lostwithlove

I miss her like she'll never know. My best friend and I have been through the most challenging times of our lives together. Just before she broke up with her boyfriend, quite recently, she told me she had feelings for me. I've had feelings for her, for a year, since we met. She knows this, but because she was in a relationship at the time, we both chose to block it out. Now she's recovering from her past relationship and I don't know where I stand. She was my best friend, but I haven't seen her for 2 days. Which doesn't sound like much, but we used to see eachother every day. She was staying at a friend's house last night. I don't know where she is now. I texted her half an hour ago to ask what she was up to and she hasn't texted back. Which she normally does. The thoughts racing through my head, where she is, who she's with (her ex?). I know they're not right for a 'friend', but it's all I can think of. Infatuation? maybe. I just read a note she wrote to me a while ago. It said how much she loved me (as a friend) saying, "now that we're best friends, I think we've only seen the tip of the iceberg in our relationship". I brung that up with her the night she told me she had feelings for me and she told me she wasn't referring to 'friendship'. Then why? Why is she blanking me out? This is the second day I've been in the house. I don't like my former friends. They sit about their houses, doing hash and talking garbage. What's she doing and more importantly, why? I wish I could let her go, I want the emotional freedom that's meant to come with being single. But she's always in my thoughts. I think about her randomly until I go to bed, and even then, most nights I dream about her. Then waking up and thinking about her. I hate it. I suppose this was just a rant, but rants are meant to make you feel better, whereas this has just brought it all back. Thanks for reading, LWL.

She normally dresses more casual when we're in bigger groups. And she spend less much time on her make up with bigger groups, too. A few days ago I went to her house and she got dressed and put on make up, but we stayed in the house all day..

There's this girl that is just out of a year long relationship and I have feelings for her. We're good friends and have been for a long time. I'll get to the point. Anytime we're going out, she dresses nice and puts on make up and stuff. Do girls do that with everyone? Even if it's just going to be us two? She told me before that she had feelings for me but at that time she was dating her ex. I'm not saying that I want to jump into a relationship just now, I know she needs time to recover n stuff. Thanks for your input. Lwl.

My (girl) friend finally broke up with her boyfriend tonight. I've known her for a long time and she's totally devestated, I just don't know what to say to her. He always played her around and used her, like if HE wanted to go out, he'd make plans with her. After a big argument she told him she didn't need it anymore and broke it off. He asked if she still loved him and she couldn't answer because she says she's not sure. There's not much that I know I can do for her. What would you suggest? I'm going out with her tomorrow becos I want to keep her busy to keep her mind off him. But what else can I do? Thanks.

I'm just off the phone to my best friend, after a fight between me and her boyfriend she decided enough was enough and that he wasn't treating her right and they broke up. When I asked where my friend was on the phone just there she told me she was at his house! I've been suspicious about where she's been as I've not been seeing her as much recently. But my fears have been confirmed. I am sooooo upset that she has kept this from me! she's one of the only really good friends I have left and she does this.. Right now I am shaking with anger. But I don't know why! I know that she should do what she wants and everything but I don't want her to be hurt again and I definitely don't want to be lied to from my best friend!! This hurts so much, I can't explain it. Thanks for reading..

maybe. or maybe she's just interested in you as a friend. My advice: don't talk to her for a while.. see if she contacts you.

Be a friend. or: if you think you want more, don't talk to her.

My best friend has just broke up with her boyfriend and she is feeling down. I don't know how to help her. She keeps getting text messages from him and all i can say is how much she doesn't need him and should move on. Easy for me to say, I know. I hate to see her hurt. But I don't know what to do. Her ex treated her bad, but at times (when she feels down/ gets a message) she wants him back. As an outsider, i knew how badly he was treating her. She would come on the phone to me a lot crying about what he'd done. Emotional abuse basically. Now he realizes what he's lost, he wants her back. She's still in love with him too. But doesn't want to get back together. What can i do/say to help her? I listen to her when she misses him n stuff but there's not much else i can do n it tears me apart. I want to help. but don't know how. She met him in the park the other day and they started talking. He thinks she wants to be friends now.. but she's just left doors open for him to crawl back into her life. any advise/suggestions are appreciated. Thanks, l.w.l

I have feelings for my best friend, she doesn't know. But her boyfriend and I don't really get on. Lately she's been spending a lot of time around me and not so much with her boyfriend.. So the other night, I told her that I would disappear. She couldn't stop crying.. I don't get it.. We are so close, but I care so much about her, I want her to be happy. She can be happy with her boyfriend, and lose me. Her boyfriend constantly nags at how close we are, and ever since we became close he has drifted from her. I just want her to be happy, with or without me. I hurt her so bad the other night, we have to talk things through and all but i know we'll be the same.. it's what she says she wants, and what I know i want. Was I stupid to think i was holding her back from her boyfriend? But i don't get how she can be in love with her boyfriend and yet spend so much time with me.. she's out with him today and that's the first they've seen eachother in 5 days.. All i want is for her to be happy. however that may be.

wow, very true drkblue That's exactly what i think of it too.. *echoes* lol

Is there really hope though..?

Karma explains that.. If you love, let it go, if it doesn't come back, it wasn't meant to be.

I'm a guy 'n i kept a copy!!

I'm going through the pain.. and holding on to hope.. that's alla got. thnx for sharing

Thanks sidehop, i'm cautious though, she's my one best friend i have left.. i couldn't face losing her.. yes and no lol depending on her mood with him she'll tlk about him differently.. the other nite she said 'oh he foned n i can't be bothered going out for like an hour.. oh yeh i'll see you tomoro' lol I really don't know what she sees in him, she says when she's with him she's so happy, but without him she remembers the bad times.. It tears me apart to see how he gets her.. she can't tell him she's like best friends with me because he doesn't like me and vice versa. He had suspicions about how i felt towards her and our relationship went from bad to worse.. now we don't talk and he often gets really jealous and upset when he hears she's been down my house etc.

It is a bumpy relationship they have, but she does say she loves him. She told me she can't picture life without him, but she does realize he's not good for her, He lies constantly about where he's been etc. She always turns to me though, like the other night they argued and she phoned me in tears and I would calm her down. it is the best friendship i've ever had, only because she's such an extraordinary girl. She really does bring out the best in me, my family say that she must be interested in me, when like tomoro she's not telling her boyfriend she's staying off school so she can come round here. But then again, if she like.. tells me her relationship problems n stuff does that not mean that i'm like a perosn to confide in and just a good friend? We always have such a good time in eachothers company.. it hurts how I can't tell her incase she thinks differently of me. She promised me she'd never leave, she'd always be friends with me and she constantly tells me what a great friend i am and how much she 'loves me'.. I tell her the same back.. but she doesn't know the extent of how much i do love her..

I have a best friend, That's a girl I'm a guy. I am Crazy about her, I mean Crazy!.. there's nothing I wouldn't do for her. One small problem.. she has a boyfriend, whom I don't talk to anymore because of the way .. he is basically. I really really really like this girl, She comes over my house all the time, we do everything together, recently we were on a trip with my school, and on the coach she was resting her head on my chest to sleep and stroking my hand, with her legz over mine. I don't know what's going through my head, I just really want her to be interested in me.. She's even coming over tomoro just to hang out. I probably shouldn't let my feelings get in the way of such an amazing friendship. I'm scared if she found out how I feel she'd stop being so close with me. But she really is such an understanding person, I tell her EVERYTHING, and could tell her anything. and it works both ways, she would tell me anything too. Well her boyfriend is leaving school this year, and it's gona be rough on her and i don't know if she'll continue seeing him, it has been over a year with him.. very bumpy. Any input is really appreciated, even if it's only your opinion. and feel free to ask Any questions, I dunno if i've maybe been a bit vague. Thanx!!