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My ex told me the same. Ah, I'm not even going to dwell on him anymore. When we had first got together he had broke up with me on my birthday for flirting (Yes, we all know it's natural), with my best friend. The two years we were together he never let me forget that. Just yesterday I find out that seven days after he broke up with me on my birthday, (We had got back together), he had flirted with someone. I don't know if there were times before that or many times after. I know of at least one time a year later as well. I'm livid because he put me through hell and constantly punished me for flirting, only for me to find out in the end he had done the same.

It really depends on how you feel about it. Some people would never kiss on the first date while some find it about as normal as a hug. It really depends on how comfortable you are with doing it.

We did have plans for me to move there as that's what I wanted. He wanted to move here but I didn't want to take him away from his family as he is more of a family person than I am. I strongly believe relationships takes trust and for the most part I did trust him. There were times he was around girls and he was honest with me about them flirting with him or making a move. I didn't get jealous then. I only got jealous of the small/stupid stuff, which is strange to me.

To be honest he/she doesn't sound much like a best friend. My best friends are there for me no matter what and say what I need to hear, not what I want to. Sounds to me like your best friend is putting you down a bit and you even said they were throwing the hospital thing in your face. That's not something a best friend should do. THey shoul dbe there for you and try to help you through it. Stuff like this doesn't go away overnight and it sounds to me like your best friend just assumed it would. Which means he didn't take it very seriously.

While it is becoming more and more socially acceptable to meet people online and fall in love, there are still people who don't believe it can happen. Such as a reply in this thread. In my opinion when you meet someone in real it's more of a physical attraction that you have with that person and it grows into a mental attraction. Meeting someone online you get to talk to them and find out more about them cause a lot of people are more open online. Myself being one of them. Love is about a mental and emotional connection. Once you have that, the physical aspect is twice as nice. I'm starting to see more and more online 'relationships' lasting and working a lot better then ones in real. Why? In my opinion it's because you get to know each other and become each other's best friend. If you can deal with the distance and anything else that occurs with being in an online relationship then I believe you can deal with anything that is thrown at you once you are physically together. As for the second part, been there, done that. I would highly suggest you cut your loss and move on. That's shady behaviour and while I'm normally one for trust, that's just .. no.

I personally don't feel that you need to be committed. I feel as though you're taking it very badly and it doesn't seem like you really have anyone to talk to so you bottle up your emotions and when released, you release them in a destructive way. My ex said some harsh things to me when we broke up and later on told me he said it cause he thought it'd make the break up easier. Perhaps that's what you did when you said what you did to your ex. I would suggest finding someone you can confide in to talk to about things. It'll make you feel better.

Dear L, I think you need to get a move on and do what you need to do for your future. You can't rely on anyone else motivating you, it's something you need to do for yourself. I know you're a strong person but you're too emotional and let that reflect the things you do in everyday life. I'm proud of you for not giving in so easly with your ex. I know it took a lot for you to do that. Keep your chin up and remember you have your best friend to help you through anything. -Me

I met and fell in love with a man while he was on vacation with his family. We were together for two years and he was my first real love, but there was one problem. Distance. Somehow we made it last two years despite him living in England and me living in the United States. Due to the distance and what I believe is a lack of trust both of us were highly jealous and posessive. Yet we still loved each other more than either of us could believe. After two years we had enough and called it quits. Though I still wanted to get back together and I did try for about a month and a half. Finally when he told me the last time it was over for good, I gave up and tried to move on. I met a guy who lived closer to me. He fell in love with me. Wants to be with me, wants to have a future with me. All of the things I've always wanted, he wants with me. My ex and I were continuing to fight about the breakup. He implied he was with a girl or there was something between him (a girl I had issues with shortly before the break up cause he always talked about her), so that's when I decided to give my recent boyfriend a chance. Only later did he tell me there was supposedly nothing between them. While the girl has feelings for him, I'm the only one HE wants. (His cousin and friends told me the same) I came clean with my ex and said I got with someone else, then he told me that he had wanted to get back together with me and got all upset. I spoke with my current boyfriend about it and while he was a bit upset he was trying to be the best friend of mine that he became and give me friend advice. He told me to try to work things out with my ex, so I started the communication process. My ex said he wants to work things out but he is jealous and mad about the fact that I got with another guy. He said when we fight, he'd use it against me and he doesn't want to. I have not thrown the fact that I'm with another guy in his face but he's constantly throwing other girls in my face since the breakup. Everyone thinks my ex is just playing games and to an extent I agree. Why say you're in love with someone, you want to be with them, and you're willing to try to make it work, ut yet at the first sign of an obsticle you refuse to fight for it?

I can semi see where you're coming from. I'm a similer situation. I recently broke up with my ex of two years. Three months later I got with someone else. I know he loves me, wants to be with me, and have a future today. I love him but I'm not entirely sure if I'm in love with him. I love the idea of being together and having a family but that's just who I am. I still find myself thinking about my ex a lot. I'm not over him and everyone knows that, it's very obvious. I'm trying to move on, but it's hard. I guess sometimes you just need to realise that it may hurt and you aren't over them completely, you just may have a future with the other woman and you don't want to pass up an opportunity like that only to have a bunch of what if's later on down the road. Hmm, that's true.