aceofspades

Alot of people have said this, and I understand where they are coming from. It's hard to explain when I may seem so young, how serious I am when I say I know he is the one. I know we will work out in the end, however that may happen. I just came here hoping for some lifted spirits because a break up is hard either way.

I don't necessarily think we spoke about marriage too soon because we knew and we had known each other a long time. I do however agree we moved in together way too soon. We both know we will end up together and have no interest in dating so it's not really a concern at the moment. We want to stay in each others lives as friends but we are definitely trying to keep the distance necessary to heal. We do both work full time and are genuinely taking as much time as possible to work on ourselves seperately.

I am in therapy, working on my mental health and attachment issues as well as learning to be less codependent and more comfortable on my own. I am also young so I am working on creating financial stability etc. He is working on his own mental health and financial stability as well as his own attachment issues which sway the other way.

I came here to hear your stories. I'll tell mine first which will explain why I want to hear yours. My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) met online a long time ago and were best friends for quite a while. When we started dating we were very sure of things very quickly (because we knew each other so well). We knew from the beginning we wanted to marry each other and even spent time planning wedding stuff/looking at rings. We moved in together after dating for 3 months (quick, I know but keep in mind how long we knew each other prior). We had a very sweet and pure love, we just had lots of issues with communication and even finances/chores. We dated for a year and a half and eventually decided to break up for the time being. We love each other immensely, but ultimately we realized we are not mature enough for that serious of a relationship. We wanted to take some time to ourselves to work on our emotional/financial/mental maturity. It is one of the healthiest things I have ever seen in a relationship. We have done our best to be the best friends that we were before until we have worked to become the person that we want to be for each other, and then we can try again. We both agreed that we know deep down we are meant to be together, just not right now. At first we talked ALOT still and hung out some. He explained to me one day that it's really hard for him to process everything when we are still spending so much time together. Told him I completely understand, but that I won't be reaching out because he is the one asking for space so I will allow him to reach out and initiate when he feels ready. He ended up reaching back out a few days later and we have started talking every now and then. We play video games together most nights and call each other if we need something. Things feel decent, we feel like friends again. I want more than anything to get back together, but I know work needs to be done first. I guess I am asking for your stories about breaking up and ending up back together. I think it will be nice and keep my spirits high. Thank you guys in advance! (also if you have any advice for my situation I would be happy to hear it)