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^ This entire post is worth repeating.

^ I was thinking the same thing.

Believe me, your life will have a lot MORE meaning without this abusive clown. You had a life before him and you don't need abuse in your life to make it better. Just think about that. Really think about what you're doing. Is this what you envision for the rest of your life? Be prepared for it to get a lot worse - it always does. His abuse will only escalate and he'll control every aspect of your life ... and he'll continue doing what he is doing all because you allow him to treat you badly. You have two choice: 1) Stay with him and put up with his abuse until you are a mere shell of yourself living an extremely unhappy miserable life, OR 2) Show him you have enough self-respect by walking away and tell him he can shove his abuse where a monkey puts its apples. Walk out with your head held high and your self-respect and dignity in tact. Stay with him? If that's your choice, then you can't complain about it.

Way way too much drama and chaos for only 2 months. Way too much. I understand you're hurting but seriously, you dodged a bullet here. You really don't need to put your whole life on hold for such a mess. Move forward to a better future.

Awesome! Well done!! 👍

This guy is not the guy for you. 8 months is still very early days and not much time invested. I say cut your losses and the sooner the better. Without trust you have nothing and if you choose to stay, your life WILL become a nightmare and you'll be miserable - always questioning, always wondering, never trusting. I can't think of anything worse. That is not the way a happy, healthy relationship works. I'd rather be single. Simply tell him it's just not working for you anymore, wish him well and head for the door. Don't look back.

Um, ...... that's why blocking and deleting will work. You won't read them anymore.

I agree with all the posts above. As long as you keep responding to this guy he won't go away. Don't want this pest around? Stop responding. NC. End of.

I would hardly call 4 years an age gap.

I agree with the above. All I can say is whatever happens, make sure you step up to the plate and own your responsibilities by paying child support for the next 18 years.

Mass hysteria gone mad. What ever happened to good old fashioned common sense?

I honestly wouldn't bother. If after 5 years of being together, and you have mentioned it to her before, and not much has changed, then telling her all over again is not going to make any difference. Clearly it goes in one ear and comes out the other - this is who she is and after 5 years you either learn to accept it, or find another more compatible to you and your morals and values. She is NOT going to change. Save your breath.

Yep, going by that description I can totally understand why you didn't stay long. Sounds very gross and very off-putting. Ugh. I'm a fan of outdoors - hiking, biking, walking trails etc etc. Not sure though if there are any "clubs" that do this sort of thing where you are.

It really is crazy stuff. I've been to Canada many times and never known weather like this. Very "out there". I remember once being there in June and there was two feet of snow in some places, lol. But the extreme heat, no. I know all about extreme heat, but not for Canada. Awful.

I know. We're living in a world of extremes now. Extreme heat, extreme cold etc. And it seems to get worse every year.

Miserable horrible weather. Very cold. Very windy. Raining on and off for days. I'm suffering from brain freeze right now, lol.

I have just come to the conclusion that I don't suffer fools gladly. Not sure if that's a good or bad thing.

A 3 year age gap is not shocking, but sometimes the ages do matter. Sometimes at age 16 we are in a very different phase of life to a 19 year old and that's where problems can arise. Sure, there are "mature" 16 year old and immature 19 year old etc, but (to me) 16 is mostly still in a very different phase to someone older. You say you don't even know if he's interested in you at this point anyway. Don't jump the gun. Should he show interest, make sure you let him know you are 16.

^ I second this. Cut your losses, you'll be better off.

Hi MB, would you like to close your other journal?

Going to be MIA for a little while. Massive flooding all over the State, cars disappearing under water, roads washed away, houses floating down rivers, all roads to town closed off due to most of town flooded, my sister has been cut off for three days without power. We're now cut off too, with power going on and off. Behind us, two trees at the back of the house have come down and creeks have become lakes. Torrential rain for over a week and still expected to continue for another week with extreme strong winds. The ocean is beyond terrifying right now. Very scary stuff. Never seen anything like this. Geez, if we're not surrounded by fire, we're surrounded by water. ~fingers crossed we don't lose power for the next week~ bye.

You come across as quite insecure, low self-esteem and smothering him. And he's a cheater and just far too different from you. Maybe it's the age difference. Getting back together will not change either of you. You're a bad match. Incompatible. It will never work.

I think my hubby and I are the only people on the planet who had no idea it was Valentine's Day (a couple of days ago), lol. Went to a store today and we see all the flowers, gifty things all over the place. Me: .... "what's with all the flowers and decorations and stuff?" ......... Him: ..... "I have no idea". Then both, at the exact same time, the lightbulb goes on: ......... "Ohhhhhhhhh, must have Valentines Day or something. Meh". 😄

I agree with the above. If he has at least showered once a day (or at night), as most people do, then I don't understand, and then yes, I would say you are being unreasonable. (Brushing teeth really should be a must, especially if he doesn't want to risk losing all of his teeth due to poor dental hygiene). If he hasn't showered for several days/nights, then hell yes, that IS an issue and really just yuck. Do you guys only have sex in the morning? It's all a little confusing. OP, can you clarify please?

Not brushing teeth (and foul breath), not showering, and smelling BO ... just gross, gross, gross. IF he expects oral and doesn't wash/shower, even more gross. Lack of personal hygiene (for me), is a deal breaker, but that's just me. Perhaps joining him in the shower will solve the problem.