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  1. leroy46
    She has good reasons for a break(up), however, these may be excuses. was she this busy in the beginning of the relationship? sounds to me like she's truly busy, but i think if she really wanted to be with you she would. maybe she's really the type of person who needs to focus on things at hand and having a boyfriend just isn't the priority right now. sounds like she's teasing along and making it hard for you to understand what's going on. is she the type of person to tell the truth? if she's teasing you along that's anly going to hurt you more. all you need is for you to make you think you two will get back together when there's really no chance. tell her she needs to be honest. i'm sure you care for this person and you're looking for any little sign that she wants to get back together. be patient, allow yourself to be open to other people, and as the last person said, minimal contact. if you contact everyday, try every other day instead. if you contact her first, wait for her to contact you.
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    To be honest, this is normal reaction. first he tells you he doesn't love you anymore, then these girls are calling, which means he obviously had some contact with them. anyone in your position would react this way. why would do you not wasnt to act this way? its better to be upset about it than to just say it's ok and he can talk to whoever he wants. he hurt you once and who's to say he won't do it again? that's always going to be in the bak of your head. eventually it may go away depending on how your relationship goes. it sounds like you have some things to iron out before you move out together. did you ask him why he had contact with his ex and the other girls? honestly he doesnt sound too bright if he was using your cell phone for those calls. i understand it sucks feeling this way, but it's normal. i hope you two can figure some things out and better your relationship. also, there's some trust issues going on here. trust is something that's hard to earn back. based on your other entry i can see why you would feel this way....based on other male figures that have let you down. anyway, i hope this helps in some way.
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    will you and your boyfriend be able to support yourselves? it's probably tough because you want more mom to be happy for you and it sounds like hse's just making you feel guilty/bad about wanting to move out. if you're mature enough to move out on your own at 16 then i applaud you. you sound pretty healthy based on your short entry, but it does sound like your mom has a couple issues of her own that she needs to work on. my initial reation is that she's been hurt before, probably a few times. i know you hate to see her hurt, but you have to look at it from her point of view and be sypathetic. there's obviously a reason she goes back. it's a lot easier to be on the outside and critique her relationship than it is to be in it. sometimes we're blinded in our own relationships. continue being supportive of you mom...maybe not of her relationship, but just letting her know you're there for her and you always will be. i'm sure you've told her moving out does not have anything to do with her, rather you feel it's time to move out on your own.
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    How did he answer the questions about sleeping with other people? it's good that you answered it honestly. maybe he was feeling you out. seeing how attached you might be. i know guys may seem confusing to you most of the time, but we're not too hard to understand as long as there's good communication. if a girl asked me how i would feel if she slept with someone else it would make me think hard. what are their motives, why would they want to know, are they thinking of cheating?? funny how little questions can explode into so many different thoughts. what's been your longest relationship?
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    so have you two made a final decision yet? i noticed you posted a week ago. what do you really want to happen?
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    what is it baout him that really attracted you? i mean beyond looks. hopefully the of classes will helo and you will be better after the break. have you been through other break ups where you felt like this afterwards? is it normal for you to become attached this quickly? you may have been a convenience to him, but as soon as you mentioned committment he began really thinking things through. too many girls get head over heals too fast and then get hurt. and guys dont know how to be honest from the start and let the girl know how they feel. anyway, hope i'm making some sense.
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    do you always wait for her to write you on msn first? sometimes we have to make the initiative, even if it means most of the time we're the ones making ocntact first. if you're her first b/f it will be hard for her to communicate. this will be a big learning experience for her. if you have it in you, be patient with her, calmy tell her your concerns, and be sure to let her know how much she means to you. she may just be inexperienced in the dating department and it might be hard for her to open up and communicate to you. you have to take a hard look at the relationship and see if it's right for you...if you're willing to be patient with her through these growth areas.
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    Have you tried to put all your dependence into the lord? it sounds like you're a believer, so i'm sure you've heard this before. maybe what you need to do is focus on God right now. really invest yourself into him. allow your heart to be healed by god. also, it doesn't hurt to pray about it. ask God to give you wisdom when it comes to relationships, specifically wisdomw hen it comes to decisions about guys. who to date, if you should date, is the time right. we all want to feel love. most of our lives are built off relationships. but my advice to you is to be patient, look to the lord, and your answers will come......and so will a healed heart.
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    Have you made it a point that you are willing to work right along with him? sometimes people are more motivated if they see someone else making the same type of effort. he may be more encouraged if you're willing to work with him. also, try not to make this a huge focus. it may make you look pushy which could lead to resentment. be patient, show you care, and let him know your concerns.
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