we are apart. he tells me how much he thinks about me and how much he wants to see me but he let me down last year. am i being strung along as someone he just wants to hook up with and have a place to crash while he is in town. i hate to think this about him but most men do cheat.
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I guess I just don't want to ruin our friendship by thinking anything more than what is going on. Plus we have a history and even though he has apologized for the past....(it was just little things we fought about) we seem to be in this circle where we break up and become friends then date again. And I don't want a third time to end again with a stupid fight. I guess I will wait and see what happens.
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Hello...I haven't posted in a while. I have been enjoying the single life then wham 2 guys I care for and have dated in the past come into my life again. One saying he would love to go out with me again (but he is accross the ocean so lost cause to that and I don't see a future even though we have the most fun together). The second is a guy I have dated then broken up with, then dated and broken up with. This time it seemed like our friendship finally could turn into something. He has been coming over helping me with house stuff. Offered to help me move, came over 3 times to fix my computer, stopped by unexpectedly on a few occasions to bring me things. Hinting that he wants to stop by and see me when we chat on email. So when I finally get the nerve to invite him over to watch our favourite show he calls me 10 min before saying he can't make it and he is packing to go away on some work trip for 4 days. I feel like something is holding him back. He acts shy and nervous around me a little but is always offering to help me with everything. So confused. This is it. Now I feel like an idiot for misreading what probably was friendship only vibes. Should I just say screw it??
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4000 plus miles away..so confusing
melly_2002 replied to melly_2002's topic in Long-Distance Relationships
Thanks for everyones advice. He last contacted me on Monday with an email asking me if I still wanted him to keep in touch with me. I think I just need a break and we haven't spoken all week. He told me he didn't mean it in that way and he felt bad about being so harsh with me. Logically I guess we need to live our lives and if we are still talking when he comes back to see what happens. -
Hi..I am currently keeping in contact with a man I met this summer. He was visiting from the U.K. and I live in Canada. I hadn't talked to him in about a month and one day he rang me up from overseas and we talked and have been emailing and talking on the phone ever since. He is coming back in a few months. He will call and leave me sweet messages about how he misses me and cant wait to see me, how he cant wait to hear my voice. He asked me to send him pictures and we have been exchanging care packages in the mail. He says how I should wait for him and I decided if I wasn't involved with anyone when he returned we would pick up where we left off. In his messages he tells me not to go out with anyone etc. etc. Then all of a sudden he emails me and says he didn't mean anything he said and that I was probably going out with a lot of men and that he couldn't control what I was doing and he didn't care who I went out with. Now I am totally confused! What was the sudden change? He acts jealous and is always saying how I am so pretty that I can have any man I want. Is he just being cautious or just being a jerk now?
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Thanks....you are a sweetie...be proud of me...I just took your advice. I am going out with my girlfriend tonight...screw him. It seems he pursues and then when he knows he has me he is fickle and seems disinterested. Again thanks for responding and I wish you well.
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Thanks I know he sounds fickle however we were able to maintain a friendship since we broke up. Although he even had the nerve to say I didnt sound interested in him when we talked after having seen each other for the first time. I dont know why he said that. I dont know why he started pursuing me again just to start acting like this right from the start. I dont know why one minute he acts into me and the next he acts like it doesnt bother him to postpone our evening together. We havent slept together since we started seeing each other. Thank god for that. I want to get on with my life with or without him but I wish he would just either tell me straight up that he likes me or doesnt. We obviously care enough about each other to have remained friends but where do we go from here. Oh and he still hasnt called me yet today! Please help. I hate this feeling.
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Hi, About 4 months ago I broke up with someone and we have recently started seeing each other this week. Over the last few months we have kept in touch mostly thru email. The last few weeks he has started to call me and finally Saturday we got together. But we never talked about anything to do with us which is strange. Then we spent time on Wednesday and were supposed to do something last night. This is where it gets confusing. He emailed me at work saying lets go to dinner and a movie. Then he emailed me saying he had to work later and not to wait around for him but that I should call him when I got home. So I did and he was at his friends house. So I thought hmmmmmm....He still asked if I wanted to see the movie however he sounded busy. I started to question if he really was working late and if so why hadn't he called me when he got off sooner. So I just said lets do it another night cause I Was MAD. He said ok I will call you tomorrow and we will go out. But I know he knew I was pissed and I expected an apology or something, even a call back but nothing. Am I over reacting? I want to trust him but I just don't know what his intentions are. Any advice would be great.
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Thanks for the advice. As for sleeping with him well it's too late for that. I am going to not sleep with him until I have asked a few questions. I just am not sure what he expects. One minute he seems to act jealous and the next I am confused. Do you think he is using me?
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I posted a couple of days ago about this guy I met who was possibly leaving in Sept to go and live back home. Well we went out Thursday night and everything was great. I just don't know what to think about it all. He left to go up and play a couple of songs at the bar and when he came back another guy had come over and sat beside me in his seat. The guy was not attractive nor was I flirting and he looked at me and said I guess I lost my seat and then asked me if we were ready to go. On the way out he was asking me who he was. A little jealous? And the thing is he hasn't made up his mind as to when he is leaving. Well last night he calls at 2 in the morning after not have had called me all day. I was a little insulted as we all know what he was looking for. We have been spending lots of time together but I am so confused. Does he want a girlfriend...is he going back home soon...am I just someone he's sleeping with until he goes back home? He also gets annoyed when others point out that I am attractive. I really like him and here I am posting this as I wait for him to call me back. If I see him later I will definitely be asking him some questions.
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Hello, I recently have met this wonderful man. The problem is he is possibly leaving and moving back to Europe. I only met him a week and a half ago however this is the first time in years where I have clicked with someone and felt so happy. We have gone out 4 times and several phone conversations in such a short time. We spent the weekend together and he is always saying how great I am and how down to earth and fun to be around with. We are so comfortable together like we have known one and other for years. I last spoke to him Monday morning and I have decided not to call him back. He might be leaving in Sept if he can't get a work Visa. He has already told me how he told his sister and family about me and is constantly flattering me. He even told me he had this nightmare that he was back home and I had called him and he was upset that we couldn't see each other. I am supposed to call him but I have fallen for this man and I can't take getting hurt. I know this sounds strange due to the short time frame we have been together. I haven't called him back....I am scared to find out if he is leaving and I want to trust him however I just can't bring myself to do that. Help.
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Thanks for everyones advice. I am not sure if I want to give it a try because I miss him or if I just miss being in a relationship. I know I still like him and we broke up basically because of how I was acting. He felt that I didn't like him at first and then it turned into me not calling for a couple of days and me getting upset for no reason. It was not all my fault but I definitely didnt act towards him how I truly felt. I really liked him but couldn't show it for some reason. I have never done that before...acted uninterested but truly was. I guess I will have to figure it out. I am very confused. We talked over email a few times today but one day at a time I guess.
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Would you forgive me....?? for the guys
melly_2002 replied to melly_2002's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Since I posted this I apologized and he forgives me but now I don't know what to do. I posted again today "Am I reading too much into this". Help I need advice badly.