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I have been seeing this guy for almost a month. We had an instant chemistry from the first phone call. I finally met him three weeks ago…I was soooo attracted to him and knew that I wanted to sleep with him. He's a narcotic p.o. and works insane hours. So he comes to visit me at 2am when his job is done. Point being that we had sex!!! It was great BUT I made a BIG mistake the first time he put a condom on but it bothered me and I told him to take it off and he did! While having sex the thought of having unprotected sex interfered with me feeling sexually stimulated. So he "came" and then he knew it was the wrong thing to do. We spoke for a little and I started kissing him and then forget about it clothes came off and all and there it happened again!!! He was aking me where do u want me to cum and out of excitement and my harmones going crazy I said inside me and thinking that he would know it was just sex talk that was turning me on HE DID cum inside me!!!!!!!!!!!! Now hes 28yrs old and knows this was a bad thing. Prior to us having sex we were drinking wine and all! Forget it now im sooooooo scared!!!!! What should I do????? Since he's a cop he gets tested every six months for everything AIDS, STD's and every otherthing and its mandatory so that eases me a little but still I cant believe I let this happen!!!! I never did something like this before and I hate myself for it!!! Don't know how to handle it and don't know what to do! L He told me not to worry but con on what woman wont?????????? Help me please!

omg!! I just went through the SAME situation!!! He told me the same thing and to tell u the truth I still stayed in it knowing exxactly from the beginning how he felt and how he wasnt looking for a relationship and girl let me tell you I got hurt at the end b/c he didnt want to continue with me cuz things were getting to serious we were acting like a couple and to tell u the truth he cut the whole thing off he didnt want to hurt me cuz he said I was to good of a girl and I didnt deserve to be in this type of situation. On that note like I always say to each his own but please pull away little by little and it may be easier for you...I didnt and got hurt though he was a good guy and I do respect him for being honest from the start....

Thank you very much. Point well taken and understood. I appreciate it. It's so hard but I know I just have to not be clingy and if it doesnt work I know someone out there will respect and cherish the good woman that I am!

yes...im curious...and I just want to ask I will be foolish if I call him again...right? If he didnt respond...

its sooo weird that u ask me that question...out of curiosity why do u ask???

no this is the first guy that I date since that idiot which was my ex-boyfriend...i must admit I got attache to the guy that I was seeing a bit to quick! Dating is soooo not for me..I hate it im sucha girlfriend...its sad that I cant just be cool with having sex w/ a guy and just keeping it moving...i wish i was that type of girl. It just seems that every guy is the type to just have sex with a girl w/ no strings attached! Its not me!!!!!

The guy that I was seeing wasn't ready to be in a relationship so what we had ended a month ago. He calls me 5am and I got sooo happy. I really like this guy. He asked if I would want to see him..(yes ..I know he just wanted sex) and I said I was in bed and that maybe during the week ..he did consent to that..we decided on Monday but I called and text him and he didnt answer or call back...WHY play games???????? I just don't understand...I cant take it anymore with these guys ...I go through soemthin ALL the time!! Do u think I'll ever be happy?????

Yup!!! I went into my ex's email and saw an email from nextel that he had previously opened and read and guess what i saw.....YES! His cell phone number that he never gave me the number cuz he changed it on me!!! Sooo I copied on to a piece of paer...(wasn't going to call him) but i wrote it down anyway and I wanted to call a friend of mind whose number was on the same paper AND I DIALED THE F'IN CELL PHONE NUMBER!!!!!! yes i did like a real IDIOT!!!!!! I realized it to late...the voicemail came on....I got the chills and the * * * *z from nervousness....so obviously he saw my number and guess what he didnt call it back! I was thinking of changing my cell# but my friends said for me not to do that...who cares what he's thinking now though i know he's going insane thinking how the hell I got his number!!! Im still nervous!!! I guess thats what I get for me such a snitch!!!!! any advice/ comments would be appreciated...I KNOOOW im a crazy biatch!

OMG!!! Relation Coach....ur reply realllllly stuck to me....your comparison was soooo true and real!! I read ur reply 5x!!! As for all the other replys they as well are sooo true and meaningful to me! Thank you all! I hope and pray that one day I will get over him on my OWN w/o havnganother man just for the plain simple reason of forgetting him. I have to forget him on my own from within....

I know why I did it ...its because that through it all I STILL love the ****!!! What can I say I hate that I don't hate him after all he put me through!!!!!

Yep...u got it I MESSED UP!! The heart was pounding the mind was running the thoughts were clouding up my head and I CALLED LIKE A REAL IDIOT!!!!! I let the phone ring twice and he called me back and I p/u and he didnt even let a word get in he just tarted like with the mean things he says!! i HUNG UP...He called back and I let it go to voicemailand he said (MIND U HE CALLED ME AFTER 5 MONTHS JUST THE OTHER DAY) leave me alone dont call me gain...i know i shouldnt of called u it was a mistake dont call me evr again...i told u not to and u said u werent u f'd up... OMG!!!!!!! gimme a freikin' break im NOT putting myself through this! I HOPE AND PRAY that we NEVER speak again!!! I was sooo good w/o hearing hiss voice after 5 months now just like last year im back at square 1!! I dont deserve this WHY did I do it??? im sooo depressed and such an idiot!!!!!!!!

Thank you all...like always...though i feel u guys def lift my spirits...thanks...

I have been trying to do such for ayear and a half already...why did he have to call me!! There was absolutely no reason...now with that call, being unblocked, his girlfriends email to him im all messed up

My prior post basically explains it all...I haven't made any contact with him since and plan on not making any...its soooooo tempting to send him an email but i dare not to i just think of all the bad things and the wanting to do so diminishes...I still have access to his email and after a year and a half I got the urge to check it and there she was!!! A message from her letting him know of an apt!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!! Is he realllly serious!!!! HE's moving out with this chick!!!!!!!!!! soooooo...i played it cool...i went online to try to get my mind off of all of this and there HE is!!! He unblocked me from his buddy list!!!! it took him only 5 seconds to log off!!!! I CANT BELIEVE THIS!! He calls me to see how things are going??yea right...then im unblocked????? OMG!!!! Even w/o any words im going INSANE!!!! wHAT SHOULD i DO!!! My heart still loves him through it all but my head is saying F*** HIM!! Im soooo confused

Thank you for ur opinions/thoughts It really does help!

I posted on Friday how my ex called to see how things are going...he has a girl and all but why call me now???? My question is will he ever call me back??? Please help....i cant stop thinking about him...His phone call regressed me 10 steps back Please help!

Thank you all sooo very much!!!! These are ALL lessons that I will experience and learn.

maybe but why the second call right after saying how he's not leading me on and all that...im now sooooo confused!

It happenned this afternoon...my office phone rang and it came in as a private call (I have caller ID) I answered and they hung up on me. THen shortly after it rang again with my ex's office number OMG my heart dropped..My body felt as if it was on fire...To make a long story short he basically called to see how things were going....WHY????????????? Its been since July I last spoke with him and when he changed his cell # on me and all and NOW he wants to know how things are going!! Anyway...I answered with...things are going im okay...I asked him and he replied with things are good..really good...okay who cares!!!!!!!! He was trying to talk to me soo strong and boldly...gimme a break!!! And I know he has a girlfriend and I am over that...but to be honesst him calling set me back a bit..I was doing so well being oblivious to him...we hung up quick i wished him a Merry x-mas and all that and he said the same and we hung up. THEN he calls back within a second and says listen Im not leading you on I just wanted to c how u were doing ...I dont want u to start calling me or acting psycho...this mutha flower...what the heck is wrong with him if he's not trying to lead me on and just called to c how things are then why call for the 2nd time to say such thing!!! Im soooo much better w/o speaking to him cuz now the bastard is on my mind....i knooooow i am not going to dial his job AT ALL! I dont even have his cell number BUT my question is does anyone have a clue why he chose to call me now????I just dont understand it or him! He has a g/f he shouldnt be calling me for anything or even to c how things are going what does he care?He dissed me and changed his number but honestly I love him to this day throught it all any advice/thoughts?

I thank you all for ur comments and opinions! I appreciate and value ALL ur opinions and concerns..I will be happy one day!

"Men don't respond to words they respond to no contact" Why cant I go by my own saying????? Arggggggghhhh!!!!!

Well the guy that I was you can say "seeing" has thrown int he towel and ended everything due to the fact that he wasn't ready for a relationship and I treated him to much as if I was his girl. The way I spoke to him, the gifts I had bought him so on and so forth. He did advise me in the beginning that he didnt want a girlfriend but things went to quick and honestly it took for him to turn the beginning to an end. I was swseeing him for a month in a half and im sooo sad! He hasnt called me in 2 days and I have left him 2 messages and no call back This is not like him. I was thinking of emailing him but my friends said not to. He was so nice and did just want to be friends but im just down. any advise? Should I try calling one more time or leave an email? I feel so lost!! I hate this!!!!

Thank you very much for ur opinion and concern like always!

Thank you ALL so very much!!! I appreciate and respect all ur opinions!! I must say u are ALL right on the money with everything that was stated. I will learn in due time and with experience! Thanks again!

I thought it may get better but it hasn't. I stay in a daze just thinking of how it went wrong. Can you guys help me? I'm an amateur in the dating scene. I met this guy a month ago and if u remember it was all good until….well he told me from day one that he broke up with his ex of four and a half years. Though he said he was over it.. I totally do not believe him. He said to me how he doesn't want anything serious and that im too much of a good girl and he didn't want to hurt me…(b/c he knew I was falling for him) he said that he loves my company and all and enjoys going out with me but things went to quickly for us. We were already acting as a couple. I agreed but he distant himself from me. Im not going to lie its been a month but it hurts a lot. I would talk to him everyday and that has just diminished. He would call me everyday when he got out of work and that died too…Im really sad but what can I do? I guess nothing.. right? Its funny cuz I met him online…yes online…hes a great guy and all….i would sleep at his house and everything….hes not ready for a girl right now….I saw on the site that a chick messaged him and I mentioned it to him…he got annoyed and asked y do I have to look at his profile? He was annoyed. Anyhow…I feel sad and cant stop thinking about him…is this rare? Should I feel another way since its sooo new…im sooo confused. Please express ur opinions/thoughts…guys and girls…thanx