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ohh sheez. high school. either you fit or not. 2 years later and i'm still having nightmares. i have people who still go out of their way to tell me how much they hate me. but you just have to realize high school is not even close to what life is really like. i hope you know that. first, academics shouldn't define one of your personal faults. second, it's easy to pick up talking. the first step is the hardest and you already made it by telling people you are having trouble. if i could suggest anything it would be to make little brief, and every day comments. like asking a person next to you to borrow a pen when you forget yours because the teacher obviously took yours to shove up his *ss. ahaha don't say that. no, but asking how to do a math problem or anything. it can be quiet but it reminds people you are just human too. you'll soon make a few acquaintances that you can pursue. which can address your last problem. you could ask if they are going to a basketball game or something and say maybe you'll meet them there. that'll take care of any awkward run-ins to make them planned and fairly comfortable. that is always the hardest step. but you really don't have anything to lose by going out of your comfort zone. and if you take care of your physical appearance chances are a handful of girls have had their eye on you, and if you befriend just one girl then guys are going to want to be your friend too. because guys flock to competition. also, high school is almost over. so just try some new things! if you get embarrassed then you hardly have any time to think about it. and start over once you get out. talk to people you run in to. befriend a co-worker. go to college if you can (lots of great experiences there). but it's never too late to improve high school. you seem like a great guy so just step out of all those insecurities and show them who you really are. good luck! let me know if i can help.

ohhhh i do! nineteen years of being single, and becoming who i am. i've come to the conclusion that there is no way i can make anyone else happy unless i'm happy myself. so i just recently have started to destress. But until I'm ultimately happy with myself and my future and ready to have a relationship, I'm still going to enjoy my ultimate single life! but still, everyone should go hug their nearby single friend. ahaha

It really has surprised me how calmly the situation has been going. It's been two years and I call once every other night and visit as much as I can, but I still am living my life six hours away. I really don't know how to advise you though because I'm not sure what other family members you have. My mom talks to my grandma every morning and if my grandma is worried about her having a bad day she'll call me. It's our own family grapevine. Maybe if you have someone you can depend on in your family...Are you able to talk to your dad about your concerns, or even when he's sober do you not have a good relationship? If you do have a good relationship I would just straight out be honest with him. Tell him you don't trust him around your mom. Sometimes the truth blows them back into a good perspective.

i love a guy that comes to class in jeans and a casual button down. especially when the sleeves are rolled up. just be comfortable, because that is what i find most attractive. a guy who is comfortable in his clothes, emotionally and physically. but i have a feeling you are looking great. so i wouldn't worry too much about it.

I was in a similar situation as the youngest when I went to college except my mom was depressed and suicidal. My situation is different but just make sure you show your mom how important she is to you and how you want her to tell you everything. For the next few months just really work on your relationship with her. This will mean that you have to rely on her, so she has a reason to take care of herself. Everything will work out, and you need to do what you need to do. She'll love to see you thrive in college I'm sure. Good luck with everything!

this conversation has kind of taken a different direction but this is my two cents. i think it's kind of funny and light-hearted when the guy is alone. but i've had so many intimidating experiences with groups of guys! once i was stuck in a two lane traffic jam and a car full of guys next to me were honking their horns and all had their windows down just cat calling me and actually held up traffic to stay next to me in the traffic jam. then once the cars were moving again they actually followed me off my exit and into my campus' parking lot. i shuffled off to class while they remained in the car yelling for my number. then also i was just hanging out in central park once on a bench waiting for my next class when two guys sat down on either side of me. putting their hands on my legs and everything. telling me how i was the best looking girl they've seen and how they want to take me out. uhhhh!!!! it really can be intimidating when it gets so up close. but i think it's funny when i'm on my break getting lunch and a guy is like "damn..." under his breath. you can't help but smile.

i would ask for the phone number... it's harder for her to not respond (and gets the message accross pretty quickly rather than waiting) and when she does pick up the phone when you are just casually talking, you could say how there is some good book, song, website, anything really and that you'll email it to her if you could have her email address. that way you have both incase one is more comfortable than the other. hope that helps!

i kind of understand where you are coming from! i'm a part time student at a new school full of people who seem to refuse to talk to me! frustrating! but you gotta believe that you will meet the right people no matter what path you choose in life. they'll find you. and as for a suggestion, i've officially gotten three jobs. i meet lots of people, even by only working one job once a week. so if you find yourself alone on weekend nights, then just stop dwelling and find something you can do instead. you'll meet some people. and good luck with school! i'm sure you'll get to where you want to be soon.

when i started my new job in may, one of my coworkers kind of took me under his wing. he had a girlfriend at the time but that didn't stop me from falling for him. in october his girlfriend had broken up with him and we started to hang out shortly after. i'm 19, he's 22, so he's able to have the bar scene unlike me. but he would always ask me what i was doing ____ night because he was thinking of going up to my town. or whenever he went to a bar around my apartment he would call me for an invite over. just as friends though. by december some things had started to change, more touching while we passed eachother at work, him calling our friend only to ask if she's heard from me, calling me on new years upset that i was far away and saying, "i wish you were here.", and wanting me to meet his friends...i've learned a lot about him in his drunken states too. like how he doesn't think it should be the guy to ask girls out all the time. also, i posted once about one night we had with our friend, where he had kissed me but when i left to go get something for my friend he moved on to our friend. i've been frustrated and confused, but i'm getting over it and want to know if i should ask him out. i'm so shy but i don't want to let the opportunity to pass. do you think he's interested? and if yes, is asking him out the thing to do? or should i wait for him. and how would i do it?! i would love a guys opinion. thanks! x

the first thing that helped me on my diet was learning about why i should diet, besides to look better. help her find reasons to stick to a diet or a lifestyle. one reason i became a vegetarian is because i found out that they are 50% less likely to develop heart disease (the number one killer in women). after a stressful week of work, pick her up a bar of dark chocolate (reduces high blood pressure, and tastes realllllllllllly good). you said that you cook? well in the morning make her a smoothie with soy milk (has specific isoflavones that reduce breast, ovarian + prostate cancer, heart disease and symptoms such as hot flashes with menopause) and blueberries (high fiber + low calories), or make her oatmeal (good fiber, protein and the essential fatty acid GLA, *don't use instant*) and eat it with her, so it's not like you are doing something just for her. it is just that you were craving a smoothie or oatmeal for breakfast. as time goes on just mention all that you've been learning about foods and how they effect your health. she'll be impressed of the drastic changes they can have on your future and current health, and she won't even know that there has been a change in her diet!. slow to see results, but in ten years you'll be glad you helped her make the minor changes she did. let me know if i can be any help!

right. so, one of my co-workers has shoved me head over heels for him but has completely lost me in his actions. there are three of us that hang out outside of work, but it's always me who gets the phone calls from him, or if our other friend does get a call from him it's primarily to ask why i'm not picking up my phone or if she knows where i am. (as you can imagine, the phone is used a lot after he has had a few drinks). he'll remember and listen to everything i say (sober or with a few), he'll be able to read me like a book when something is wrong when no one else can notice, he always wants me to meet or hangout with his friends, and will call me, including on new years saying, "i wish you were here." but the most recent night that the three of us hung out really confused me. just to make this clear through the whole night we were drinking and finished 30 beers and a half bottle of jack. so we were all pretty messy. one point of the night my one friend was getting ready to go to bed in the bathroom, and he and I were in my bedroom sitting around. he asked me if i was okay earlier (because of something my one friend said to me), and i said yes, it was just embarrassing. then he said i had nothing to be embarrassed about and started kissing me. a few minutes pass with us getting more into it when my friend comes out of the bathroom yelling for a hand towel or something. so i go get one. and that was that. i fell asleep shortly after, and supposedly they began to make out in my living room. she has a boyfriend of 4 years. he's good-looking, but come on, she knew i liked him, and where did her boyfriend just go?. i am so confused. she always is saying how he talks about me all the time, but then why is he putting moves on two girls in one night!? can someone give me advice...should i tell him i've liked him for a while, or just move on with my life? does he even like me, or is he just an outspoken lustful lush?