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Sellers remorse. You really oughta just leave her be. If she decides she wants back in, that's one thing but chasing after her, after dumping her for what you now believe to be a big mistake is just cruel. Especially since she's mostly resistant to your efforts.

Agree with the above post even though I initially suggested calling. After thinking on it, just drop her a text. More than enough.

Then again, despite my post above, I recall about 15 years ago I was single and dating and there was this one girl I just wasn't sure about. We went out several times over maybe a month or so, but I was also dating other women at the same time. Periods of time would go by when I wouldn't call her as I was "sampling" other women, but every time I contacted her for a date she was all in. Finally I decided to go with another girl and simply stopped contacting her.

You can do whatever you want, there's no laws pertaining to this sort of thing, it's a moral responsibility issue. That much being said, text breakups are lame and cowardly. Not that you're actually "together" in a relationship but it's not all that different. The "right" thing to do is call her up and tell her you're too stressed out and you don't feel like dating anymore.

How the heck do you find someone's email address on porn sites? It's not like they post a list or anything.

That "just a piece of paper" will deter many from stalking their targets and just might save a life by preventing a situation in the first place that may escalate. Sure some will ignore restraining orders,those are the most dangerous types of people but at least when the police respond the call will be given priority and the authorities will know they've got a more serious situation before they arrive. It's weird how you accuse the other poster of giving advise that could "lead down a dark end" when all he's doing is expressing support for restraining orders. By chance, have you ever been subject to a restraining order? I'm working a theory here.

You never should have moved out. Move back in immediately.

What exactly did you "cut-off"? He referred to you as a friend and from what I read in your post, that's about right. So what there was some physical stuff going on during one outing. It's almost like you expect him to treat you and refer to you as if you were his exclusive girlfriend. It wasn't anything remotely close to that.

The two of you acted way too impulsively. As much as you think you knew each other, you didn't. He moved on because he was never really committed to you in the first place. He also was fresh out of another relationship, you were probably just a rebound to him. When your head clears, think about your decision to move in with a guy after knowing him only a month.

I sure hope they don't have a pet rabbit.

Well, it's unlikely he's going to change so if you cannot divorce him right now due to finances you're going to have to wait it out. Play the long game, start putting money aside and look into where you can possibly go. Maybe even do a house share with roommates or something like that. Meanwhile don't react to his outbursts, that's his issue, don't make it yours.

It's not about flaunting the blanket to others, it's about you basically saying "look at this really hot girlfriend you got, and here's a constant reminder in case you momentarily forgot. The poster that mentioned it just might be on to something. What was the last "edgy" gift you gave him and how did he react?

If the parents are married and there is no custody order in place then either parent is free to take the children wherever they want. Now if one of the two parents take the child out of state for an extended time and refuses to disclose the location of the children to the other parent, they are approaching a gray area of the law in "some" states. https://talkingparents.com/parenting-resources/parental-kidnapping

Ok, the Op is devastated by her words and actions, that's probably true. People say things when they're angry and frustrated. My ex used to tell me she wanted a divorce after every argument which we had on a regular basis towards the end of the marriage. Sometimes she'd storm out of the house. Sometimes she'd take the kids with her. I probably didn't deserve that either. Neither did they. The kids get a lot more than they deserve when the parents divorce and conflict is high. Oftentimes they're scarred for life. That isn't fair either. Unfortunately there are no laws pertaining to morality and doing the right and fair thing when it comes to saying "I want a divorce!".

^This. I said as much to the Op during a PM exchange. So many posts on here and other forums are to the extent of "Who is right and who is wrong". Doesn't matter how many votes you get in your favor, unless perhaps it's unanimous because it's so obvious that the other person is way out of line. but then again it's all based on what the Op wrote which is almost always in their own biased perspective. If you want to fix what's broken you don't do it by trying to prove they're wrong and you're right. People don't operate that way.

You don't need to keep explaining yourself. You didn't do anything wrong. The issue here is with the intended recipient. Blaming yourself and apologizing for giving him a gift that you now say is similar to other gifts you've given him isn't what you need to be doing.

I could see him saying "hmm this isn't really my thing and no way I'm taking it with me when traveling, sorry" but his immediate reaction followed by the not talking to one another all day is just plain weird. If he comes around and apologizes for the over the top outburst then ok, but if not, you've got a serious problem here.

Not only is my memory shot, so is my ability to add. 🤥

Maybe so. I haven't been a teenage boy in over 40 decades and never raised a son, so I'm not a great position to know how much of his indifference is due to his age. But when she asks if he cares and he basically says he isn't interested in hearing about her problems, well to me that sounds like someone that she doesn't need to be spending a whole lot of time with. But I could be wrong on this. Maybe many or most teenage boys don't care about the feelings of their girlfriends. I don't recall being that insensitive in my early relationships.

That's not being an empath, that's being apathetic. An empathy actually cares about the feelings of others, especially their partner. I disagree with most of the comments on this thread. Your partner can and oftentimes is, your best friend. If you feel you can't share your problems with them, and it's to the point where you will no longer even mention things that bother you because they can't be bothered, then what's the point of even having them in your life.

He didn't say she permanently moved away with the kids, he said she took them to see family in another state for Christmas. Seeing an attorney about parental kidnapping is way overboard. He's got enough on his plate right now no need to complicate the matter. To the Op- deep breaths man. Be kind to yourself, no major decisions, give things a bit of time to settle. Perhaps she's just angry right now, maybe there's still time to turn things around with counseling and some self accountability and behavior changes. Assuming of course there isn't someone else in the picture, unfortunately oftentimes there is and that's what's driving the other person's actions.

This has got to be one of the most twisted rationalizations and attempted validations of bad behavior attributed to drinking that I have ever read on this forum. You drank too much, you were pushy, you ignored her requests to stop making out, and here you are still trying to get back with her even though she is CLEARLY not interested - all because you were thinking of your own needs, and you're doing that even now. She wants nothing to do with you and for good reason. Just leave her alone already.

I just went back and read your thread from September. It's rare that I see virtually every single poster responding with the same general advice which was to get away from this guy as fast as possible. He did you a huge favor by leaving since you didn't have the internal strength to do it yourself, even though you acknowledged that the two of you were not compatible and he has no direction and no money and made it clear he has no interest in ever marrying you. I suggest you go back and read that thread and remind yourself of all the things that weren't working, especially the part about how even though he has no money and is supported by his dad, he went and got a tattoo that he can't even afford to pay for. The good news is that it was a relatively short two years. You'll get over him and one day you'll look back and realized you dodged a bullet.

Accept the inevitable. The sooner, the better. It's over. Now you gotta figure out a way to chill out.

It almost seems like your boyfriend is getting off on messing with your head.