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Well at first glance your advice sounded great. A little vengeful......which was the kind of mood I was in at the time. But after careful consideration decided it would not be the best route to take..... But yes....Arielle's answer was very good. Hahaha fancy going to ask if she could help with his boxes LOL.........

Hmmmm best bring up with the doc.............

Well....he dumped me........whaaaaaaah!!!

Good to hear. You may have been feeling 'off' because they were late. That happens to me sometimes.

Well that depends on what you want more. A relationship with someone you are obviously keen on.....or just fun. Time to ask yourself some questions. Does the girl you like have the same level of interest in you? Another thing you may want to think about is this - one of the 'friends' your fooling around with you said is probably hoping for more. If you are not interested in being more with her then I suggest you nip it in the bud. Don't string her along because the longer you do the more will hurt her.

Not saying you should do any of the following. But as a single mother these sneaky little tricks helped me out when feeling like I could TAKE IT NO MORE!!! 1. Play hide n' seek. (this was my fave game when my kids were little) But make sure they are the ones that hide, this will give you time to sit down and have a HOT cuppa. Just make sure you call out every now and then "I'm coming", "Gee you guys are sooooo hard to find". My son thought he was the greatest hider in the world. Even though when I went looking for him he was in the most obvious places and not even 'hidden'. See I helped grow his self esteem while staying sane!!!! Win Win 2. Change all the clocks in the house an hour fast. My kids bed time was 6 and I was so over them by that time I just wanted them in bed. (worst mistake was teaching how to tell time) But anywho, once I changed the clocks the kids were in bed at 5. They went to bed at 5 for years. Oh and I have the best trick to combat lying children, if you're having issues there

I also disagree with #4. My ex was no wimp (well maybe at the end he was) and he was totally romantic. So it is possible to be both.

Thanks for all the advice guys. It helps to get other perspectives. I don't want to do anything rash...so I'm going to go over all of your responses again and come up with a plan. Although as of today I will be documenting all unacceptable behaviour and take it from there.

No her current husband isn't abusive....her 1st one was though. I know quite a few women my mum's age too. And have even been out to dinner with them, but I would love to know more women my own age. I really envy women who have close female friends. I'm really glad you started this thread because like yourself and Bondgirl I honestly thought there was something wrong with me and I was the only one.

No idea. Only advice I could offer you would be to see a doctor.......

Goodluck at the doctors. Keep us posted.

Well I didn't have a problem with girls at school.......I went to an all girls school. The problem's came during my abusive relationship, they all let me down really badly, telling me it was all my fault and what did I expect blah blah blah I've never got along with school mothers (like at my kids schools) because all they do is talk about how freakin' wonderful their kids are. And seriously I'm the kind of mother who actually SEES her childrens faults....they are NOT perfect and NO child is......and I'm the first one to admit that. But the rose coloured glasses syndrom really annoys me. The only female friend I have is very like me.......screwed up.......her husband is best friends with my ex. I like her because we have the same problems and really understand each other. The problem is that I only broke up with my ex like a month ago..... So who knows where that friendship will end.......probably in the toilet.

I do know that I've been let down a lot by female friends in the past. And I hate all the * * * * *iness that goes with it. I did have a couple of really good guy friends a few years back but when they got girlfriends those friendships fizzled because of jealousy. But it still doesn't explain how I can be closer to guys than girls.

Oh good....because I was a little worried you meant actual pain!! Maybe you should see a doc. How long has this been going on for?

Teacup I'm wondering if this has a lot to do with being abused? I was in an extremely abusive relationship for 5 yrs and have the same problems you do. I hadn't really thought about this until recently when it was brought up to me by a counsellor. What he said was that subconsciously I just don't trust people. Now I'm not sure whether this is true.........yes I shut myself off from everyone for years.......but 10 yrs later I'm pretty sure I'm fine. I've been in relationships since. Granted only 1 of those was anywhere near good. But I do know that I can get cold on people without meaning to. I've been called various things......the most popular being 'ice maiden'. So maybe that counsellor has a point. Maybe it's something we still carry around without even knowing it. But what I"m at a loss to explain is why it's mainly women......I don't have trouble finding guy friends......but I do have trouble getting close to girl ones. It's very confusing. Because I would have thought I'd have more trouble trusting men!!! Seeing as I was abused by one.

What do you mean by 'pain' Jennster? Do you mean feeling nauseous or serious pain

Ummm I had 'morning' sickness 24 hours a day for the full 9 months, during both my pregnancies. I have vomited on every street corner, every set of traffic lights (real funny when you've stopped your car at the lights, open your door and puke). Horrible, horrible, horrible

melrich you have a some very good points. I think for now though I'll just see how it goes, he's only been here a few weeks and may be on a slight power trip. Who knows........

Personally I don't like them at all. But then that could have something to do with my age.......

Ok now see this is the part that does worry me. Normally I would have no hesitation in going to the other directors. I don't want to lose this job. But I am worried about him being a relative to one of them. Maybe I should go to the other one first. The one that's not related??! I really just want to make sure I think this through properly before I go to anyone with my concerns.

You have some good suggestions there. I really don't want to leave this job...especially under these circumstances....I am qualified to find another position, but most are long hours and totally inflexible. Being a single mother I really need the flexibility this job offers me. I usually don't have trouble with people. But this guy has just really thrown me.

Thanks for that Q10 lol And I still feel like crap about it.......

It normally takes a lot to intimidate me. I've worked my way up from the very bottom in my industry with no formal training....I've been lucky that there have been a lot of people along the way to teach me. But the industry I'm in is full of men......all with mighty big ego's.......but this guys would have to be the biggest. Maybe he has a chip on his shoulder about women in upper management?!