angelpie

Can we just agree to disagree? You seem to have had an experience with a scammer that has colored your opinions, and I don't want to debate this point. I find your comment very aggressive and negative.

I've thought about that. He takes one medicine for restless legs that can also cause inappropriate behavior, such as compulsive gambling and mood swings. There is definitely something not right about him. It's sad, because many years ago, he was such a good guy. I always regretted breaking up with him. Now I see my life might not have been an idyllic as I imagined it to be. People change.

It was him. We have mutual friends and they asked him in person if he had been chatting with me on FB and he admitted it. He had details of the time we dated in HS that only he and I would know, and he gave them to me unprompted. I'm had already run a background check on him.

Yes, I felt that way too after our chats got more personal. I tried to break it off with him several times because I told him it was a bad situation, and all our chats were doing was taking what time he had left with his wife away from her. It somehow felt worse because she was not herself. It only lasted a few months, and I'm glad it's over. I would be FURIOUS if I found out that some woman was having the kind of chats we were having (personal, but not sexual). I feel really bad about it.

If it hadn't been for the fact that I'd known and dated him in HS, I would never have contacted him, because I could see from his posts that we disagree on a lot of important points. I have friends here, but this is a college town, so not a lot of eligible men my age that are people I would like to be involved with. I had really planned on just living alone the rest of my life. I'm not lonely at all, in fact, I'm sort of a loner. I don't know why he affected me like he did.

The man I was chatting with for a few months started the sex talk by telling me he had made a visit to a "massage parlor" in another town, spent $400 there. He wanted to tell me a blow-by-blow, but I politely stopped him and said I didn't want to hear it. He got angry. This man is over 65, has a wife with Alzheimer's who is still well enough to be on Facebook and to play games on iPad and do crossword puzzles, so not wholly incapacitated yet. Even if that weren't so, they've been married for 35 years. When he said that he had realized that chatting with me was cheating on his wife, I asked him if it was, why was being with prostitutes not cheating on his wife? (We were NOT sexting, just to make that clear) He said "Because I don't want to be with them forever. They're just temporary." He also said that they were not "w***res" because he did not actually have intercourse with them. So my question is, how many of you feel like using prostitutes is not cheating on your partner? How many feel that sexting is not cheating? To me, that would mean that to some men, a quick hookup is not cheating either. I'm in my 60s, so I came from a time when morals about sex were much, much different.

I think everyone here has covered this well, but I just want to add you're lucky you didn't get tazered or worse.

Also found his email address and some similar addresses on porn sites. He's definitely sex-obsessed, probably an addict. Yeah, I'm running as fast as I can.

How would I stop him from coming here? I've since told him that I didn't want him to come here, but Lord only knows if that would stop him. I can't believe a man his age acts like this. He's so immature. Thank you!

He is pretty controlling. My first red flag was when he told me that he made his wife quit her job when they were married because he wanted her at home. She had a good, well-paying job in management, but she quit because of him. Ever since she was diagnosed, he's sold all their property. He says it's because she could become incompetent and he put half the money in an account in her name, but friends say the only reason she got half the money was because her daughter and SIL forced him to do all that and move in with them, because they didn't trust him to care for her properly. I did some sleuthing and found some judgments against him for credit card and bank debt. I know I'm dodging a bullet, and it's just old decades old teenage feelings I'm feeling, but it's still hard. Thanks for your encouragement.

I'm so sorry about your mother. Take it from someone in her 60s who has "been there, done that." This guy is not who he says he is, and he has no intention of ever meeting you. He probably has several girls on the line. I hope you've never sent him any money. I know how hard it is to let go, trust me, I'm going through this myself, but please try to move on with your life. Block him and leave him blocked. He's not good for you. ❤️

I found an old HS BF on Facebook while looking for someone else. We're not young. I'm in my late 60s and he's a bit older. We started chatting, catching up, and he told me his wife has early Alzheimer's. We chatted for about 3 months, but he kept trying to take the conversation to sex, and I told him I wasn't interested in talking about that, because I'm not one to commit adultery. I'm not very religious, I just don't believe in it morally. We went through some ups and downs, because we started having feelings for each other, but he couldn't stop wanting sex, so we broke it off. We live about 8 hours drive apart, and he wanted to fly me up there and put me in a hotel just so we could have sex. Mind you, he works for himself, but I would have been stuck at a hotel all day waiting to spend a couple of hours with him, and being alone all night while he went home to his family. He saw nothing wrong with this. I was appalled! Of course, I said no. We finally decided to stop communicating at all. I tried to send him an e-card for Christmas, and he was absolutely hateful about it. He blames all of this on me, when it was his obsession with sex that really did it in. I only ever wanted to be friends. Things got a lot more complicated during one part, and friends got involved. He blames all that on me too. After our last conversation, I blocked him everywhere on social media and my phone and emails. It ended for good just a couple of days before Christmas, and I'm having a hard time not contacting him. He has no way to contact me unless he uses a burner phone or something to text me. I blocked his phone # and he used his wife's phone at one time, so I blocked that too. He called me last night from a "Private" caller ID, but I have an app that traces them, so I know it was him. He didn't say anything, but I said that he was the one who made the no contact rule, so please just leave me alone. He called three times in 5 minutes, then didn't call again. I know I should forget him. He's obviously not the sweet, shy boy I knew in HS, far from it. In fact, he has a bad temper and is very controlling. I fear he's a little narcissistic the way he keeps blaming everything on me even when some events were clearly his fault. So I just need encouragement that I'm right, that I should just let him go. He told me once that if "anything changed" with his wife (meaning she died), he'd be on my doorstep. Sadly, I can't keep him from doing that, so I'm just praying she stays healthy for quite a while, or he forgets that statement.