Jump to content

moodindigo91

Platinum Member
  • Posts

    1,248
  • Joined

  • Days Won

    1

moodindigo91 last won the day on November 30 2022

moodindigo91 had the most liked content!

Recent Profile Visitors

941 profile views

moodindigo91's Achievements

  1. It doesn't even sound like a fun limbo tbh, it sounds draining for you mentally and financially. You seem unhappy. I wouldn't entertain marriage with her because she'll just go from mooching off her poor mother to mooching off you. If you divorce, she will be going after everything you've got. Seems like you should probably break it off and continue on your journey of self-discovery. Once you come fully into yourself (which I believe this relationship is preventing you from doing in part), you will attract a partner whose more on your level.
  2. You are most likely fine. If you had something to worry about, they would tell you and start treatment right away. I've had abnormal cells with no explanation for them (except that they are harmless) show up in my paps for years now but I've never experienced any issues. As a result, though, I am to get pap smears every year instead of the recommended every 3-5 years for women my age in my country. I wouldn't worry 🙂 but yeah you can always follow up with your doctor and see if there's anything you need to do to address the inflammation
  3. No, there is nothing you can do. You need to accept that she doesn't feel the same way about you. She probably knows herself and her feelings better than you. If she says she doesn't feel the same, then you need to accept that and move on. There is no point in continuing to talk to one another and drawing this breakup out. Go back to no contact and start the process of accepting this and moving on.
  4. I agree. At minimum, you should breakup with your boyfriend. You're not feeling him, something is missing, and you're spending all your time daydreaming about your work hubby. Given that, I wouldn't jump right into a relationship with the work guy, but I would try and go about going on a formal date of some sort and see if that's something you're both interested in taking any further. Only then will you need to discuss what to do about telling your work, etc.
  5. Yes, exactly. I don't orgasm every time but I almost always enjoy having sex with the people I am choosing to have sex with. When I didn't, it was mostly due to emotional issues between us. Yeah maybe your intuition is wrong here. If she's telling you she's enjoying it, I don't see a reason to doubt her. I, for one, wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone who I didn't enjoy having sex with, and I wouldn't tell them I enjoyed sex if I didn't. Have you ever felt this way about previous partners?
  6. Honestly, I think calling faking an orgasm to avoid alleviate the pressure you're seemingly applying on yourself and her to have some porn-style sex every time you do have sex as a "form of lying" is kind of dramatic. Sure, it might be a form of lying. But so is allowing your kids to believe in Santa or the tooth fairy. And anyway, you don't even know if she is faking it or why, and you're basically calling her a liar now. I bet every woman you've ever slept with more than once has faked an orgasm with you at least once. This is just an overly negative view and I think it will restrict your ability to be happy in a relationship going forward. Also, you keep harping on "communication" and yet you seem to have failed to communicate any of your assumptions or suspicions about her faking it to her. It honestly seems like you are sexually incompatible. Like she doesn't feel the same way about sex that you do. But if you stayed together, I agree that the best way to go about addressing the issue is to actually ask her if there's anything she'd like to try, ask her what she likes that you do or that you don't do but should do, etc. Try implementing her sexual preferences (instead of calling her a liar) and see what happens. If her after-sex reactions don't improve to your liking, it's probably time to move on to someone more sexually compatible. I wouldn't even bother asking if she orgasmed tbh. Maybe ask something more indirect like, how often do you orgasm? What can I do to make you orgasm?
  7. Yeah I think going on a couple of dates with men from dating apps and also having my ex burst into my life trying to win me back has similarly made me realize I simply don't want to be in a relationship right now. Promising that much of my time to people sounds really unappealing to me right now. Maybe someone will come along that will change my mind but until then, I'm happy to be alone lol
  8. Honestly, if she's "faking" it -- why do you care lol This hits it on the head for me. I would say most women typically don't cum after every sexual encounter. I definitely don't. But when I do, I have a very similar experience to the one you describe your GF having. When I don't I typically play it up a bit, because I know that the man is trying to and expecting me to orgasm. My ex used to literally ask me if I had an orgasm after almost every session. This gets annoying. Men should really stop measuring how successful they are at sex by how often they make women orgasm. Because honestly, although I don't orgasm every time I have sex, that doesn't mean I didn't thoroughly enjoy it. Your GF probably thoroughly enjoys sex with you, and plays it up a lil if she didn't orgasm for your ego's sake. That's a nice GF if you ask me. Edit to add: The pressure you're putting on both you and your GF for her to orgasm every time you have sex takes away from the experience of the sex itself. Why not just enjoy it? Her rolling over to be on her phone though, I can't say that's something I ever do. That seems to be the main issue.
  9. Haha I think it's entirely realistic. I work in civil litigation, and I have to defend bullsh*t cases without merit all the time. Perhaps since I work in the legal field I am a little more wary than you may be but I don't think it is outside the realm of possibility. Anyway, all of this is kind of a non-starter anyway if you're not planning to participate in the stunts. I would also tend to believe/hope that the planning of this stunt would probably fall by the wayside over the coming months. On the flip side, maybe you can sue your ex haha Or, perhaps you can gather with your people who are making the plans and attempt to convince them to address the issue in another way, such as, by confronting your ex as a group intervention style or maybe there's a body/agency/entity you can report him to, something more kosher like that. I just highly doubt that annoying your ex even more is going to make the problems better.
  10. Your points are well taken about your business. I figured it was something extremely important to you, but was simply trying to suggest some alternatives. There's nothing toxic about your line of work or what you do, it's the work environment that's toxic. Your ex being who he is, and all the other people plotting some elaborate scheme to get back at him. It sounds more akin to a sitcom than real life. It just doesn't seem worth the stress and possible trouble unless what you're doing as a vendor is something that's extremely important to you and that cannot be easily translated into something just as rewarding if not more so. But, since it seems like it's something very important to you, I defer to my advice that you should not participate in planning any stunt to get back at your ex in any way. You should make it clear that you do not want to plan/participate to everyone involved. Maybe even suggest that they abandon the idea. If you truly believe karma will get him, let karma do its job. What you think is legal and illegal is not really relevant. A civil lawsuit does not necessarily require breaking any laws and deliberately intentionally causing someone "psychological torment" may be grounds for a lawsuit (where I reside the legal action is called intentional infliction of emotional distress). If you plan to cause someone emotional distress with others deliberately over a period of time, it's called a conspiracy. You can be sued for that, too, if participate in the planning, and even if you drop out of the process before the actual act is committed or don't participate in the actual stunt itself. That's why I would advise you to stay away from any planning and make it clear you do not wish to participate.
  11. Honestly this all sounds super toxic. Is being a vendor something that's super important to you? Is there some other way you can do what you're doing now that doesn't necessarily require being part of festivals, etc.? I just think all of this sounds like a weird toxic bubble of an environment that isn't going to end well for most of the people involved. What does this stunt involve? Could there be legal ramifications for the people pulling the stunt? If this guy has lots of money, he has the money to commence lawsuits against all of you and use up your time, money and mental sanity dragging them on. Don't get involved with the planning in any way. You should not even be talking about it with anyone. Distance yourself from those involved in the planning. Tread carefully. If I were you, I would honestly be looking for different outlets to pursue your art. This is not healthy.
  12. Stopppppppppppppp it! I would be sooooo annoyed with you by now if I were him. Not only are you accusing him of being grumpy, rude, selfish, etc., but you are doing it while seeking reassurance from him that he's into you? You woke him up in the middle of the night and then called him rude and selfish when he expressed that he wasn't appreciative of it. You never apologized. Now you're continuing to tell him how he's acting in ways that he's really not. I'm not sure what you're expecting?
×
×
  • Create New...