bryan

Wow that was pretty cold of her to do that to you on Christmas Eve!! It totally could have waited a few days. Sounds like she just wants to have the upper hand or maybe she misses you so much that she wants you to call her. A lot of girls are just too stubborn to make that move, but they hint it through other ways. Her way of breaking the ice might be simply returning something of yours that she had. That sounds pretty much like what she did. You could either keep the upper hand by not responding to it and letting it go or you could call her and simply say thanks. Keep it short and brief and make your point then hang up. It sounds like she misses you but she is showing it in kind of a cold way. I really dont know what to tell you, but it wouldnt hurt to call her! How did the breakup end? Bad terms? Mutual? This would help me determine her motives by her bringing back your things. If you do call her though, be very cautious as to what you say. You dont want to sound desperate nor unconfident. Let me know how the relationship ended and I will be able to help you more.

Awesome advice everyone! Thanks for the help! I am going to go back and buy something small and see if she remembers me. If she does I am going to make a move for her number 8)

Ok so today me and my buddy went to the mall to do some x-mas shopping and we decided to check out the men's cologne section in Macy's. I look up and see this beautiful girl who works there ringing someone up. We make eye contact and she looks down right away. So I quickly lose interest in the colognes and just pretend like I am smelling them but in reality I am checking her out. I look at her again and she looks at me and looks away. So....after about 15 minutes of messing around at the colognes, she walks up to me and my buddy and looks at me and says, will you fill out a macy card application? She tells me she will get in trouble by her boss if I dont. So I agree just to make small talk with her. So she gives me an application and asks me to fill it out. She used a highlighter and had me fill out my address, name, and phone number only. I then realize that she is asking me for my ssn and all my other information on her register so she can process the app immediately. I sign my name electronically on the key pad and that is it. I asked her why I had to fill out the paper app if she does it all online. She said I could write whatever I wanted on the app. So now the million dollar question, do you guys think she just wanted my address and phone number? I dont really think she gave a crap about me filing out an app. My friend said he knew this girl was interested in me just by her signs. But I have no game when it comes to chicks so I hope she calls me. She had to be the most gorgeous girl I saw at the mall all day. What would you guys have done in my situation? My friend said I should have given her my phone number, but I hope she just remembers it from my app. Would you guys go back and talk to her again? I always tell myself that there is no way this girl could be interested in me, but for some reason, I think she was.

Very good to know,,,but girls are usually the ones who want me to do it to them! Every girl I have been with loves it

ya not every girl uses the net. I say talk to her for a while in person first. Get to know her personality and if she is even single. If you guys start to click then ask for her phone number. Asking for a screen name is kind of cheesy if you ask me. She might think youre too unconfident to talk on the phone or talk in person. I mean think about it, you really dont get to know someone too well on AOL except their typing speed

WERD 8)

I would not prefer a virgin but would like someone who has maybe had only one or two partners. The girl I am trying to see right now has only had two partners and that is awesome to me. Most of the girls I have been with have been in the 30's and 40's (partners) . Rediculous but I didnt find out until after I had made the commitment. The number of partners doesnt really have much of an impact on me as you can tell, but I do feel things will last longer (relationship wise) with a girl who has fewer partners. I do not really want to be with a virgin because it would just be too awkward for me. Plus having to teach a girl and go super slow is not my thing. It is hard to explain but I am sure most guys can relate. I am sure it is the same for women though. They dont want a guy who cant use his tool correctly . I would only want to be with a virgin if I was a still a virgin. But like someone said, it doesnt matter at all though if you truly care about the person. But we are talking preference on this topic so there it is 8) My friends joke around about virgins being a good catch only because you get to "pop their cherries" and it will be super "tight". I have girls I can call for good sex if I need it so I dont think a virgin would be someone I would be attracted to. I feel comfortable with those girls and dont have to worry about showing them the ropes and being extra careful.

I have been hanging out with my friends daily since my ex broke up with me. My ex was my best friend and I kind of neglected my other friends when her and I were together. But about a month ago, my ex came back and wanted to be friends with me, even though she had a boyfriend. This was great and all, but I realized it just got me more attached to her again and I wanted her back. So I basically cut contact with her so now she is no longer there. Then one of my other good female friends (with whom I have been friends for 4 years) had sex with my older brother at my Lake Tahoe cabin during my birthday party with all my friends. I told her that was very disrespectful to me since we have been close friends for so long. She is one of the few female friends that I have with whom I havn't slept. Her and I always tell each other we will get married one day. Well I dont marry people who sleep with my family members, its just not right. So I have pretty much pushed her out of my life. I did so much for her too: fix her car, buy her lunch/dinner all the time, invite her with me to parties when she was sitting at home alone, and basically was the type of guy she could call at 3am in the morning for a ride if she was too drunk (and she knew I wouldnt take advantage of her like many of her guy friends.) I feel so used by her. Plus this girl has a lot of female friends who were also my friends, so now that she is out of my life, so are those other girls (they stick together). And I recently got a job as a local police officer recruit, which means I can't hang around my guy friends because many of them are into drugs and breaking the law. This would be the worst role model for me to enforce the law, then come home and hang out with the guys and watch them break the same laws that I had just arrested someone for . So basically I only have a handful of friends who are good friends and are good roll models but they are either married or too caught up into their jobs. I know I wont be thinking about it as much when I go to the academy, but for the next 2 months I know I will be lonely. I have been trying to work out and study but I feel like I am on house arrest because my friends are basically gone! Sorry this is so long, and I dont really expect any answers, it just felt good to let this off my chest. Thanks! Bryan

Sometimes though it is nice to have those times where you can have sex with no strings attached. I agree that it is a very emotional experience, but sex can be a lot of fun with a person you feel comfortable with (even if you dont love them). I finally had the balls to meet a girl that I have liked for 2 years. I would always see her driving around but I never thought I would have a chance to be with her. Well I met her one day and I was in bed with her that night lol! She is definitely not a girl that I would ever want to date but she is an awesome lay! We both know there are no expectations in the friendship so it is very casual. I think it really helps you if you have sex with a girl without strings attached. If you only have sex with girls you have truly loved, you may never be able to have sex comfortably with another girl! There are so many girls out there that I look at and say to myself "I bet she is a freak in bed, but I would never want her as a girlfriend." So you see sex doesnt always have to be based on love and emotions. I think of it as a release when I am single, and when I have sex with a girl, she gets just as much pleasure out of it as I do . And girls want sex just as much as guys do! Just make sure each person is aware of each others expectations beforehand.

Sometimes the filler girls help you move on though! Sometimes it's nice to have someone where you know there are no expectations involoved but you can still have a good time! And since you say you are lonely, it would probably help you immensly in moving on. Just knowing that there are people in your life will help greatly. Not saying you need to get out there and find a new girl right now, but meeting new people will be the biggest step in letting go of your ex. I would go to work and come home and sleep for 3 months and not even go out on the weekends after I lost my ex. But I realized she left me and I need to get over it. She has moved on and so should I. Get out there and socialize! It really boosts your confidence!

I truly believe the reason we hang onto our ex's like you explained is only because we may have shared some emotional times together. I know whenever I go to Lake Tahoe or Reno I always think of my ex because I remember how much fun her and I had together. Even if I go there with a fine female and my male buddies and I am laughing and having a great I still think about my ex. It just always feels like there is something missing. Until you can share this emotional experience with another person the ex will still remain in the back our heads. It doesnt have to be a vacation spot like my situation, it can be a restaurant, a holiday (sometimes the worst), a dream, a picture, sex, or even a gift from the ex that you still hold onto. Maybe you have sex with hot girls, but maybe you liked that your ex knew how to please you and always knew what you liked. We know everything about our ex's and vice versa so pleasing each other and remaining comfortable at the same time plays a big role. We could be ourselves around our ex's and they wouldnt judge us for that. The thing I always remember about my ex is how much her and I had in common. She loved working on cars, she loved racing, drinking, gambling, traveling, eating different foods, and most of all, she knew how to make me smile. We think we will never find another person like our ex. But if you have had more than one ex, just think about how everytime you found a new girl she was better than the previous ex!! It has been 5 months for me now and I still dont have a new girlfriend. I have been with different girls since then but nothing serious. Just "fillers" I call them. I know I am ready for another girlfriend but finding one suitable for me is the task. Looks arent so important to me but personality and compatibility is. I am so tired of having relationships last only 6 months or a year. I want something a little more permanent! Honestly I would rather have a girl who's looks weren't spectacular but I could be happy with emotionally than a girl who won a beauty pageant but would drive me nuts in the head! I call those girls the fillers! They are fun to be with but they are only there to fill the space until the right girl comes along. I think you just need to keep looking for the right person. It sounds like you are a lot like me and are getting tired of the filler girls. Once the right girl comes along, you will be able to forget about your ex. I try to look at all of my ex's and remember what each of their strong points and weaknesses were. This is why it is so hard to find the right girl. It seems I can never find a girl who has it all. But I wont settle for any less because I dont want to get heartbroken again. I never thought 5 months ago I would ever try find another girl, but in reality it is kind of exciting! The thrill of possibly meeting my next lover at the mall,a party, a bar, or anywhere is truly a thrill! Enjoy being single and able to play the field with no strings attached. This is the only way you will ever be able to find what you truly want in a relationship. I have been single most of my life but have had many awesome flings. I have really only had 2 or 3 strong relationships and they each ended because the girl wanted something else. Not my fault, they simply cant commit to one guy for more than a short period of time. I wish I had known that before I committed myself to them and got my heart broken. And it's funny how my ex's always try come back to me and all I can do is show them my face. I wont be walked over like that. If she isnt willing to give the same effort that I give someone else will. All I really want is a girl I can please and make happy for a long time. But I guess when one door closes another opens..... Sorry this was so long, but it felt good to share my opinions on this matter Bryan

just make him feel good and the rest will come natural! we may not know what to do, but when the time comes, I truly believe it comes natural

ya it feels good when a girl does it

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Then both of you will have a much faster healing process. It's much easier to get over an ex if you dont have any contact at all with them. Be thankful for your situation!