karam

well bud, first of all, like he said its in the past, you have nothing to worry about and so what if he watched porn or saw namked ladies...he was a teenager, thats what teenagers do. I swear its a phase all guys go through, so he lusted over some girl who gets paid to have sex with multiple people. the fact that he chose you should be enough to say how much you mean to him. Next time you feel insecure just tell him to give you a hug or something, and im sure it will pass, and if not, possibly talk to him if you can and see if he has any suggestions. CHeers

hey all! first of all i love this board, been here for a year or so, and reading posts and responding makes me feel great cuz i know how it feels and there are times when i laugh saying wow that was me, and one day this person will be laughing too. but to get to the point! Me and my ex were together for 2 years, we ended it and now its been 4 months since the break up and after about a month and a half of NC, we started hanging out. So now of course i still love the girl, and in my head i think we will be together in the end. The reason we broke up was because she didnt put enough time into us, and i would even be scared to call her to hang out because of hte pain it caused from being let down. so now when we hang out i still get those feelings and i know she does too, but she holds them in soo well.we have talked openly about the situation and she says that ideally she wants to get back together with me but not today or tomorrow or in a month, also she is moving about 2 hours away for school, but will be back on weekends, so i think that will help me. I dont ever want us not to be close, but also i cant move on because if i do i feel like im screwing up my chances with her, she has told me that even if i found someone new, she is confident that we would find eacho other again, but with all that we have been through, i just cant let her go...the worst is that i still will tell her i lvoe her , and she always responds with " i know" because apparently its easier that way, though she says " you know what im thinking." so i know we still lvoe each other alot..but its just difficult the way things are currently, and i have met a gal that likes me alot, but its not fair to her if im not 100% not with my ex...so yea i dont really understand what the exaclt problem is , but i know im feeling like crap somedays about the situation becuase i want to be with her badly. but yea.. respond with any insight you got, and i hope all keep talking and helping each other Karam

hey bud! well it seems to me like you got a girl that just wont take what you are saying at face value. pretty much its going to be really hard to get the point accross without hurting her. if you lie and say you are seeing someone else, she may leave you alone, but it will crush her, and if you try to do what you are currently doing then nothing will change. Pretty much try to tell yourself that though she is hurting, she shouldnt be turning to you about it, since you are the one that let her go, and if she blows up your email, just respond with one workd answers or something, lol i think im coming off as a mean person, but its hard to not be alittle assertive without causing alittle anger, put your foot down and tell her how it is, and if she breaks down appologize, and offer an ear, but be straight with her that you cant talk to her about " you 2" cuz its like talking in a cirlce and you cant handle that....i hope this gave you one option, and if it didnt, i hope someone does get back to you! Karam

well hun, he is basically the firs guy you loved, so its going to sting. The fact that he is letting you go so hisd g/f wont get angry or what not is kind of silly but he must feel that to keep her he has to watch what he does. I think we all have been in the position where we like someone so much it hurts but they dont want us back. What usually happens, and what my person experience is that you will meet someone that will be there for you and eventuially you will forget about him, and to be honest once you really realize what it was all about you will laugh about the situation. Life is really strange that way. In your situation it sucks that he just dumped you and left, but you know what, if he was willing to do that he was not worth it in the end. What i have noticed is people will ditch everyone they know for the one they are with, and the day comes where they break up and they have nothing, nor anyone to turn to, so its a learning process, so the next time they know how important a friend really is. well i hope i helped, if not im sorry! but think posatively, and try to keep your mind off the situation. -Karam

ok guys here is the jist! there is a girl who i didnt like when i met her, i thought she was pretty but i didnt like her or anything, and now after i have gotten to know her, i really really like her, the thing is she gives me no hints!! and i think like 6 months ago one of my friends said she wasnt intereested, but she didnt know me back then!! now we are close, but there are no hints whatso ever! so how do i go about and ask her on a date or something! what do i do! thanks guys Karam

ok guys and gals, first off, this is my first time back after like 6 months, so im happy this is still around, well my problem is this.......... in grade 10 i met a girl, from the moment i saw her i knew i wanted to marry her it was crazy!! well i spent 2 years chasing her, and finally at the end of grade 12 i got her! i was soooo happy, our relationship went on fro about a YEAR, and it was awsome, there were some problems, main one being htat her parents didnt apporve since i was not white, but she roughed it out and stuck with me. well about the time of the year coming around, she broke it off cuz i was not the one she wanted to marry, this was soo harsh on my, it was as if my world was blown up! well we tried to be friends but that didnt work we eneded up having sex, and still holding hands, the love was still there, but she knew she couldnt marry me cuz of a gut instict, and i respected that, so we stopped talking since it was soo hard for us, well then its been 8 months, and i havent spoken to her for like 3 months, but i still think about her, and see cars like hers and miss her, its been fricken 8 months whats wrong with me!!! well i saw her today at the college and it was sooo hard we said hi and that was it, this was the girl that i shared everythign with, the one i thought i was going t omarry, and now its just hello, how do i move on?? will i ever? my friends are getting annoyed with my talk about her and how its effecting me still, is this normal?? i should have moved on!! well she now is dating some 26 yr old guy, (we both are 19) and they have already had sex after 10 dates, and that just grosses me out, and i dont know...even knowing hse has moved on hasnt really effected my love for her... i know im 90 % there, will that 10% ever go away, i wish it does, i cant handle her having so much control in my life she is my weekness, help out guys, please responde, dont just close the window, thanks Karam

hey do you guys know any good moving on songs that would make you feel better after a break up, they can really help, so far i have found stay gone by james wayne, other than that maybe jimmy eat world- in the middle, so if you gys know any songs about moving on please post them thanks KARAM

hey there all, so this is the issue, i am still moving on from my last relationship if you read my past posts, the girl of my dreams left me and i thought my world was at a end, but then this other girl came into my life, and she made me very happy, we were friends and still are due to the fact i need to get over my ex, well anyways i think she liks me, she says she does, butv she calls only like every 4 days, that doesnt show me too much commitment, and well i get along with her family and everything, so well i want to get to know her better, and i tell her that, but she just says she is very busy, and that she understands that i want to get to know her better, but she is just busy, well her mom is always there to help me be less confused, last nite was the first time that i held her hand, and this is after a month, how do i show more emotions with her and get her to open up with me? like as in wanting to hold me hand, and wanting to talk to me, and just wanting to see me! she is an awsome girl ,and at fist i could not date her due to the fact that she was 16 and i am 19,b but all my freidns told me that age shouldnt matter, well turns out it doesnt and i really like her, and igeuss i am so impacient becasue i dont want to get hurt again, and i dont want to chase her for no reason, and get my heart crushed again

hey there i have posted a issue here before also, there is this girl that i went out with for about a year and then she broke it off due tothe fac it wasnt the right kind of love for marriage we are only 19 so i was sort of confused at that point, but still i took the losss and tried to move on, we tried to be friends but ended up just doing things like making out, so we needed space so we agreed to talk every friday on the phone to keep the friendship alive, ok the problem is that i was doing great, hanging out with friends and having a good time, but whenever she calls or emails i just fall for her over again,i want to keep the frienship there, but without hurting myself, i am trying to move on, i have met someone new, she is sweet, but i dont think its fair to start dating until im fully over the last love, so how do i move on, or what should i do? Thanks Karam

hey there, yea i agree with the first reply, you need to move on he has done it so you need to move on with your life, the fact that you still feel so strongly after 2 years is a wonder,there must be somethign that reminds you of him, maybe your son.. but then you must hink that you need to teach your son not to be like his father, to treat women well and not just leave for the sake of it and if he ever fathers a child then stay true to the commitment to that child to be his dad! you are a strong women to keep going, the worst thing is to see anex with someone new..but with a new wife..that must be painful..we feel for you... but at the same time you must realize that he is gone and you cant do anything about it.. its like wanting to be a bird..its not going to happen!! you can dress up and jump off as many cliffs as possible but all your goign to do IS HURT YOURSELF!! so be true to yourselfand move on with your life, pick up your heart, make it whole again,and then when your ready, which you will be one day, pass it on again to someone that will treat it with care and love, as if it were there own. Karam if yougot any advice for me look up my situation undder my user name.

hey there yea life is odd, things dont go the way you always hope, im only 19 so i havent been in too long of a relationship, a year at the most, but truthfuly first thing you got to do is distance yourself from him, when you call him it makes him feel as if he still has you around his finger, while you know that he could care less about you! and all that will do is bring down your selfesteem, so yea i agree that you ned to stop calling him, actually cut all contact with him, you dont deserve second place to "having fun for the time" and making you wait a few years so when he is ready you will be there for his convienience, yea i really think that this guy isnt in love with you or was ever in love with you as much as you are with him... the reason why you cant see yourelf with other guys is becasue you keep comparing them to your ex before really giving them a chance,while they could be great people! but i will admit the bar scene is not really the best place to meet a b/f. try through a friend or just run into one at the grocery store... i dno, im trying to help you out, but in reality im going through the same withdrawl! maybe you could give me some help.. look me up under Karam, im in a perdiciment also! but yea we need to move on with our lives, and you know that you are better than him and his fun times for the momentwhile your on a whole higher level with your gradesand your goals..do you think he would be a good husband?? he has no direction in his life..well anyways hope things wokr out for you... see ifyou got time to help me out.... thanks Karam

hwy man, i see that you are heartbroken, and hey geuss what..its ok!it happens to all of us, but yea the best thing foryou to do at this point is just dont contact her. stasy away from contacting her!!! see i madethe mistake of calling the ex and asking her to take me back, and when she said no, i felt even worse!so then i left it for a week and hey i felt a bit better! so i have a few things to run by you that you can help yourself with! 1)discard everything you own that reminds you of her! emails, pictures, food, movies! put them all in a box and lock em up!!! dont burn orthrow them away just putthem somwhere you cant see them, like a friends house! 2)go out and have fun!!!! enjoy the friends in your life, have laughs with them get to know them better, take time to talk to your folks! try to excell in your job more! take time to watch for details! 3)dont be alone...ifyou find yourself bored and alone, go for a run, go to the gym, call a friend, ake up a hobby, but dont sit there and think your just going to kill brain cells! 4)be a teenager!!! go out hit on girls, flirt, go on dates, trust me you say you couldnt stand being with someone else? we are guys give us a bit of time and we mold to the comfort of a new love !! 5) and finally most important is music!! listen to upbeat fun msuic, not slow stuff, get into the rock!!a goodsong and good insperation for your situation is "swing swing- all american rejcts" good tune about breakups and moving on in your life! listen to the lyrics!! i wish you the best of luck i know you will do fine, feel free to email me at email removed, if ever you need to just vent or anything, later man, and peace!

hi there, yea i was just reading up on your story, and trust me he aint worth any part of your life! ta see the type of guy that i see him as is one that is not into settling down, not into love, but more into sex and the convienince of sex, it seems as if he tells you that he misses you and that he wants to visit is just so you will miss him, so when he does come back he has you on his leash to go ahead and sleep with while he is here.. look he moved on.. and you should too! your young, pretty and caring those quailties alone make you apealing to like 99% of the guys out there, and the other 1% are just jerks! i didnt go through what you went through, but i did go through a break upwhere i was dumped and heartbroken, and i miss her alot, but after coming tothis site, reading up on others stories, i feel good about myself!! im not alone, none of us are!! my advice to you is lose contact with him! he is just a mind game for you! dont email him, block his emails, adn if you ever get the erge to call him or email him quickly pick up the phone call and friend and vent vent and more venting!! and if all fails!! come online visit this site and relax!! we are here to help, but really move on, meet some new people and just have fun with friends, and most of all laugh and enjoy your time with the friends that are there, they wont abondon you!

hey there all, ok here is the deal you all know that certain immage you have of a girl in your head, like the perfect image, well one day i was grade 10 that image walked rigth by me, i was soo amazed!!! so i spent the next year persuing this girl finally in the summer of grade 11 she went out with me...for 3 weeks, i was heart broken and still liked her so i still persued her, so then we got back together in may of my grad year and then she broke up with me in that sumer due to the fact that" she had a gut feeling it was wrong" well after 2 weeks we started dating again. so we went out for about another 7 months and she broke it off with me about 6 days before our 1 year.. so here i am 19, heartbroken by the girl who i think is the world to me at the moment, all my friend say i need to move on...but the thing is its not easy she is the girl i want to marry, even if she has gained some wieght and has a bit of flab i still love her alot!! and well we tried to hang out afterwars but all we did was make out! and now im even more confused. its soo ahrd to go in my room see all the pictures of her its just painful, see to me she is the type of girl that i would take back over and over becasue i have it in my head that it will work.. dont get me wrong she is a great girl, she is soo sweet and very kind, but like she said this time to me when we broke up was " its not the right kind of love for marriage" i think about her all the time and now well she is calling me in a few days after our makeout issue the other day. well im in a world off confusion!! she is soo sweet and great, and i have so much fun with her, but everyone says that if i date her again she wil just break my heart again! she knows i love her and would do anythign for her... at this point i am crushed and well waiting for her reply about the other day...so can you guys help me with some advice about how to get over her or how i should deal with the situation.... remebemr she is my dream girl(i even love her strech marks!!) see im in deep trouble!! come on gang! as human beings we gotta help each other out..and i need alot of that at this point!!! well thanks for listening to me rant and rave! remember that i have spend everyday of the past year with her so i have alot of memories nad i have forgoten all my friends due to her presense, thank god they are around stil trying to help me!! but i need some expert adive so hit me back! and make sure to respond, dont just go to the next message, youradvice may be the turning point!! Karam,