Rob

How would she decide she wants back in if I don't extend a hand to her? if I don't show her how much she matters? I was the one who messed up is it not my job to try and fix it?

You are right. I didn't appreciate her, but I think that has been to a lack of understanding of eachother no?

I was with my ex for 6 months. 18-20 It was honestly pretty amazing but I kept getting closer to her and she just felt kind of distant, she's not big on sharing emotions. I ended up panicking over it and breaking things off with her 2 months ago. I immediately felt regret. I have never seen her cry, look, or act sad. But she told me she was devastated and crying constantly. She didn't try and say anything about trying to fix it, we really didn't have great communication and at the time I felt like I couldn't get through to her and I didn't realize until later that I didn't even try 😞. I have never been in worse pain, these past 2 months have been horrible. we have kept in touch these past months but only for like a couple hours of texting and then nothing for a weeks. I have always been the one to reach out during these times. I called her about 2 weeks after it and tried to talk about things and how I felt I had just made a terrible mistake but she redirected the conversation. I contacted her a few times to try and discuss things and even asked her to think about trying to fix things and she didn't get back to me. I kept talking to her and she would mention guy friends I hadn't heard about out of the blue, and then talked about going on a date on her birthday with a guy. I felt so much anguish knowing she was out having a good time with someone else. She said something like "maybe im moving on to fast or just coping". I texted her the other night to see how she was using and I guess the guy she was seeing took advantage of her emotional state and just used her. I feel like garbage, just this empty feeling that its my fault and I desperately want to fix it. She isn't great at understanding her own emotions and that's really difficult for me to handle. I know that it was just a rebound thing and she just wanted to feel like she felt before with me, with him. But she doesn't seem to realize that. I honestly don't want to let her go, this is the only girl I have ever actually loved, I have been talking to her a bit and she seems a little more open about things and at this point I'm pretty determined to do whatever I have to, I cant stand the thought of her being miserable, even if helping her and hearing about her pain, burns. She's not toxic just not experienced at relationships (I'm not really either). and her parents are good friends with mine but don't like me anymore. They aren't super emotional people either and that's probably where her issues with that comes from. I'm just not sure how to fix this. Its really hard when she doesn't seem very interested in doing that. Are we save able? Could we build something better, something new on this? Has anyone ever done that at come out on top? I called her when we broke up because if I had looked her in the eyes I wouldn't have been able to. I feel like if I can just get through to her a bit, maybe take her out somewhere to do something casual she'd realize that she does want me?