KweenofDenyl

I know what you mean about not feeling needed and trusted from all this. It really can be just as difficult as a bad job, but in a different way. Can you talk to your board of directors? I know sometimes that makes more trouble than it's worth though. If non-profit work is what you want, do a little networking in your area. Most non-profits are in dire need of people like you! I think it's pretty clear by now that your boss isn't going to give you what you need.

I advise against it.

Sounds like a shallow defense mechanism to me. Let us know how it works out for ya.

Okay, maybe it is too stalkerish, thinking about it from the other POV...but in any case, I think if you do ask her out it shouldn't be from your car. Drive-thru dating and all that.

Hi AngieC, I don't know what is available in the UK (although Beyondthesea has a good list!) but I am a SASA (sexual assault survivor advocate) and am here for you. It's crummy as he11 what your mom said to you and not what you need to hear. If you have questions or just need to vent or whatever, I want you to know that I'm here. Just PM me. -kween

Or just get her number from your friend. Call her up and ask her out. If she accepts, great. If she doesn't, her loss and you can quit wondering.

No pun intended, right?

Don't ask her out while she's working. Find out when her shift ends and be hanging around when it does. (not in a creepy way). Call the store and say you've been thinking about applying for a job but would like to know what kinds of shifts people work or something along those lines. Create a situation where you run into her when she's not in a position to be handing you coffee.

For what it's worth, here's my two (female) cents: I think she really likes you. She wouldn't be hedging so much and testing the waters if how YOU feel about HER wasn't important to her. I also think she's very confused about what she wants. You are, among other things, her safety net. As for the summer and what should you do about all this, I say go for it. Look at it this way, if you don't, both of you will spend the summer wondering, being edgy, looking for that "definitive" clue that you won't be rejected. Is that really any better than hearing definitively that she only wants you as a friend? (and I don't think she does) And here's what I think she wants YOU to do: Show some confidence. Go crazy and look deep into her eyes and tell her (rehearse it if you have to) that you're wild about her--her beautiful eyes, her gorgeous smile. Tell her how your stomach does somersaults when she comes into the room. Tell her that you don't give a damn about anything else but making the most of these few months you have together. You want to confront this. Your posts are pretty clear. I think you have the signals from her. What are you waiting for?

Yes, you should. Who is paying for the cost of your pregnancy? Who will be footing the bill when you deliver a premature baby that spends 6 weeks in NICU? What about the costs after that? Unless you are independently wealthy at 16, I'm betting it's Medicaid, which is funded through tax dollars.

Because smokers cost the United States $167 billion dollars a year.

"dating casually"..."didn't go very well"..."We haven't talked since it happened"..."just tired"...=used. Better to find out now that he isn't worth your time.

Or... While you're visiting out of town friends, throw a dinner party, get drunk and have a threeway in the road. After giving up sex for a week. Uh, Dako? She's only 18.

It was a joke...I thought you of all people would get it.