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Oh, when you put it that way, you're absolutely correct, thank you for giving me the opportunity to change my point of view. I would insist your girlfriend pays for all the Ubers you may require, and/or drive you anywhere you need to go until you're able to find a resolution to your current predicament. Shame on her for not being there for you in your time of need. If you can't count on her then why even be in a relationship?

He's more than willing to get an Uber. He thinks she should pay for it.

Nah, you're the one missing the point. You messed up and you expect your girlfriend to fix it for you, even to the point of paying for your mistake. What's probably worse is you won't even consider that the replies on this thread which are contrary to what you expected to hear, make a whole lot of sense. If you would, there would be room for growth and improvement in your life. Sadly that is clearly not the case here. Bro.

You shoulda learned how to fix the breaks.

That's completely off the charts unreasonable. You screw up and expect HER to pay for it?

You messed up x 4. 1- Left your keys on the train. Who does this? You take them out of your pocket for reasons I can't even comprehend, you put them BACK in your pocket. 2- Cars come with 2 sets of keys for a reason. You lost your spare set? Replace them. 3- You failed to own your mistakes and figure she'll just struggle through a long day after having to get up at the wee hours of the morning 4- You think she's being unreasonable. And you compare her bailing you out from your numerous mistakes to you being asked to perform a house chore as if they're anywhere near the same thing. Damn. What's the big deal about an Uber anyway? Probably cost you about $10 and she gets a good nights sleep rather than suffering for your numerous mistakes that led to this problem.

Seems fair.

Agreed. Although I think it's unnecessary to be sending such pictures, if it's his thing, then why not. If he's not in a relationship then who cares, even on the extremely off chance this is a blackmail attempt. And It's not like he'd lose his job over it. Especially if it's not a full body pic- no way to um.. make the connection there.

She's totally playing you man. It's like giving a customer a free drink at a bar or free tokens or even a complimentary room at a casino. It's all about keeping you on the hook so you'll spend more money. Maybe it's not a "scam" per say but you're definitely not going to get free sex out of this deal. You would see it if you weren't in the midst of it, had you read this on someone else's post you'd be thinking "how can he fall for that?". Now, that much being said, sure there's always a chance that me and the other naysayers on here are wrong and this sex worker sees something in you that she hasn't seen in a zillion other guys just from chatting on the phone and exchanging some genitalia pictures. But it's rather unlikely. You're going to go meet her if you've got the chance, no matter what anyone here tells you, and I don't blame you. Don't go into the meetup with anything in your pocket you can't afford to lose, and expect to come out of it with an STD if you aren't careful.

Taking a page out of George Carlin's playbook. Somewhere in the world is the worst neighbor and the subject of @TeeBell's post has her.

Statistically 60% of ex's reach out or come back? Regardless of which one it is, safe to say that for all practical purposes, when it's over, it's over. The rest is just nonproductive regurgitation of the same old thing. So if you started this thread thinking you'd be one of the lucky ones- know that there aren't too many of those- if you base your "luck" on repeating the same cycle over and over again with a person with whom you're simply not compatible.

What is it about the word "No" don't you get?

Careful, bad grammar can be contagious.

Geez. The mess some people make with their lives.

Did you ever actually have COVID? If so did you get really sick and almost die? I'm gonna guess that the answer is no to being really ill to the point of dying. The fear of COVID is for the most part irrational and way overblown. I think it should be dealt with like any other anxiety producing thing- deal with it don't avoid it. The whole mask thing didn't do much more than postpone the inevitable. People are going to catch it anyway and by wearing masks we're artificially defeating our own immune systems by blocking the stuff it needs to stay active and protect us. Unless you're severely immunocompromised, lose the mask and face COVID straight on.

A few possibilities come to mind - she found another guy she liked better, because of his personality, or his looks, or both - you were too clingy/needy. Confidence attracts, neediness and insecurity repel. You sort of sound like you're insecure. - you do this passive/aggressive thing where you get mad and rather than talk it over with her you ignore her. That's a really immature, and non productive way to deal with conflict in a relationship. - annoying habits including but not limited to smoking, drug or alcohol use, gambling and sex addiction. -untreated mental disorders such as anxiety, depression -unresolved anger management issues -hung up on an ex That's off the top of my head but you definitely made a bad situation worse by getting mad at her and ignoring her. Then again she may have already been gone by then.

I'm not gonna say it. 🤐

Install 3/4" exterior grade paneling on your walls. Then put sheetrock on top of it.

If it was me.. I'd contact her and tell her that I understand she needs her space, and I'm here for her when and if she needs me (but I won't be here forever especially if I don't hear anything). Meanwhile I need some/most/all of my stuff back because I cannot function with 2 sets of work clothes and I'll be by to pick it up unless she's willing to drop it off. And if I still got no response I'd go over there and get it.

Once a cheater... You'll always live with uncertainty. Unless you choose not to live with uncertainty.

Either you don't save very much, or plane tickets have gotten really expensive.

It's not up to you if this can be fixed. My suggestion is just leave him alone and work on yourself. Perhaps with the passage of time he'll come around and find you to be in a better place and things can go from there. But this won't happen overnight.

Don't let this one go, she'll be snapped up by the next person who recognizes her value.

Sorry but you handled this horribly. You had no business snooping through her phone and then confronting her. And you did these repeatedly over months and years, while nothing really changes. She was dishonest and possibly even cheating on you, and you were weak and sappy allowing it to persist while getting angry and accomplishing nothing. The right way to handle it was to dump her when it first happened and not looked back. Now she turned the tables on you. No wonder you feel like crap. You let her completely take advantage of you and give her the final say by dumping you. Hopefully it's over and she won't contact you because if she does you'll probably jump right in for even more abuse.

Maybe it's time to take some accountability as to why you were asked to sign a document that says you better shape up or ship out. Even if you land a new job, these sorts of problems tend to follow you around.