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Thank you all so much! I am sure that I will pull through and get through this! Thanks to all for all ur consistent support!

You hit it right on the money!!! This is EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENNED!!! Now I sit hear drowning in tears b/c of my mistake... Annie24- To be honest w/u I am worthy of myself and think very highly of ME! I am educated, beautiful and a beautiful home and a wonderful job I have it all BUT that is not a reason for me being who I am within. I am a sucka for love and wear my heart on my sleeave always! I give my ALL and my heart too quickly. I dont know how it is being in the dating scene. I have only been in long term relationships. I only know who I am w/ a man thats why im devastated over this guy! I fell for him and knowing what im acustomed to and not reminding myself that he was a firned not a b/f! Its another chapter in my book of living and learning not the question is will I EVER LEARN?

My guy returned from Florida last night. Read my last posts and u will know the jist of things. Anyway, he came back and he didnt call me upon his return and had his friend pick him up from the airport instead of me as planned. I called him last night and he gave me the excuse that his allergies are acting up and hes going to unwind a bit, relax and yada yada ....When he didnt mentioned seeing me IT WAS A BLOW TO THE HEART!!! I called him back and thats when it happenned! I told him that I was getting soooo hurt by him. He responded w/ I told u that I didnt want a relationship and have alot of things in my life to handle right now...like if im moving to Florida and I dont want to start anything at all....blah blah blah! He did tell me from the beginning that he didnt want to get involved or get into a relationship with anyone and its my fault that I accepted that and now 7 months down the line I am here with a broken heart w/only myself to be at fault We have decided to just keep things as friends (I AM DROWNING IN TEARS) I really fell for him hard!!! I guesss this is best for me that it ended this way but soooooo sad cuz I cant find myself to be nothing more than a "friend"....its like I dont even want to and I hate that I feel this way!!! I am miserable and need some help!!! I just cant deal with this and most importantly with myself!!!

I have decided that I can't deal with the situation im in any longer. I am better than this. He returns on Saturday from Florida. Should I tell him that I cant do it any longer, theres nothing with us. You don't want me but then again don't want to lose me- NO WAY!!! I CANT!!!! My g/f is telling me that I don't need to tell him anything, she advised just to not call him EVER! He won't care anyway, I know he wishes that I stop calling him! Hes always with an attitude/moody when I call but he wont say to end the whole "seeing" one another thing! I have to be the one to do it. What do u think? Do I need to say what Im going to do/ just do it. I know he wont even budge to call if I don't!!! Any other suggestions?? Please i'm desperate!!

u r all right! What frustrates me is that when we do go out and he takes me to functions with his fellow job friends he introduces me as his girl to everyone i meet but sadly i know im not and he just says taht b/c who knows why.. its just a sad situation that I allowed for myself to get into and now im the one thats hurt w/ no heart to pull out of it.....

Yes 6 motnhs and doesnt want to commit to me but he says all the time how he doesnt want to lose me! Unbelievable! He said to me before how he doesnt want to get into anything or have any responsibilities....that was said a few months ago. He knows what I want but since im accepting the situation as is and killing myself inside hes taking everything for what its worth-----NOTHING! aND WE'RE SUPPOSEDELY "EXCLUSIVE" WITH ONE ANOTHER

How do I cope being in a situation like this? 6 months is too long but then again to others is a short period of time to commit. Not to sure about how this should work? Or should I suggest seeing other people? BUT once that happens it mightest well be over....im just so confused I cant even thingk straight!

Ninjagirl- your post is kinda scary to me because if you read my last few posts, we are IN THE SAME BOAT!!! Mind you I am dating this guy for 6mths already (exclusively) but w/no committment!! I dont underastand it myself but it is what it is. Im on the verge of letting go but DONT KNOW HOW TO Everytime Im angry enough to do it i talk to him and the feeling of telling him we are done goes away....him and I are going nowhere and if I dont end it we will stay "seeing" one another forever!! So I myself need major help with this!! Good luck to you!! And you can pm me whenever u like!

The guy that im dating for 6mths now (not my b/f) is in Florida until Saturday. He left Wed and called me Thursday night to say "hi" (read my last post) anyway, he hasn't called me again ....i want to call him sooo bad but something is telling me not to. I know this thing we have is completely done! I feel it within Would I be stupid to place the call/should I just let it be and what happens happens???? I cant take this!!

I totally agree w/u but I just know he will call! Then what? OMG!! im so confused!! And it was discussed that I pick him up from the airport at arrival next week .....

its funny you say that b/c he has told me "I dont want to lose you" BUT not will you be my g/f...its just sooooo sad how life is...he knows that im a good woman but doesnt want me...why does this happen? Thats why Im going to go with my gut instinct!!! BUt the problem is where do I start???I have such a problem with pulling away!!!

The guy that I have been dating for 6 months (NOT B/F) went away again to Florida. He left on Wed. He has never been one to call for I have ALWAYS been the one to initiate that! If you read my last posts you will see that things arent so humky dory! My point of this post is to get some advise....I couldnt believe that he called last night at 7pm to say "hi". I didnt expect him to call so that caught me off guard. Prior to him leaving we got into a big fight cuz the night b4 he left he got drunk and was acting like a complete loser when i spoke to him that night but thats besides the point. Should this be the chance for me to pull away, not to call him at all (tho he soooooo expects me too)??? I hate that hes there for I have been having some weird instincts with that ( and i must say they were expressed to him) in regard to me feeling that there is someone out there that hes not telling me about and of course he says that theres not...but anyway...should I take ten steps back and try to pull HIM in??? What advise can you give me cuz im desperate here Thanks!

I have to ask tho...Why do u think he doesnt come straight out with me and tell me if there was another person in Florida? I am not his g/f and the conversation was deep it just wouldve been the perfect time/place? OMG im so confused tho its clear as day as to what I should do

Thank you so much for your replies....

Just got in from sitting in the car and talking with the guy im dating (not bf). I have been "seeing" him for 6 months. Since I met him he has always taken his lil trips to Florida....well his family is down there (mather, father, brother, etc) BUUUUUUUT for soooooome strange reason since the beginning I have hadd this gut instinct that there was someone else out there ("female friend") Dont ask me but its just a womans gut feeling that I never ignore...I have asked him questions about florida if he ever dated down there and all and his response was i have alot of friends down there thats my home (he does own a house down there) but he rents it out and works here...anyhow, with all the frustration and all (if u read my prior post) I just felt like I wanted to end this "seeing" thing with him. Its going nowhere...he doesnt want a relationship but then again doesnt want to lose me...im so upset...I dont want to stop seeing him but then again time is only running and i dont want to get stuck with a broken heart...which i feel its too late cuz i feel one already...hes leaving to florida on Wed for a week...im not going to call him tho we agreed that we still are "exclusive" and all. OMG...what am i doing to myself...im just hurting myself...any advise on this insane situation???? im sooo sad!

No he is not my boyfriend but when together we treat one another as if we are b/f and g/f....we are exclusive. We are solely intimate with one another and noone else....Yea I know im confused about this whole thing as well....I do already have deeeep feeling for him but what pulls me back is that he doesnt want a relationship ....uggggghhhh!!! I hate this dating thing!!! I dont want to keep on bringing up the whole "committment" thing b/c I dont want to push him away....hes great BUT I dont know what going to happen nor what im going to do b/c I want a committment with him

Last night I almost wanted to die!!! My guy which I'm dating and I were having sex and as I was enjoying every single second I accidentally whispered "I love you"!!!! I WANTED TO DIE!!! I immediately switched it up and change it to "I Love when you……." Whatever I said but the good thing was he didn't catch what I said!!! OMG!!!! Imagine if he would've heard???? Why the hell would I say those words? Do u think its b/c of how I truly feel twds him? I don't know but that has never happened to me b4 w/someone that's not my boyfriend!!

I have been "dating" a guy for 6 months already and to this date there is still NO "RELATIONSHIP" annnnnd we are exclusive from the start! We are only intimate with one another but still no "COMMITTMENT" Now u tell me what the heck does this mean and how long will this take?????? Im going insane at this point!

This is craaaazy!!! Thats why im sinking in the boat that im in right now!!! DONT ASK QUESTIONS AND FOLLOW WHAT THEY ARE TELLING U!! SHE IS GETTING FURTHER FURTHER AWAY FROM U!!! In my situation he told me I pushed him away!!! So read and learn cuz they are ALLLLLL TELLING THE TRUTH!!!! I am now learning after the fact and it HURTS BAD!!!

He never returns my calls. I left him a message early evening and he didn't call back…I then called him again at 12:30am and he picks up…I couldn't hold it in and I went off with how this is not working hes not into me blah blah and then he strikes back by saying that I bother him with all the whats happening with us ordeal…he tells me to relax and stop thinking so much…im like what the hell are u talking about U DON'T CARE he then said that I am pushing him away with all this!! I cant take it anymore…im sooo stressed over this…what should I do??? Why doesn't he just end it hes making it sooooooo hard on me!! L

u all make sense!! Now the thing is for me to try and do something about it and for my strength and pride to kick in!!!

i dont know what to do in the same situation as i posted before...he and i argues about me calling too much so on and so forth the phone calls on his end have faded completely but he has not said that he doesnt want to see me anymore...his interestin me has faded BUT then again he doesnt want to comepletely end "seeing me" ...During the arguments and all i have pushed him to say that he didnt want to see me anymore but he just doesnt end it i guess by his actions its saying its over...right? I call him and he says hes busy cant talk(hes at work) and then he NEVER calls me back...GUYS how would u feel that i continue to call even after being neglected im so lost and confused!! Please give some advice on what to do from what not to do...should i let him miss me? should i stop calling? i dont know.... **and mind u he says how he enjoys my company/going out with me and all but sometimes i drive him insane...I HATE THE DAMN PHONE that causes sooo much trouble...what should i do pleeeease help!!!

Thank you guys!!! YEs I personally believe as well that he doesnt want to be the one to end directly because I fill that void un his life at the moment....my problem is finding a way to end it...i just dont have that B**** in me and I need it to kick in ASAP!!! is stopping the phone calls the beginning for me to end it and the first step to the right direction? omg!! this is horrible!!!

Why do you think he wont come straight out and end it? It would make it so much easier for me tho I would be heart broken cuz i set myself up for a disaster?

Once again I have gotten myself into such a rut! From day 1 (5 months ago) he knew what type of woman I was and what I wanted which was a relationship and he advised me that he had gotten out of a very bad relationship last yr and wasnt looking for one but he advised to just see where it goes (meaning him and I) 5 months later ITS NOT GOING ANYWHERE and im sooooo distraught for allowing this to proceed with intimacy and all...i know its all my fault for allowing this from the startr knowing what he didnt want and now i feel like i did it to myself We had a BIG argument the night b4 last about how i knew he didnt want a relationship and how he told me blah blah blah I was crying and with all the argument and tears I really had thought that our dating situation had came to an end but he said he didnt want it to. Now im sooooo sad b/c i know that we are not going anywhere and i want a relationship with him i dont find it within to end the whole thing...why didnt he? Because I always call him and all he said that I can be annoying at times...would stopping the phone calls do something for me on my end? i dont know what to do.... Please give some advise if any...thanks!!!