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Never give up your friends and if they are true friends they will understand your situation, if she is a true girlfriend she understand as well. But just some food of thought...can u really center your life around just one person?

After my breakup of 6 yrs...I finally picked up the pieces and tried to puzzle them back. Only until about 2 weeks ago my ex saw me hangin out with friends and a couple of friends were girls. This was probably the first time she saw me with another member of the opposite sex and as soon as the club closed she caught me by surprise and starting talking trash about how I owe her money and how my half of the rent wasnt paid and how she wasted 6 yrs of her life with me. Not to mention I took about two hits and a kick to my shin... I'm sure she was aiming at something else. My friends finanally had enough and had to separate her from me as all I wanted to talk to her as an adult and finally gets some closure. As I started unpacking some of my stuff today I found a letter she wrote about me 3 yrs ago. It was a letter she had written in school about her "favorite person" All I did was reflect for a moment, smile and then I realized she was no longer that person. A little bit of me still wants her to come crawling back but I know that would be unhealthy. So instead I'm going to mail to her that letter I found without a return address and I could only wish I could see her response from opening that letter. No need to stumble cuz when u crumble all you have left is the rumble in your heart that no longer resembles what you could of done when you were able to hold on and not fumble.

4get him and move on or else u will just end up being 2nd fiddle and his backup plan

Hey that sounds like my story except it was she who was 15 and now 21 and broke up with me...It has been about two months now...my standards have gone through the roof that I can't seem to find someone but I really am not ready for another committed relationship and have too much pride to just have a quick fling...anyways just keep your options open...grieve first then heal

Please whatever you do dont waste your money and send 5 dozen flowers! I just broke up with my ex of 5 years and I did just that...wasted quite a bit of money but atleast she kept them. I realized I could of bought myself some new clothes or go on a couple of dates with different girls etc. If she made the choice to leave she will make the choice to return. Just hang in there and try as little possible to cut all ties...Good luck!

Don't take her back! Whos to say she won't do what she did to you again...it seemed you were on your track to recovery but you just need to cut all ties with her if you want to move on. Don't forget that you were the one that was done wrong to. Give yourself more time to heal and if she really loves you she will respect your actions! Peace

What i have done recently to help cope is start writing how I feel on my computer. Everytime I would feel the need to vent I would just start typing and I mark the date of my passages of what I have written. When I feel nothing is going right I just read what I have written and it sometimes helps. This might be weird but I found some old photos of me and the ex and I just began drawing. Seeing if I have any talent. I get to remember the good old days and yet when I no longer feel the need to express myself I just set everything aside. It does help kill the time of loneliess. And yes call up old friends even if you have not spoken for 5 years, they are usually more willing to listen. Be around people who care about you and let yourself grow again like if you were 13.

I think when people get back together the relationship must be totally different or else it will end up with the same result. Basically the people will have changed and the relationship should just start as a new one. It doesnt matter on time length 2 months, 5 years, 50 years if they wanna leave they are just gonna leave. If there is no reason to go back then why would they go back...just to extend the relationship another extra week or month or year? True love will always find its way...along with the help of fate. So don't worry about if your loved one will return...maybe they really havent found you just yet.

Yeah before me and my loved one broke up, I always kinda wondered how it would be if I were to be single and if I were the one that broke up. Now I finally understand that I had no reason to want to break up and I would never wish this pain of loneliness on her even though she has done so to me. I still love her but I am slowly trying to let her go and recover. It is hard but it can be achieved.

This girl doesnt seem to be your soulmate or someone whom you would die for but she does seem to be someone you care for. Let the space between you two air out and when both of you feel comfortable, let her know how you feel. There will be less pressure and resentment if any plus you'll both feel better.

Writing and Poetry has always been one of my outlets, usually when I'm down and out but it does help a lot. Having words written down is a way for me to remember how I feel. I remember looking back at some the the stuff I wrote 5 years ago and it made me feel better. It doesnt matter to me if its high quality poetry, cuz it probably isnt but, words nonetheless help heal. I just wish I sometimes wrote more when I was happy. Regardless, keep up the poetry its something no one can take from you.

Its good that you are atleast going out. I am in the same kinda stage, at first I just hung aroung staring at the wall no tv, no contact, but a lot of sappy song to listen to. I reached out to old friends and began to make new ones to keep my mind of my love. Hang in there and it will all work itself out.

No we have not formally broken up with words but I do feel it is just around the corner. I guess I have her parents supporting me telling me that she just needs to be girl and she has never had the time to be one. There is one good thing that has arrive out of this. I have quit smoking. Kinda ironic how I have been with this girl for as long as I have been smoking. Not being able to have a cigarette helps forget a little bit about the situation but those damn cravings can be quite a challenge. It seems I might end up pretty healthy after everything is said and done.

Yes my girlfriend for the past 6 years decided it was time to go on her own. Heres the beginning of a very long story...We first met when I was 19 and she was 16. Things immediately clicked even though the age gap seemed at the time to be a big gap. I did romantic things for her and well she has always been true to me. She was in an inter-racial relationship, it didnt seem to bother neither or us...or so we thought. After being together for about two years most of my friends began moving away as did her friends. We grew even closer together. Before you knew it we even had the same job over the summer working side by side in an electronic manufacturing plant on a graveyard shift. Romantic huh. Anyways about that time she starting moving in with me. There was never anytalk about it but it was the situations where "Hey since I'm always over and never go home, I'll start bringing my stuff over," That was no big deal to me. The place was still my own, I paid all the bills, rent, and food. Well a year later we decided to find a place together to move into. We decided to adopt some pets as well. her father had a vacancy in one of his rental homes so we moved right in. 3 years and 4 pets later, it seems like everything has crumbled down. Our time together starting getting shorter and drier. She began a new job about 3 months ago at a restaurant as a waitress. There she has met some new people, some who I have encounted in the past, who are basically her new best friends. Three weeks ago after coming home drunk from the bar she told me that she believed we had the most perfect relationship. I was understanding that at her age, she had not had much alone time to do things on her own. i used to worry of what would happen if I werent around how she would go on. Now I know the role has been reversed. It seems I took our time together for granted, not letting her know how much I care. I have never cheated on her, let alone flirt with any girls around her cuz she would of let me had it. But anyways there are a lot of x-factors that play into this relationship. I had a nice talk with her mother who said she symphathized with what is goin on. My girlfriend hasnt slept at home for the past two weeks. She just comes to change and take a shower then go to work. i finally got her to talk to me yesterday and it seems our relationship is beginning a new chapter. I talked to her how hard it was to find a new place considering I just lost one of my jobs and money is kinda tight right now. And all the things we have built together over the years and our pets even....but she doesnt seem to show nothing much but just a neutral attitude. I am now 25 and she is 21. This fall will be both our last years of school. I did my share of messin around before I met her but I was waiting to meet someone like her so I could kinda settle down. She had never had the experience of staying out all night and all the juicygirl-talk rumors. Since I have more time on my hands now, i realized that I have to enjoy more of life. And she wont give me the time of day now so I just try to keep it together. Yes I have had many sleepless nights and long days. I set my mp3 player on to the love songs categories and listened my way to sleep. Seemed like every song was written about my exgirlfriend. It feels kinda weird to call her my ex, even though we kinda do live together still and I do still cling on to a little bit of hope that our love we rekindle itself through time. This website and all the people that shared their experiences have really helped guided a path of possibilities. Who knows what the future holds but I believe fate will lead you to your eternal love and happiness. Hope I didnt bore any of you to death, please add questions or comments, because I am ready to share.