mkgirl

HOW TO LOSE A GUY IN 10 DAYS!!! it is really funny, cute and it will get her in that romantic, flirty frame of mind!!

It is not too late to be a born again virgin. Honestly, I would start over if I was you. Being 14, you are just getting into high school,..aren't you?? Then you said you wanted to wait til you were older. Well that makes it so obvious.. wait!!!! please do. 14 is too young to get pregnant, or to get a sexually transmitted disease!! you dont want to be in your 20's regretting doing that when you were so young. you can stop now.. and just wait until it is really special and you dont doubt being ready. and wait until you are truly in love.. trust me that makes sex a totally different thing and so much better emotionally and physically. you dont want to have a bunch of partners. and i am sorry to sound so negative, but i am sure the boyfriend you have now is not your last boyfriend. so just let your boyfriend know you are both too young.. and if he doesnt stay around.. that just shows you that he is definitely not someone you should want to be with anyhow!!!

owlman, no i definitely meant what i said in the post. I don't want something "more" when I stay. we have been such good friends and he is moving far from me. I don't want to give that part of me to him. I just want to be around him, so that is another thing. I don't want him to think that I want to do "more" by asking to stay the night. b/c as it was just shown.. staying the night to guys, appears they are doing "more". i don't want to come off like that. i just want to be not so obvious?? any advice on not so obvious. just asking out right seems too much for me!!

I really think what you said is great. You have no idea how wonderful it is for a girl to hear that a guy hasn't slept around. That is a major turn on. I am 21 and I just lost my virginity to a guy I was engaged to. Like you, I wanted to wait til marriage. And I figured we were already engaged, so that was about the same. Well, don't ever give in until after you are actually married. It will make it that much better. Dont feel embarrassed because you are a virgin, that is so great. Girls always freak out and worry and think about the "other girls" that their bf's or hubby's have been with. whoever you end up with will be lucky enough to not stress over it. And I know that as a fact it really bothered me to know of past girls. the woman you end up with is incredibly lucky and dont be afraid to boast that!!

thanks for the advice!! i think you are right.. but in that circumstance.. i feel kinda embarrassed just coming out and saying that. b/c it isn't like me. but maybe that could be why it is a good idea?? either way, thanks!

Ok, here goes. If I am kinda dating this guy that I have actually been best friends with for 6 years or more.. and he is getting ready to move about 6 hours from me. and i am going to see him the last weekend before he moves away. we are all going out with our big group of friends. and i want to stay the night with my best pal. just so that he can hold me and stuff (and a little making out isn't so bad either), so that we can spend the most of our last night together. how do i go about getting him to invite me over to stay the night, without pushing myself on him?? are there any not so obvious hints i can give??

well basically, look at it like. what are you going to lose by telling her?? express your feelings to her, so at least.. if you find out that she doesn't have those same feelings.. you wont be at school an hour and half away just wondering. i wont lie, it would hurt to hear that, but at least you will know. and if she has the same feelings, really an hour and a half isn't too far!! so go ahead and share your feelings, but be honest with yourself and what you are willing to do in this situation. dont make any broken promises, be true to yourself and her!

tell her your feelings, tell her what you are thinking. you will forever be upset if you dont tell her. that is such an obvious feeling, if you feel something for this girl. let her know. she might be having the same problem and doesnt know if she should tell you?? you never know until you tell her!! soo.. go!

well it is soo clearly obvious. tell her how you feel. dont go overboard, and before you run and tell her. consider all possibilities, consider what you are willing to do or not to do if she would accept. but no matter what, tell her. if you dont, you will always be wondering, "what if". and that is the worst feeling, if you tell her now.. you will at least know her true feelings, tell her tell her!!

wow it is nice to hear there are good guys out there still! well i think it is really sweet. and i agree there are several other ways to show your affection. you can show them just by complimenting him, playing with his hair. being just yourself, you are affectionate all the time and you probably do not even realize it. you must do kind things already if he says you are the sweetest girl he knows. so i am sure you are already doing a great job. just be tender and care for him. any act of kindness is a sign of affection. so just smile, use your kind eyes and be yourself. i am definite you are already showing him your affectionate side!!

Ok, this is a confusing situation. I have been best friends with a guy for nearly 6 years now. We have been very close, we use to stay over night with each other and just hang out. I would share my guy probs with him and his girl probs with me. Our mutual friends always thought we had a secret relationship and always thought we should get together. And I actually had a pretty good crush on him for the last 3 years of our friendship.. but I wouldn't ever try to push for more than friends b/c I am very shy about doing that. (although, I am pretty definite he knew) So, anyhow, about 2 years ago, I moved 2 hours away from him. I met a guy up where I live and after only 6 months of being together, he proposed. And I accepted, he is a really great guy. But my feelings for my best friend never went away. Anyhow, I would go back home probably once a month and I would see my best friend. once I was engaged and went home, I saw my best friend with a bunch of my other friends. He asked to talk to me alone, and we went outside on this beautiful boat while the sun was setting and he told me about the feelings he had for me and he said he had to tell me now before I was married. He said he wanted to be with me and the 2 hrs distance didnt mean anything. I was pretty much in shock, b/c I think i have been secretly in love with him for several years now. But I did love my fiance as well, he is a really great guy. but beinghonest with myself, I knew I was missing that "tingly" feeling for my fiance. Which is scary. Well, anyhow.. i tried to forget about my pal telling me this and tried to go on with my fiance, b/c after all it was too late, right? So, then I tried to stay just friends.. but I still saw him about once a month. And I made the biggest mistake of my life once, I cheated on my fiance with my best friend. And I don't regret being affectionate with my best pal.. but I regret the timing and that I would do that to my fiance. I told my fiance right away, and he actually forgave me and offered to stay together. I still didn't feel right about it and we eventually called off the wedding and then a few months later called our entire relationship off. It was probably a 8 month long process since the timing of our engagement and our breaking up. And there is nothing wrong with my ex fiance at all, he is a great guy and I am scared I will someday regret this. But that isn't my prob. My prob now is that my pal is moving farther away now, and we will soon be 6 hours apart. And I am scared to get in a serious relationship right now anyhow after this hectic year. We have dated some here and there since then, and we always get along great, but it wasn't what he made it out to be. Plus he isn't exactly consumed with the idea of starting a relationship between us. he still says that he considers me as a possible wife in the future. He says I have everything he wants in a wife, but there is one thing missing that he cant place. he continuously says we will just see what time tells us.. and that if we are meant to be.. we will be. So, i am kinda upset about this all. i mean i called off my wedding with a good guy and everything for my pal. and now he is just so laid back and whatever about it. like, well if we are meant to be, we will be. and he is talking a couple of years down the road. so my question is, do I do my best to forget about my best friend and I ever getting together?? do i waste anymore time on this whole "possibility"? what should I do? try or not try? forget about him or try to work things out?? any advice would be great!! thanks!